What would turn you off from someone you have dated for the first time?

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Guy13 · Accepted Answer

From “Violations” provided that illuminate the personality of a potential blind date, the least offensive one is Egotistical expressions or behaviors.

“I” 🙃 want to know what “She” sees as important. “I” expect the Wine 🍷 and/or Martini 🍸 🫒 to get “her I” thoughts, dreams, goals, and actions out and about. And if not, the Grand Marnier will turn it into a Royal “Me Myself and I” bonanza.
“I” want one with a healthy drive, sense of doing, and the outworking that demonstrates a healthy and strong Ego.

We are all Egoistical, however, some are in what they say and do while others Ego is revealed in what “is NOT” said and done. You passive-aggressive people are worst in your Dishonesty and Judgment.

A person of expressed Convictions, Accomplishments, Plan, and outworking is one who is Egoistical. This covers everyone but I much more prefer those that self-market and promote with intent than a passive-aggressive Egoist that is afraid to be straightforward in their love of Self and in the forefront with Blame and Excuses.

Sun_Kim-Ai · Accepted Answer

All the things listed, but the thing that would definitely turn me away and cancel the date would be poor hygiene.

But overall, rudeness, vulgarity, lack of effort and partecipation. And again, lack of hygiene and overall improper behavior. When I'm out with someone on a date or a dinner, I'm doing my best to give them a pleasant experience and give them my best self, and I kind of expect for them to do the same.

Also please, be on time or give me a heads up if you are going to be late more than 10 minutes - time is money and often I want to be home within a certain hour - so if the other person is late, I won't be staying past my end time to make up for their tardiness.

They say that usually is the woman who silently judges the man during an outing or a date, be it romantic or business-related - I do the same. I might be smiling and nodding, but if you embarass me, give me a lasting a bad impression, I will be cutting our date short and won't see you ever again.

LadyKitty · Accepted Answer

All of the above.

Egotistical behaviors are a red flag.

Constantly checking their phone would make me wonder who are they waiting for to message them.

Being Late is only acceptable if there is a legitamate reason for it. Punctionality is important though.

If they talk constantly about their ex the entire time, I'd think they are obsessed with them still.

SphynxUK · Accepted Answer

I would be asking then questions about themselves, and if they didn’t show me the same interest I’d be put off. Likewise, if they were on their phone for the date, I wouldn’t see them again. Oh, and if they answer questions with 1-2 words, that’s a no.

EbeneezerGoode · Answer

There is a Michael.. Gary.. Scott quote for this occasion and this is the following, however before saying the quote I must describe the scene to present clear context for the utilisation of said quote. So the scene is the pretzel episode when Michael finally made it to the front of the queue and the pretzel clerk stated all the available toppings, and asked Michael which topping he wanted, at which point Michael said:

"Err.. is there any chance I could have.. all?"

The quote may not be completely accurate, however I hope it clearly communicates my answer to your question.

dynamicyandere · Answer

All of those, but not being present would be the biggest one.

I’d want to connect, so if they’re unengaged, it just shows a lack of sincerity, and it makes the whole event a waste of everyone’s time. I value my time and I value their time.

That’s also why I end things early if I don’t see a potential future because I don’t want anybody’s time to be wasted.

I stop seeing girls over them not being present. It’s a HUGE turn off for me personally.

kinggeorge007 · Answer

Being late is fine if they had a good excuse. But others, just nah. And things like astrology and traditional thinking make me feel like vomiting. I myself am (more like was) an introvert, but still, I don't want an introvert. Please, that's a hard NO! Had enough with introverts. Ambiverts, please!!

Valso · Answer

There's only one option to choose and mine are 3.

3. Constantly checking his/her phone.
2. Talking about his/her exes.
1. He/She's religious.

I wrote them in this manner (3, 2, 1) bc 1 is the most important from all 3. If I found out that he/she is religious, I forget that they even exist.

DizzyDesii · Answer

I dont care much if they talk about their ex. I just hope they are not still talking to their ex. Being late would bother me but not as much as if they’re cocky/arrogant/know-it-all type

SnowedIn · Answer

All of those things, frankly, but the number one thing and the thing I chose is checking the phone. That might cause me to leave a date in the middle of it.

Anonymous · Answer

All of them above! Plus : Them being rude for no reason, like just because they can Humble-brag (🤮) Dressed like a hobo Little to no general knowledge (🤮) No interest in anything at all The “end conversation” type of person Too much pity party (basically because I don't know how to respond to this if it’s too much, i’d usually just go silent or nod awkwardly) Etc

DeeDeeDeVour · Answer

Having a relationship with his or her phone is the first turn off.

DoctorSex · Answer

All are stackable offenses. Kind regards, DoctorSex

Sorrento-Sun · Answer

If I sensed he was controlling or manipulative

Nikki1989 · Answer

All of those would be a dealbreaker, but the phone thing is at the top of my list.

exitseven · Answer

If she was not really present. She is looking at her cell phone or talking about her job all the time.

Andres77 · Answer

Some of this stuff you can work through but being arrogant and selfish is a little deep and unlikely to improve.

CuriousMufuxka · Answer

Well all besides having a ego. #1 goes to being late! WTF? I'm waiting at Applebees standing around like an asshole thinking this is a great start!

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

Out of what you have listed, ego.

OlderAndWiser · Answer

All of the above!

BJP21 · Answer

Ego is a BIG one. Leave that at home guys and girls alike.

JamesRandiDebates · Answer

All of the options listed. Plus not giving me the customary first date BJ, or having bad breath or stinky pussy.

Anonymous · Answer

I couldn't vote due to I think all of them would make me feel turned off

nawtee_me · Answer

you left one out, all of the above... That is the one I would tick...

TheUniqueOne96 · Answer

Egotistical behaviors.

SaoirseS · Answer

All of the above plus a few more.

sage2021 · Answer

Poor manner's! All of them!

SexyRedd1966 · Answer

Someone who can't hold their liquor

EmmaMary · Answer

All of the above.

TenderFantasy · Answer

ALL  of that crap!

JPresidente · Answer

Non-stop talking about themselves.

es20490446e · Answer

They shall be kind.

-Mad- · Answer

All of the above

Anonymous · Answer

Ego/extreme reaction issues are the worst.

LiamJHayden · Answer

All of the above.

Drachen · Answer

All of the above. 🚩🚩🚩

studguy07 · Answer

Being too boasting about themself

Caramelpie · Answer

Talking about an ex or smelling bad

Jerre · Answer

Body odor would turn me away real fast

OddBeMe · Answer

Touching my face that way, for sure.

abc3643 · Answer

All of the above.

straightmax12 · Answer

Wanting to have children.

weysally · Answer

I hate being late

RavVid · Answer

All of the above.

Anonymous · Answer

Small penis.

AimeeKyle · Answer

All the above.

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