How do I behave around the taken woman I am attracted to?

[Anonymous]

I am attracted to a co-worker who is in a long-term relationship and I asked her out before I knew about her relationship. We haven't gone out anymore after she told me about it. I respect her relationship and only expressed my interest in a very subtle and polite way. However, I feel I am a bit dishonest since I talk to her on a weekly basis without expressing my feelings, but at the same time expressing them wouldn't change anything.

[Guy13]

Like a gentleman and not some squeamish boy-man.

[Finchie40]

Out of respect for her relationship you are best to limit your friendship with her and back off , How would you feel if some co worker was trying to bang your girl if you were in a relationship? Also it’s best not to get involved with anyone at work, It leads to drama and can lead to you losing your job , so you are best to back off and find someone else , I have slept with married women before that I didn’t know were married , yes the sex was amazing but the reality of it was so fucked up when I found out she was married , I felt so bad for her husband whether they were going through hard times or not that was none of my business and I felt like such an asshole cuz I pictured myself being that husband and my wife doing that to me , it is so wrong in every aspect , so when I have sex with a girl that I find out she is cheating on her partner with me I lose all respect for her , I am not going to commit to a girl that can cheat period she will eventually do to you what she did to him , so again you are best to stay away out of respect for her marriage or relationship , make her realize how much of a pos she is being and help her that way , selfishness is the biggest relationship killer and sadly there are a lot of selfish people in this world , they will never experience true love if they do not know how to remove selfishness period , My ex wife had an affair with a co worker and now her life is complete shit Karma is a real thing

[Asker]

I did back off, of course. I just thought I am hiding my feelings so I am not honest enough. It's fine, she works in another office and we don't interact much. Two of my colleagues are married and they are fine. They don't interact much. She is not a pos, she might have thought it was a coffee meeting between colleagues. Although I emphasised before that I wanted to go out with her to get to know her better. She told me about her long-term boyfriend at some point. There was no obvious flirting.

[Finchie40]

Then that’s cool it sounds like she was just being nice for work reasons and by telling you she was in a relationship was basically letting you know not to take things the wrong way