When it comes to cheating why are men considered Dogs and women get asked... oh why did you cheat? What did he do?

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Guy13 · Accepted Answer

The crux of women cheating is that in their own way they are working on their Self-Esteem. This feeling is determined by affirmation, desirability, validation, and is expressed in a greater Self-love/actualization.

So at the wine club, LGBT, or Feminist get together, as one of the often perceived "gay friend" who has a butch soccer friend that even the gay guys thinks she's my protector or guardian... one will hear:

What happened with (his name)? I know what is was for me !! "he totally disconnected me and he has rejected me or treated me like a no foreplay piece of meat since I had the children. F-er wouldn't even lube me" My name, why do you men do this to us?

Yeah... Yeah... me too, And? "not just physically; emotionally... like I was the enemy. I was left with nothing, I'm 36, kid starting college, and I have nothing but stay out the house suddenly loves to work man.

"your happier now in your current status?" yeah, I'm alive now and Andrea is my little me. Andrea sits right there.

mobiusforniner · Accepted Answer

Not so sure about this one coach... I like to joke about it sometimes on here but i cheated emotionally with a coworker. I ended the affair but it really screwed me and my family up.

It fared ok for me as far as reputation goes, as most peers and relatives say i made the right choice and was honest in confronting an awkward relationship. I continued as normal, one can't let a breakup impair their professionalism. For my ex lover, not so much. She was labeled a tramp, homewrecker, and slut. She ran away, switched shifts and office locations. She later quit her job of 15 years and moved out of state.

I feel terrible to tell you the truth. She is an amazing woman or else I wouldn't fall in love with her. So from my experience, women really get the unfair reputation in cheating and affairs, not men.

Aerissa_Jade · Accepted Answer

I've seen both sides, I've seen women get called sluts, and bitches, home wreckers.

Then men get excuses, that he had no choice because she didn't want to have sex or do what he wanted sexually so he had no choice but to go outside it. She wasn't meeting his needs, so he gets a pass and its her fault.

I've also seen men blamed for it, that he was emotionally abusing her and whatever reasons or excuses. How it is perceived, often has more to do with social circle and who's side someone is on for supporting them.

Her friends and family will support her and blame him, his friends and family will support him and blame her.

TrueConfection · Accepted Answer

I know a woman who cheated on her husband. She had a year long affair with his best friend. Her husband was devastated and ended his own life.

Anyhow, she still has most of her friends and fan base here in our little town. People make excuses for her saying that he spent too much time at work or the gym. It blows me away because we all knew he was madly in love with his wife.

ShadezMcgee · Answer

Double standards on the belief that it is the man's responsibility for the whole relationship and his woman's happiness. So if a woman steps out, the logic is because he failed to meet her needs. If a man steps out and cheats, he is a dog, unfaithful and has no loyalty, discipline or care about his wife because he just wants sex.

What the reality is, no matter who tries to justify it, if you cheat- you are a shitbag. There is no logic or mental gymnastics that can be summoned as a logical explanation behind why it happened.

Datboi65 · Answer

Because we live in a gyrocentric society.

Even though both cheating is bad, women cheating is worse for a couple of reasons.

A) Women almost never cheat randomly. It's a whole affair that they have going on, so it's of the first degree. They would search for your replacement before they leave you.

B) Women are bottom on the bed, so they can therefore carry another man's DNA. This forces the dad to take care of a child that he's not aware is not his.

Gentlemen you should never cheat, but if your woman cheats on you DO NOT EVER take her back.

Anonymous · Answer

Nobody does that but complete idiots. Man or woman cheating is wrong. I do think some women being emotional do try to justify it though. And guys certainly have no excuse! I don't care if she's bats*** crazy or not. Be a man! Dump her and then get you f*** on if you feel compelled to.

linka_pat307 · Answer

Because people (especially men) want women to be submitted to them or to be holy and never to do anything when with them no matter how much they suffer

Screenwriter · Answer

"That ole double standard has me... in its spell... That ole double standard that I.. know so well... So down I go... and round I go... In the spin.. feeling the... spin I'm in, with that ole double standard, called sex-ism!" Sung to tune of "That Old Black Magic".

I rest my case.

Anonymous · Answer

It is because most men who cheat are above a certain age, when they are married with women who are physically decaying, with whom they have children. So they ruin women and families this way. Before a certain age few men can cheat because they have almost no options. Women almost never make the first move with them so they cheat only if they initiate. Even if they do have options, most of them are not better than their girlfriends or wives, as women who would be with a taken guy are not high quality.

