How do you court a woman you like?

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MrOracle · Accepted Answer

Early dates are all about us being able to talk to each other and get to know each other - and while there's going to be some small talk, I mostly mean getting to know each other's morals, values, and life-goals. Those things need to be discussed early on - as boring or tedious as they might sometimes be to talk about - and that means you have to have lots of talking time.

So, I try to plan at least one fun activity (my girlfriend has discovered darts at the pool hall, but we've also been bowling a couple of times, and we've seen some live music), some food or snack, and also some pure talking time in those early dates.

Sometimes you start hitting red flags right from the start, and you never get beyond the first or second date, but sometimes you get lucky and you find someone who you match well with, and you WANT to keep spending time with them. I don't get all that romantic until we've been on at least 3 dates, because I want to make sure I want to invest that kind of energy into her, and if I don't, I don't want to mislead her. If we make it that far, then I do start ramping up the romance gradually.

It's usually pretty obvious by the third date if the girl wants the DATE more, or if she's more concerned about spending time with ME more - you want the latter, not the former, but if you can find that, then it's definitely time to be more romantic.

OlderAndWiser · Accepted Answer

When I was still dating, I would ask her to dinner at a nice restaurant. At the end of the date, if it felt right, I would give her a good night kiss. I would text her about 30 minutes later to make sure she arrived home safely, to tell he that I had a great time, and that I would call her again soon. And then I would call the next day or two days later.

A second date would be like a repeat of the first date. I was aware that I was a stranger to this woman and she needed to spend a bit of time around me before she felt safe, so we would meet at the restaurant for the second. This may sound boring, but this is how it works for my generation.

By the third date, I would ask about picking her up at her house. The date might be a concert, go to the zoo, or the beach, depending on the weather. Somewhere between the third and fifth date, I would tell her that I dated in hopes of finding a long term partner and the best way to get to know someone is to date them exclusively, so. . . I was prepared to date her exclusively if she felt the same way, and if she didn't, she would tell me. We either stopped dating or I agreed to give her more time before she mad her decision.

Curiositykilledcat7 · Accepted Answer

Building a connection involves being genuine, respectful, and showing interest in her thoughts and feelings. Plan thoughtful dates, listen actively, and communicate openly to create a meaningful connection.

Pinay_ako · Accepted Answer

always make time to see me every day showers me with little surprises like my favourite coffee eager to know more about me  invites me to hang out and spend time together

Avicenna · Answer

Talk to her, make a connection and then find ways to spend time together.

GuyAnswersGirls123 · Answer

I just asked her out very casually. Then on dates, hold hands, talk a lot, try to deeply connect. I always connected the emotional and physical together so I never tried to kiss a woman unless we were deeply connecting, except one time (with my wife).

With my wife on our first date, I was so confused because we were close friends for so long. So we were connecting emotionally but we always did that as just friends, so I couldn't figure out when I'm supposed to kiss her or touch her. Like usually I would generally reach out a hand to hold, or touch her knee, or kiss, when she was laughing and smiling and we were deeply connecting through the conversation. Yet with her, I was so perplexed since we always did that so I didn't know if that was my cue to make a move or not.

So at the end of a relatively uneventful date with her, I was in the elevator and thought, "Screw it!" and jammed the emergency stop button. Then I walked up to her and kissed her very gently. She kissed me back, so, phew, that gamble worked out! That's the only time I kissed a woman out of the blue like that.

Anonymous · Answer

I tap them on the shoulder, giggle, and then run away.

Or I avoid contact and act very shy, and fumble all over my words (the ones I can merely squeak out). One of these days, the plan is going to work like gangbusters.

Well, I ask them out for coffee or something small and simple. We meet for the first few dates at least... maybe in a few weeks I drive, or she does. We go on some dates. We just spend time together. One relationship, the girl often came to my side of town, though I would have done the same for her. We do things for each other. Sex (or even just making out) is not a part of the equation early on, though yes, attraction is a part of it. One girl, we met some of each other's family (They hated me (for some reason), and mine hated her (though they would have hated ANYONE). I just try to take each date a day at a time. I've tried a little affection if the date is going well (or I think it is)... holding hands, gently bump into her, hands on the back through the doors I open for them, etc. But this has not always gotten a good response, so...

Cody2004 · Answer

I remember I did like somebody in grade 8 I feel kind of silly about it now though I didn't buy her flowers on her birthday. I got rejected a few times by her. Looking back on that experiencing that stuff now Jesus Christ I must have been annoying 😂 I feel so bad about it now

CalmUntilAbused · Answer

It depends on multiple factors, most significantly on whether she likes me back. If she does not... I guess it's best to give up, sanity is in shortage these days. If she does... Well, if a woman came to like me of all people, she'd most definitely be the one and only for me. Thus, I would put all my strengths to good use. I would attempt to meet up with her as frequently as possible, trying different locations for the meet-ups in order to find out what kind of environments she's comfortable with, which ones she likes best, and which ones make her uneasy. Other than that... I'd just be myself. I'm not a good actor, so it's no use pretending to be someone I'm not.

