People who have cheated on their partners, why did you cheat?

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ells002 · Accepted Answer

I had cheated on my ex of 4 years. Although I feel guilty about doing so, it led to me being able to leave him and feel happier overall. I was very unhappy in the relationship for over a year and I do still love him but he treated me horribly and didn’t even think of me as an option in his life and could go days without talking to me and would threaten to leave me over little things. When I cheated, it was unexpected and with a friend of ours for years. He gave me all the time in the world and has never been rude with me and shares all of the same interests and values and goals in life and things just happened.

I wouldn’t ever condone cheating but I did because I was miserable and in a position where I couldn’t leave my ex.

petitedollbabee · Accepted Answer

I wanted out of the relationship but he wouldn’t let me break up with him. I tried many times. But every time, he would grab me by the arm and take me inside his house and make me talk it out with him and convince me not to leave. Or he would show up at my parents house (I was 17 at the time) and demand that I stay with him. So I felt trapped. We’d been together for 3 years and I just wanted it to end. I cheated on him so that he would let me break up with him. People have asked me “why didn’t you just lie about cheating on him instead of actually doing it?”. But I’m not a liar. I told him I cheated on him, he cried, and then we broke up and he didn’t harass me to stay with him.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Because of failures in our marriage. For us, its was creating boundaries with other relatives and learning to support each other. I tried for 7 years to tell my wife i was struggling but she didn't stand up. So when this other woman came along who understood and validated me, I gravitated towards her. Not a good excuse but thats what happened. It started out as friends and became very complicated. I kept defending it. My wife and I saw our marriage falling apart, so we decided to identify the problems and work to overcome. She stood up and made changes and i dumped my girlfriend.

Lifes a learning experience.

exitseven · Accepted Answer

I had a girlfriend that I was with for 4 years. She lived halfway across the country. We only saw each other 2 or 3 times a year. I met a girl at a party and we hung out the whole night. Afterwards she asked me back to her dorm room. I thought we were just going to hang out and talk which we did. Suddenly she asks me if I wanted yo have sex. I was a virgin and figured it might be a long time before I ever had a chance like that and there was absolutely no way my girlfriend could find out.

hello123456789 · Answer

I have never cheated because I would feel horrible betraying my partner. However, I know many men who have cheated because their girlfriends/wives withhold sex from them for various reasons. This leads to toxic relationships. Men primarily cheat because women weaponize sex against them.

RingOfFire · Answer

They say that a man is only as faithful as his options. It may well be true.

I used to cheat when I was a teen and in my 20s. I had so many girls who wanted to be with me I didn't even think about it. I thought it was completely normal. I was spoiled and took them for granted.

When I hit my 30s I woke up and realized how hollow that life was. I regretted what I did but didn't blame myself because I was just immature. I never cheated again. Yes, you CAN grow out of it.

worldscolide · Answer

I have never cheated. I have been cheated on. Her "Excuse" Was that she was a woman, that its her body her choice, and that i had better accept it or i am a sexist pig. People, male or female, who cheat are unworthy of respect. they are narcissists, Not human, They exist without empathy, without a soul. They are the definition of monsters, Evil.

Mamaliv · Answer

Because I was done in the relationship, I was pushed beyond the point of return and once I cheated I knew for sure there was no going back and I ended the relationship. I also was on again off again with a man and I’d slept with other people in attempt to get him to realize I was done, harsh but he had a hard time accepting I was done.

sheenagwapa · Answer

my soulmate is busy fantasibg women after women. he is obsessed with his bestfriend. i keep tellinh him i am his soulmate but doesn't believe. i used to cut off myself from friends especially male friends because of my love for my ex partner. thats not gonna happen again. i am a grown woman and i know what i am doinh. i know my limits

ta-ra · Answer

That's a great question, I personally have never cheated but I always wondered why people do.

KrazyCatKit · Answer

It was a heat of the moment thing - I also was unhappy with that guy and i wanted a change.

MikeyObrien · Answer

I once accidentally cheated and she never found out. We were a year into the relationship and I found out she considered watching having friends of the opposite gender cheating. So when she found out I was still talking to my ex (not sexually) she flipped.

Sasha0426 · Answer

Cheaters won’t admit it but they do it because they’re cowards. And they know they’re cowards.

Anonymous · Answer

One of her friends told me she was fucking this guy who come over when I was at classes. It made sense cuz she didn't want to have sex when I got home. It worked out cuz her friend was really sexy and wanted to hook up with me, so we did. It was awesome. I broke up with girlfriend a little while afterwards cuz I met a gorgeous girl at the pet clinic. I realized then I gotta dump the girlfriend.

BigDog1989 · Answer

I'v enevr cheated, but The only reason, the only LEGITIMATE reason, to cheat, is to try and get away with it I GUARAN FUCKING TEE IT Every other reason they give you, is fodder

inhua · Answer

polygamy and hypergamy are the only reasons why people cheat

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Boredom sexually, feel sexy and wanted its fun risky

Anonymous · Answer

Because of the not so golden rule. "Do unto others before you get done unto".

You know she going to. It's just a matter of her having the time and opportunity. So I just beat her to the punch that's all.

Anonymous · Answer

To see if my partner at the time had any emotion, I was doing everything and he was so shut off.

DreamLife7 · Answer

I've never cheated but the man who cheated on you did it because he doesn't like you

BunBun369 · Answer

They were in prison. 🤷🏽‍♀️🙆🏽‍♀️🤦🏽‍♀️

Anonymous · Answer

No matter what they answer don't let that make you believe that it's okay to cheat. It's NEVER okay to cheat.

whistlingwh0res · Answer

Opportunities

Aiko_E_Lara · Answer

Lol who exactly is gonna be honest about that?

coffeeeholic · Answer

Because they don't have emphaty

jujus · Answer

Never cheated on anyone but I have been cheated on

Cheerfull009 · Answer

Cheating is very common, but I avoid

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