JessicaEarl · Answer

Gimme a break. These big over generalizing questions are so lame. Acting like it’s a rule that everyone acts a certain way and responds a certain way.

how about this: don’t cheat on your partner. Just dump them

misogynistic_pig · Answer

The woman evolved to have high neoteny, this means that people have less expectations of her and also allows her to evade the consequences of her actions through the use of childish justifications, to this we must add that the woman evolved to have histrionic behavior such as crying to manipulate people's feelings and generate compassion. I also have high neoteny and although in man it brings many disadvantages, I also have some benefits.

Lynnfriend · Answer

That depends on who your talking to. If it's a guy telling his male friends about it they call her a whore and they don't even care what he may or may not have done. However if he is talking to females they will want to know why and most likely not call her a whore depending on the situation. If it's the girl talking-to her girl friends then there mostly going to call him a dog. But if it's a guy she is talking to he will mostly likely not call him a dog.

Anonymous · Answer

Because typically men cheat from a lack of self restraint because she is not being physically available while women cheat because he’s not being emotionally available. 🤷‍♀️
not to say it can’t be swapped or that either is right; but for men it’s often about not being able to control themselves sexually. I know lots of women and have been there myself where we give ourselves to our man liberally… yet he still cheats. It’s total lack of self control. That’s why I wouldn’t ever trust a cheater around my kids; most likely he’s a sexual deviant and not to be trusted.
it’s wrong for anyone to cheat and I equally condemn it. But socially this is probably why it happens. I didn’t ask my friend why she was considering cheating…. I told her, “I’ll tell him if you do and you better not!” 😂 but we did have a discussion too.

WTFdivorce · Answer

It always has to be the man who screwed up in order for them to step out so this is why the question is asked. Empathy for the woman cheating happens a lot.

headphonekim · Answer

I don't know but it's terrible you get disliked so much. You have really good answers.

ThatCanucker · Answer

Men are blamed for both instances.

If a man cheats it is because he is evil and disgusting.

If a woman cheats the man is blamed for not giving her what she needs and forcing her to cheat.

It is a situation where women are not held accountable for their own actions.

msc545 · Answer

The conventional wisdom is that it is more in men's nature. I think it is equally likely for both genders. Women are just better at covering it up.

Tonita91996 · Answer

The woman is supposed to be the prize but men think they are missing out. Society holds a woman's body to more value to a man's. And they question women for cheating because getting all the pussy is awesome and getting all the dick as it sucking.

Miristheiss · Answer

They don't like accountability or accept accountability for their actions in most cases.  "I was drunk" "My friends were encouraging me to" "You weren't making me feel loved"

LiamJHayden · Answer

To some everything is always the man's fault. She can be toxic, and they'll blame him for not be "man enough" to handle her.

Anonymous · Answer

I suppose there is that much of a difference in values between having a penis or vagina in America.

Just look at OnlyFans rising revenue and you'll see what i mean.

What a time to be alive. That's how you know why men turn into transgirls.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Because women want to keep the appearance of being sweet little angels. So they have to look for an excuse to justify their actions.

cheetocandle · Answer

men are dogs always and forever for cheating. you obviously pushed us too far for us to do it.

Anonymous · Answer

Men cheat for sexual gratification, because they are selfish bastards. Women cheat because they are emotionally deprived, because their men are selfish bastards. That's how it is, right?

DizzyDesii · Answer

I assume you’re speaking for some majority. But certainly not everyone gets asked that so its not something i think about

Cassie2002 · Answer

Cause it always your fault. I don't know it’s society.

cth96190 · Answer

The reason is an inherent gynocentric hatred of men. It has been my experience that females are far more likely to cheat.

Keishio · Answer

I think it's subjective. If you're a man you think you have it worse and if you're a woman you probably think something similar. In reality it probably just boils down to the individual situation

wafflemakerman69 · Answer

We always get the short end of the stick when it comes to cheating. Just how it is dude.

HuskyJ · Answer

I _think_ both genders turn to being like angry mammals if forced to be apart or with people other than each other. Now, whether it is a good thing to be called a dog - I think not?

Shark_61695 · Answer

Because <sweeping generalisation> How does the nursery rhyme go? Slugs and snails and puppy dog tails...

Anonymous · Answer

Good question, I wanna hear what the FEMALES have to say

boobliker · Answer

But? what is cheating? if just looking is a crime these days

Anonymous · Answer

women cheating is really no no. men cheating is fine

ManHater · Answer

That's why you have men blowing the brain out of cheating women.

Guardian45 · Answer

I don't know. Cuz sometimes it's the women who cheat.

LemiaOfThunder · Answer

Honestly I don't know.

Chazmatazz269 · Answer

Great question. I’ve long wondered this myself.

Mansearching · Answer

Who knows

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