How can I attract a woman at this point?

[Anonymous]

I (25M) have a decent amount of ambition in life, and I’m not that bad looking. I am going back to school so I can get a real job and I figure I may as well try to date while I’m there. But, I am still a virgin. Here’s the thing. This year I asked out 13 women. Last year it was 11. Before that, I was taking a break from dating women for 2 years and tried again when I turned 24. Always met with a rejection when they learn I’ve never done the deed. They just outright stop talking to me. I try to take the time to get to know them for about a month or so before asking them out, and I don’t ask out every women I meet either. It’s gotten to the point that the campus admin is trying to make me stop, only because of the large number. They themselves admitted that I’m not saying or doing anything creepy, just that I’ve asked out too many women. I didn’t want to have to lie, but I might if I keep getting turned down like this. What am I doing wrong?

[DextroShade]

You aren't doing anything wrong, it's just hoeflation. 1 in 3 men are virgins or haven't had sex in over a year. Unlike men in previous generations you are now in direct competition with celebrities and other high-value men thanks to social media. The girls on campus are getting flown out by big shots and you look like a loser by comparison. All you can do is lift, get money, and look outside large cities and college campuses for better women. Whatever you do don't rescue one of these hoes in the future after they hit wall, if she didn't give you her best years don't take her worst.

[RavVid]

I didn't realize that campus admin regulate the number of girls you can ask out. :)

Look just pay to lose your virginity. You can be a non virgin tomorrow. Where I am it is $60 for 30 minutes. Otherwise you will be waiting for a kind girl who'll let you practice on her or thinks it will be retro for her to take your virginity.

It is not a big deal to pay for it. You take a girl out, buy her a meal and a few drinks and you are paying for it anyway. No big deal.

[Asker]

They can’t regulate it. Therefore, they aren’t. But the fact that they tried to shows what kind of luck I’ve been having.

As for prostitution, that IS illegal where I live. As much as I’d like to lose my virginity, I’m not willing to go to jail for it.

[RavVid]

Seems to be legal in Mexico. Canada is a little funny about it. It is legal to sell sex but not to buy sex.

In every country prostitution is tolerated. I'd be surprised if prostitutes didn't work off tinder or other dating apps.

[Avicenna]

First of all, sometimes less is more when it comes to asking out women because you get a rep and it becomes counterproductive. Focus on yourself right now.

[slatyb]

You don't have to "attract them". You ask them out and find out if they are attracted. Or you socialize in mixed groups and see who engages with you. Then you ask them out.

But before you ask, make some conversation to see if they could be interested. Asking a woman out twenty seconds after you meet her is just creepy and desperate.

[Anonymous]

'I try to take the time to get to know them for about a month or so before asking them out'

What matters is how long you spend building attraction. That's where you are going wrong. If within that month of getting to know them, you didn't spend time building attraction, sexual tension and desire then it won't matter. Guys need to understand that attraction occurs very differently for most women Vs men.

[barn_stormer]

just say you've had sex before. lie.

[Asker]

That’s my next result.

I just hope it’s not illegal where I live

[DaBiggestBird]

Don’t be fake.

[Anonymous]

Blue anons won't attract anyone, period.

[Asker]

I’m not interested in attracting anyone here. I’m concerned about irl.