A random really hot girl in your area. Imagine you DM her. Do only the best best guys get replies and love back?
I’ve never done it but I do have everything going for me
Do you just have to meet girls in person and impress them that way instead of messaging random girls?
I remember when I was in university I liked 2 girls. I messaged them on Facebook. I told one girl I like her. Her guy and girls friend group came laughing about it. And one of them told me don't talk to my friend. I didn't like the drama as they tried to make it look like I am harassing her which clearly wasn't true. She faked being engaged and only got married in 2021.
I said fuck it. Then the other girl I tried to talk to in person was also from same group. This time, I didn't even tell her anything and again same fuck and additional thing is the guy told me I knock on girls doors on Facebook. His exact words. So, I lost interest in talking to girls especially girls in my own country. So, I found this third girl, she was more beautiful than anyone I knew. She was intelligent too and family oriented compared to rich bitch and the pseudo feminazi who I only liked talking because I thought she would be more straight lol.
Too bad we couldn't be married as she had her reasons. May be she used me may be not but I respect her.
Anyhow, I then fell into depression due to heartbreak so I made this wonderful wonderful women from Russia. Both of them were like a guardian angel 😇. They were both married and 15-20 years older then me )). And I used to talk to them till the Russo Ukraine war. Then I lost contact with them. Now I have another Russian woman who is lovely.
I can assure you if you want to have a second mom the Slav Women is there for you.
Anyway, I think if you want to be happy then just find a Russian or at least Eastern European women, they age fast but I assure you she will be good to your children, she will take care of you like your mom, may be even better, and she will not leave you in hard times if you give her hope. Bad things as I said they age fast, get fat and fade in beauty :'(.
I just love you both my dear guardian angels. I hope you are not in trouble. I think about you and pray to God for your safety and happiness 🙏.
Well, after trying to talk to TWO girls, I can see why you gave up!
@Paul_in_Indy I didn't give up lol. I just stopped talking to my batch girls. I instead focused my energy on finding long term friends. And then things started to connect. I found a Chinese woman who was slightly old otherwise I did have gone to bed and married her. She visited me in my country too. And a Turk girl. She was poisoned by Pakistani girls that all Pakistani men want is to get in your pants.
Anyhow, I am still in contact with them all. I don't care what anyone thinks I am happy. I will marry a normal looking girl but I really don't want to lose them over and try to find things from start
It depends on why you are DMing them. But since you made your intent clear.
Yes, trying to form a sexual/romantic relationship with a stranger in general, is dumb.
And no, it does not matter who you are. No matter who you are there will be women who like you, women who hate you, and women who are indifferent.
The odds of any of those don't matter though, because for nearly everyone, their perfect match is rare anyway. Even the most popular guys still only have a very tiny percentage of compatible women (not to be confused with women who want him but aren't compatible, as even a million of those women still count as zero in my opinion).
That said, DMing strangers for any other reason is fine, maybe you liked something they did, maybe you think they would be a good friend, maybe you or they have a job offer, maybe you have a question, maybe you want another for your game lobby, etc.
After being best friends for a while, then it makes sense to persue a relationship (if compatible)
It's not stupid if you're a hot guy looking to get laid. If you're a normal guy, then up your game and go out into the real world. A normal guy with good-game can charm the pants off a snake. I've told this story before, but I was at this hotel piano bar. There was a cute young gal sitting all alone. None of the hot guys had the stones to approach her. So some old guy asks her to dance. It made her day. She was hoping for that. After a few dances, he takes her by the hand and leads her up to his room. All the hot guys' jaws dropped. Why is life so unfair? lol
Dm is fine, I talk to most people until they are a creep. Don't DM dick pics are try to get sex that way. Better to meet in person for that, but if you just looking for someone to talk to, or a friend... its all good.
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Only the guys she would be interested in get a reply back. Many guys assume since they ain't this or that they won't get a reply that is why they never bother and cling to that self fulling prophecy. So it's not stupid if it's genuine but if guys are just copy and pasting messages and randomly sliding into DM's then that is dumb.
I always thought DM'ing some one seemed a bit desperate or risky. I mean I guess it works if that's your thing. I mean the worse that can happen is that she ignores you or doesn't reply.
Just seems super hard to impress someone in a DM, and elevate the conversation from hello to a date. You'd be better off in person in my opinion.
On every platform I've been on I've gotten replies back from 'hot' girls lots of times. It's only Instagram and the dating sites where they hold back as a power dynamic for dating or only wanting attention. But on sites like these it's pretty common to talk to 'hot' girls.
Do not listen to the girls on here, DMing a girl does NOT work. I repeat, it does NOT work.
Now let me tell you why. Even if you are who you say you are, there are other dudes just like you or better who are probably talking to this chick. If not, then she may hold out to see if she can get better. Instagram and social media gives these women power over men, because of exposure and variety and women crave attention.