Sun_Kim-Ai · Answer

First things first, I try to learn more about her interests and hobbies, likes and dislikes, etc.

No sense presenting her with a bundle of roses and then find out that she doesn't like flowers or worse, she's allergic to them! Second thing, talk with her and try to engage her on said interests and likes - if we share them that's a big plus, otherwise if I'm not familiar with them I express my interest and listen to her talking about them and maybe even ask her to explain them to me. Genuine interest goes a long a way.

Then set up dates and outings to know each other better. If there's chemistry, things usually evolve by themselves.

aceleon · Answer

being prepared before hand.

i either learn as much about her as i can either from researching or observations or from her female friends (which i either befriend myself or already was been friends)

or i have girls play matchmaker for me.

so either way when i was makingmy moves i was already well informed and have been talked about highly and i already knew she was interested or not in me.

there isa thin line between idiocity and courage, only a fool goes to hunt without being prepared.

RavVid · Answer

I think it depends on how you interact. Some things feel right with one girl but possibly not with another. Some girls are very susceptible to sweet nothings and gestures and others are not so susceptible.

If I am keen i would carefully choose a cafe that will impress her, possibly expensive, as a gesture of my interest.

At a point I am likely to give her flowers and repeat that. That is something of a character test in fact. Is she appreciative each time? A fair part of courting is sussing out the girl. At first all you know is how she looks and her manner but nothing of her character.

When you take her to a low end cafe she could be disgruntled or just as happy.

JacobJordan · Answer

Pretty much everything the "alpha top tier men" say not to do lol. One of the first dates my wife and I had was a picnic in the woods. I made all the food a little salad got a blanket and a basket got her a bouquet of flowers, opened the door for her etc. We are now married meanwhile those same "alpha top tier men" are single or stringing girls together like they making chainmail. Typically I find that the best advice comes from those who are at the finish line not those who can't even get the race started

AmeerX · Answer

😌 I don't know how but words seem to come naturally when I love a woman. It's so weird and I am grateful whenever I talk to a woman they almost always love my way of words. And I will be honest it takes two to tango and I am attracted to humble type of woman. Just they act weak and let me feel in charge. I enjoy it too. It's so sweet and beautiful when women do it.

Honestly, I am weary of sweet talkers though. Only problem I am attracted to women in their mature age and they are always attracted to me 😞. Only problem I want to have children of my own.

OfMiceandMen · Answer

I try to plan things for when we have time together that allows us enjoy what little time we have on the weekends and occasionally during the week. It usually involves getting outside then snuggling at one of our places and winding down. On the weekend I may suggest heading to the pub for a beverage and/or grabbing a late dinner. I sometimes bring flowers, chocolate, and I draw/make cards that tell her how important she is to me.

VV3ZZY123 · Answer

Apparently I say something awkward and run away because I donno what to do.

exitseven · Answer

I tracked her down and called her on the phone and asked her out. She just accepted a job out of state and was leaving in a couple of days so she said no. I ran into her a month later and we decided that maybe we would try to date. She only live a 5 hour ride away. Maybe 4 and a half if I really pushed it.

elizamichale1 · Answer

Be caring Give little surprise gifts Be funny Be there for her Actually try to understand her Make her feel special particularly around other girls

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Courtship is often considered a waste of time & effort.  However, to me, it's treasured.

Anonymous · Answer

I show her interest and I guess so nice things for her. Depending on if she appreciates it, and it isn’t one sided. Where I’m doing everything and she isn’t courting me back. I usually tend to move on.

It’s unfortunate the men (and women) who are in one sided relationships and they just think that’s the way it’s supposed to be. Maybe their mom yelled at their dad a lot and he just started giving in and happy wife happy life.

Wwwyzzerdd · Answer

If there's one thing dating taught me it's to stop paying attention to the person I find attractive and give some attention to the person that finds me attractive. That other pretty person DGAF about me anyway so it's a waste of time and energy on them. There's always someone else who does find me attractive and throughout my life I should have focused on them.

bobby_bush_eater · Answer

Nowadays Idek. Everything for me in the past has been HS/college/military drunken and or drug filled behaviors of passion that eventually led to something.

