Is it a turn off if a woman turns you down sexually on the first date?

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I recently went on a date with some guy and on the second day my car had a break down and called him to come pick me up, fast forward he ended up inviting me over to his place i ofcourse spent a night there... He had offered to share the same bed but i opted to sleep in the separate room. In the morning he came over to my room. We cuddled because it was cold. And ofcourse he started touching me wanting to have sex. He asked if we could be intimate but i thought it was too fast and told him we wait and give ourselves sometime, now from that day this guy won't pick any of my call or texts. Mate him in passing the other day he said his been busy and that he would call me. Now was i wrong to not give in to his sexual desire? Does it affect a mans ego if a woman rejects sexual advances in the begining of something?

Guy13 · Accepted Answer

It is not a turn off when a woman says "NO" to sex on the first date. I prefer it actually as the last thing i want to date is an easy laid and body hopping woman.

FilmGuy93 · Accepted Answer

I don't even make moves like that on the first date. At most, I might ask for a hug, if the vibe is good, and maybe a kiss, if she hugs me the right way.

RockyHammock · Answer

I think itd be more on the lines of mixed signaling. If a guy asks you to come over at his house late into the night its 99% only for one reason and you went/stayed. You chose to cuddle and let him caress your body. While he's not entitled to sex and did the right thing by asking consent /respecting your wishes I can imagine he was confused because you showed great interest, but pulled back at the last second. he's probably still trying to process the situation to figure where he went wrong

PatriceONeal · Answer

You live in a culture that sleeps on the first date and when girls reach the age of like 28 they start holding out to make themselves look more valuable. But it backfires exactly like this. You'll use him for intimacy and connection but you'll deny him his needs when you know the whole time what he would like to do. You ladies think you can have your cake and eat it too.

jshm2 · Answer

That was not really a date, then. You didn't succumb to weakness and did not let him take advantage of you.  To be fair, sex on the first date should be an agreed thing before, not after.

talka20 · Answer

I think u did great and by your decision you got to know more of his personality and maybe intentions too to some percentage

Anonymous · Answer

Yes, because she rejected an advance that I didn't even make. And that is deliberate insult. Cause I wouldn't do that on a first date PERIOD! There wouldn't be a second date. She can go play that game with some other guy.

In your case if he tried to stick in the turkey without the oven being warmed up and was rejected, and is offended by it then he's a doof. And why would you care? HE CLEARLY CAN'T READ SIGNS or simply DOESN'T CARE ENOUGH TO TRY.

TheSpaceGnome · Answer

I don't ask for sex on the first date, I'm not retarded.

UncleBilll · Answer

looking at from a guys perspective, he was pretty horny, cuddling with you, he was expecting sex or at least some oral of some kind. yes he probably feels rejected.

TadCurious · Answer

You weren't wrong to not want to have sex that soon.

LiamJHayden · Answer

No, you did the right thing. I would actually be repulsed if she wanted to have sex that early.

Anonymous · Answer

The answer depends on what the guy is looking for. If he is only looking for casual hook ups, it's probably a turn off. But for guys like me who are looking for quality women, it's a turn on.

LimitedBenefits101 · Answer

Good he dodged a bullet  Why would any guy invite a chick over if he's not gonna get sex?  Hopefully he finds a better girl.

Anonymous · Answer

I most likely wouldn't make any sexual advances on the first date. The goal is to figure out if I like and can see myself being with this person.

noohair · Answer

Live you life the way you feel comfortable. If he does not respect that, he is not worth your time.

Anonymous · Answer

Nope. If she doesn't wait, it makes me wonder how many guys she has had and how many STDs she probably has.

Shamalien · Answer

You dodged a bullet

In_Trance · Answer

I mean... where can you go from there?

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