The same women in this website who tell you to DM, they know they won't reply to a DM from Instagram, that's just reality. Doesn't matter if it was thoughtful, polite or risky (unless you happen to be James Bond level of charming). Even then, that's rare.
I like to think that everything is possible of course, but there are rules and exceptions. The rule is you get rejected, the exception is that it works. If you want to increase your PROBABILITY (percentage, which is different from possibility) you need to be proactive and go out into the real world, since there are a lot of things missing when you text someone like tone, non-verbal communication and body language.
But hey, if after everything I said you still want to give it a shot, then that's up to you.
I wouldn’t say it is stupid. Most girls like guys taking initiative and making the first move, me included. However based on my own experience I wouldn’t really take a guy I met online too seriously. Guess I’ve met too many duds and assholes but I personally hate the form of communication. I’d rather meet a person in person. If the girl is from your town. Find out where she likes to go or frequent. Run into her a few times and be polite and eventually ask her on a date. If she says no than she either is seeing someone, or it wasn’t meant to be or she could just be a snob. In conclusion dm is not stupid. However you’ve gotten a comment from a person who doesn’t like meeting potential partners over messages.
Waste of time. Majority of those girls just want free validation and followers on social media. That's why they put them in dating app profiles.
Your best bet would be to meet women in public. You are just sitting in a sea of DMs with other dudes that did the same thing.
Why would that be stupid? Just follow the single most important piece of advice you could ever hear about talking with women; make sure that your only objective in talking with them is to enjoy the conversation.
She’ll sense the fact you aren’t trying to get something from her and most likely want to keep the dialogue going.
Well it's not something I've ever done, but I'd wager it's not a bad way to introduce yourself to someone, perhaps get to know them- just not a good way to go from "stranger" to "sex" in one step.
No, DM's are a great way to easily connect with someone. I've noticed guys who were frequently messaging me and in some *rare* cases, felt a connection. So don't be shy and message that girl you like.
I only add people I went to highschool with on my Facebook. So the guys the message me always start normal conversations. "Hey (name) how have you been?" So I just reply normally. Yes they want a date with me but since they replied normally, I reply normally to them. If they replied with "hey sexy" I would be repulsed. And tell them off.
It can work. Though would be wise to check to see if she's single before trying anything.
I’d assume the kind of guy who could get a date by DMing women on Instagram. Is the kind of guy who has no need to DM women and doesn’t bother.
Yes because nothing beats talking to someone in person. This whole shit of waiting for a response is stupid. At least you will see it right away in person if she is interested in you by her immediate reaction.
Its not dumb to dm for the first time but its dumb to keep dming that person if they seem uninterested
It never worked for me.
In contrast in real life it was way easier.
I would say it is better for women to approach. Your job is just making yourself approachable.
Unless you have a blue check or are a super model it’s pointless
pretend to be a girl doesn’t even have to be an attractive girl and watch how many Dms you get
social media has over inflated the female ego
You might get a reply back, but you are a fool if you expect love.
DM'ing girls just keeps inflating their already oversized egos. Don't waste your time, your not going to get to fuck her.
Finally some good advice from you. Exactly! Don’t creep on women in their DMs. Unless we want to talk to you, we don’t like it!
@Subarugirl Don't "creep" on women in their DM's? Come on, if she finds him physically attractive he can "creep" all he wants. If he is average/below average attractiveness, this is when she gets offended.
You’re finally starting to understand the difference between wanted and unwanted advances. Good job!
@Subarugirl I always knew the difference.
Lol no you haven’t, because no one has always known. That is learned behavior.
@Subarugirl it's common sense it doesn't need to be learned other men just happen to be weird af and some are not.
@Subarugirl lol no not everyone Is born retarded every regular human is born to know boundaries because we have our OWN. Which brings us to COMMON SENSE, therefore men who lack are clearly special needs and weird. Do not compare real men who actually get women to losers lol
@Subarugirl this is why it's important kids are to be put around other kids lol you can't tell me to look up how to be a human 101, that's just not right, do you not have boundaries? I was never taught to sock anyone out who got in mine but if someone does they will get punched. So me being that way it becomes common sense that obviously I wouldn't do that to anyone else especially a women.
Not everything is taught That's like saying we were all taught to commit crimes when that wasn't a learned behaviour most criminals just do shit and lack impulsive control, can't blame the parents or society.
@Subarugirl explain to me As a human how if I decided to rob someone right now it's learned behavior? When humans have been doing this before tv, and newspapers existed before even the medieval days, explain how that is learned?
@Fuentes
Danish-German-American psychologist Erik Erikson (1902-1994) presents us with a psychosocial theory of a whole of 8 developmental stages.
These stages are also characterized by having either a positive or negative outcome.
One of the determining factors in the development of the psychology of a child is support, encouragement and accept by the immediate surroundings, especially the parents.
Like in many of the other theories of child psychology, each stage has to be successfully completed before the child can move on to the next stage.