Now that I don't want to do that anymore I'm honestly having a hard time, especially since I think I want to wait until marriage to have sex again. I know most girls won't be pleased with that.

alexandraa1 · Answer

I've seen sooo many different approaches but many can work and be really cute after all!! Some guys are more romantic, others are funny, others just have a great aura. But there's one fundamental thing that should never be missing (and I know it's sad but it needs to be said!) and that's respect. If a man isn't respectful he doesn't even have to try!

dragoblack · Answer

Get to know them and liatwn to their passions. Be the person they feel comfortable around that they can open up to without feeling judgement. If we click, we click. if we don't, then friendship.
Things don't have to be super complicated when it comes to romance and the best relationships, are best friends with romantic benefits.

SunnyRS · Answer

Like - "You, me, let's do this."

No no, just kidding.
Depends on the woman actually. Some like something extravagant others prefer simpler one.
My preference is simpler one, like a coffee date and letting my emotions in front of her there in a calm manner.
I am not very romantic, sorry.

itsclearlynicholas · Answer

I'd rather she court me. I'd rather have my foot off the accelerator so to speak for a change rather than all the time hitting on women, 'bout time a classy lady, no tramp, hits on me without a fist lol 😂😆 ✊👊 to me lol hahaha

Xia1994 · Answer

I never court womens I like only mens you see 🥺

Anonymous · Answer

Let her know I’m interested. See if she reciprocates. If she doesn’t, well on to the next

electromagnetic · Answer

He bought me coffee at a coffee shop and now I sleep in his bed.

Nikki1989 · Answer

The timeless old-fashioned ways still work the best.

Whitewulf · Answer

Well for starters, I definitely would not take her to court! That can’t leave a good impression. 😉

Drew-1990 · Answer

Trying to be casual but come off super awkward because I'm scared to death

SolitarySolace · Answer

Don’t. 😂 I mean, if I come across a girl I like I just ignore them. They’re most definitely crazy and it wouldn’t work it anyway. I’d just give them a mental 🖕🏻

genericname85 · Answer

i don't. fuck that. the dating world is a shit show. i'm not mgtow or something. i do want a woman in my life... but man the dating market is fucked. i'll rather stay away.

Squatting_Slav · Answer

Set dates to have fun hang out and hookup when she gets in touch with me, listen to aans focus on her, let her come to me rather than me chasing her as I'm a busy guy

Anonymous · Answer

You don't. Build attraction and allow her to know you. You know your own worth so there is no need to impress. She is not needed, she is desired.

andreasderjuengere · Answer

I'll make arrangements with her outside of court :) For the time being I'll of course give her opportunity to figure out what a nice guy I am.

Kristierose · Answer

With class and always treat her like a QUEEN AND ALWAYS TREAT HER LIKE A LADY

MysticDevice · Answer

By just talking to her and becoming friends first. Then get flirty and eventually we'll get together or we won't. It takes time.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Well howdy there young lady! You sure look like a ray of sunshine in these parts. I was a thinkin we could take a walk past the saloon and over to the general store.

AngryCarl · Answer

I follow them around like an abandoned puppy.

GoodGuyBreakingBad · Answer

Just keep staring at her but I always blush.

justabuddy · Answer

Like most I take it slow. It's usually not that different than being friends, it's easier if things don't work out. The type of love most people are looking for takes time and effort, rushing it does no good.

handsomelad70 · Answer

You cater to her needs, and behave like a gentleman while letting her know that, she's a girl, you're a boy, so you're after her body.

Bklynbadboy12 · Answer

I just make myself available and spend time quality time getting to know her. I make that time all about here and just spoil her alittle and see where it goes

boobliker · Answer

softly softly at first then make sure she knows you want her as a partner and friend too.

Alex-Snow · Answer

I try to take it slow and get to know her as a person first and go from there

CozyCoffin · Answer

All roads lead to rejection, so I don't know any more.

Yannae · Answer

I ask her out on a date in the same week. If I know her better, I'll serenade.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

Elefino. I'd love for someone to explain the secret to me! Haha

Sonorous · Answer

with all my might right before I give up

lildkman1010 · Answer

Honestly talking hanging out then dating and becoming sexual but most of the time I get dumped

RossyBoi · Answer

I wouldn't court her, I would stay just friends with her.

Hispanic-Cool-Guy · Answer

Not sure. For me everything just happened naturally when I got my girl.

krin_m · Answer

Be respectful, honest and upfront about how you feel about her!

Anonymous · Answer

I wine and dine her and take the time to get to know her.

MotherEarth2020 · Answer

I have my husband scare them

alice55 · Answer

By worshiping me and being possessive XD

strateguy632 · Answer

time together 'n flowers

Dongie · Answer

I don't court

Phoenix98 · Answer

Traditionally.

LaurenM1997 · Answer

Take her on a date

RingOfFire · Answer

Send dick pics? ¯\_(ツ)_/¯

JayBones · Answer

Buy her off her father

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