@Fuentes 0-1 years - Trust vs. Mistrust - Strength: Hope:
The infant is completely dependent on his or her parents to met his or her needs. If the child is met with consistent and sensitive responsiveness, the child will learn that people in general and the world can be trusted.
If the child feels he or she cannot rely on his or her parents, there is a risk of developing general mistrust in people.
2-3 years - Autonomy vs. Shame & Doubt - Strength: Will and Self-control:
As the child grows, he or she becomes more capable of doing things by himself or herself. If parents encourage this independent behavior in a successful manner, the child develops healthy autonomy and a positive self image.
It the parents make too many demands on the child and the child consistently fails - or if the parents make fun of the child's efforts, the child may develop shame and starts doubting his or her own skills.
4-6 years - Initiative vs. Guilt - Strength: purpose:
The child is now developing a firmer sense of purpose and goal orientation in his or her actions. The child start planning actions more and judging them as well.
And if the child doesn't succeed in his or her endeavors, Erikson says the child may feel guilt, which is a new emotion.
@Fuentes 7-12 years - Industry vs. Inferiority - Strength: Competence:
The child's abilities and skills are still developing rapidly and now the child is capable of putting more perseverance and focused effort into his or her tasks.
If the child is supported positively in this, the child is likely to develop more self confidence which again makes the child want to learn more. If not, the child may feel a sense of inferiority and failure.
13-19 years - Identity vs. Role confusion - Strength: Fidelity:
The child is more concerned now with who he or she is in relation to others and the community: "How do people see me?" The young person may play with different identities and roles, which may lead to identity confusion but it may also help establish a sense of belonging.
@Subarugirl The mistress of cut-and-paste strikes again.
Thanks honey, but he knows that this is cut at pasted, it's easier for him since he generally struggles with links. But it is kind of you to take the time to try and explain it to him.
@Subarugirl yes ofc as a infant to a mere child you need your parents for certain learning aspects of developments BUT no your parents do not need to teach you how to rob, fir you to rob infact think about it if I was taught how to do it the correct way I wouldn't end up in jail, same as most serial killers wouldn't be caught if there was a right way to be taught.
So I think do to lack of impulse you have all kinds of retards running around and robbing or killing people. I still don't see it, they're some kids who get bullied and others who don't allow it and swing back that is not a learned behaviour because nobody growing up ever told me to fight, I just knew I'm swinging if your in my space lol other kids are punks growing up and let themselves get punked and bullied even though they seen tons of other fights lol so it can't be a learned behaviour. I think it's common sense that me as a man i would never get up in a lady's space uninvited. Because it's plain weird & they're just some plain asa weirdos out there haha you can't be taught to be a weirdo some people are just weird hahaha
@Fuentes And to rob or intentionally kill someone you have to learn how to do it in order to do it. Everything that you do, apart from your parasympathetic nervous system or reflex is a learned behavior. To hit someone, you first have to learn how to control your arms. To rob someone, you have to learn that you can and how take something that is not yours. To bully someone, you have to learn how to do or say things that intentionally hurt someone else.
Everything you do, apart from things like breathing, is something that you had to learn how to do.
@Subarugirl so how does our justice system work with criminals either your guilty or not guilty you can't get up on the stand abd say someone else taught you this & that. Nobody will hear that because it becomes a YOU and only YOU problem when the gavel comes down.
Nobody needs to learn how to rob, they do it from lack of impulse control & if there hungry enough they'll do it.
@Fuentes Because you are responsible for your actions regardless of what you learn.
All behavior is learned. Well, if you break it down, you have to learn to control your limbs to pick something up. You learn from consequences, weather those are natural consequences, or consequences inflicted from someone else.
An infant can't rob anyone because they have to learn the skills and motor control to be able to physically take something. They have to learn enough to understand the concept of what theft is.
@Subarugirl so who teaches a person to be a wacked out weirdo themselves or others?
@Subarugirl yes but who teaches a weirdo to be a weirdo, cause that's never really taught?
@Subarugirl yes and through experiance you clearly have common sense to not be a damn weirdo it's literally common Sense
@Subarugirl lol I will let you have your opinion but I don't think being a weirdo is taught, some people are just plain weird & there's no explanation for it.
On the one hand, if you don't try you won't know. On the other hand, if she's getting 5000 hits per day, your time might be better spent elsewhere.
DMing women is a huge waste of time. They have so many other guys in there the chances you will be one of the few they respond to is extremely low.
DMing or meeting in person here would be liable to be classed as harassment or stalking and worthy of serious jail time
The law is the law, I don't argue on the small stuff
In person or not at all. Dont care how hot they look online.
Random chick's yeah especially if they ain't dtf from the gate.
I don't respond to anyone in my DM's. Most are creeps.
If I like you I will respond if not I won't
@Aliya890 Last time i checked I am real lol
i hate it when guy's DM me, period
Yes, don't do that.
I picked option 1 because it's true.
Why would it be stupid?
Is DM’ing guys stupid?
Unwanted yes
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