Is a girl putting out on the first date a turn off?

Question

Would you like her less?

Sixgunsound · Accepted Answer

Putting out on the first date is probably the quickest way to guarantee there won’t be a second. It’s not even that he would like her less, it’s just that you activated a very primitive response to sexuality which has helped the mail of the species propagate his genetic code. In order for the almost 80% of the male of the species that are betas to reproduce, they had to either find a way to ingratiate themselves with the lead alpha of the group which was difficult and dangerous, or more commonly sneak in at night to hit it and quit it with a willing female. This instinct predates the leap from homo erectus to Homo sapiens. When you signal that you are willing to let him hit it with no strings or commitment, you are also causing him to wonder if you’re that easy for the next guy too and thus immediately sort yourself ut of the ‘potential for a future’ category. He will keep having sex with you as long as you let him until you figure out he’s just using you for your body, but he WILL NEVER MARRY YOU. I’ve had this conversation with lots of women over the years, but the brainwashing is just so strong these days that few are willing to hear let alone listen to anything that contradicts society’s lies.

monkeynutts · Accepted Answer

I think it can be a strange way to end the first time you meet somebody.

The_FallenOne · Accepted Answer

Ik this was a question for the boys, but I do have theory. I don't necessarily believe men find it to be a "turnoff." The word choice is a bit too black or white or perpetual if you will.

Though, as a woman I find a repetitive correlation with younger men & enjoying sex on a 1st date, but also, the same men tend to not pursue these women who are "easy" to bed as long term partners.[marrige]

You kind of just become their outlit for sex when they're in the mood for it, though they tend to not view you as anything more than that. [This isn't true in every single senario obviously, but it holds true for the majority]

My conclusions are:
1.) If they do the same thing & see you as the slut & or use "lock & key" bs as justification, it's just code for, "I see the same flaws in my partner that I don't like in myself." Must be too hard for them to cope with ig. [Usually the case]
2.) They (as many people do) just desire for an opposite Or are just put off due to religious reasoning.

fonduegirl · Accepted Answer

A woman who has sex on first date is a slut. A woman who kisses a man on cheek after first date is a prude. Men, why don't you make up your mind? 😂

markml · Answer

What kind of "putting out" are we talking about?

If a woman puts out on the first date, it is usually assumed that she puts out with a lot of guys... and that is a turn off.

I mean every guy would like to think that if a woman is putting out on the first date, it means he is special, but most aren't that ignorant. Most know that she can't possibly know if that well yet. And so he isn't that special really, and she would put out with lots of other men she didn't know that well too.

erandal · Answer

I slept with my husband the first time I went to his house (about twenty years ago). First two dates were spent in the city doing romantic 'stuff' so we could have got arrested if we had tried. I was more than happy to sleep with other boyfriends on the first date if it was an option.

RavVid · Answer

I am not going to complain. It would depend on the circumstances as to where it goes.

If it seemed like it was just the natural end of a date to her you would have to assume she had put out on all her first dates. And that would put of a number of us.

I know some guys that try to get the girl to let them do it bareback, and if she says yes then they know a lot of men have been inside her naked. It is self defeating in terms of not using condoms but it is a ploy they use to assess her. Similar goes for getting her to put out on the first date. As Lycanthropic said wouldn't wife her even though we would be happy she did put out.

Anonymous · Answer

Think about this - If the front door won't stay closed will you trust it?
We need several things from doors. To be able to walk through. To keep out the elements and things in. Even for decoration. But a great deal for security. Everything on the inside depends on that door to protect it.

What do we need in a partner?
Sure there are the obvious physical needs. And when these are the only needs we focus on the other needs may fail completely to be met. Ending the relationship quick and angry.
Social, emotional, financial, mental, spiritual are some other heavy needs we all possess. In all of this TRUST is absolutely essential.
Everything you do and say should be to promote confidence and full trust in the relationship.

ohsheeT · Answer

For me I'm going to like her even more because she's doing what she wants to do with all the taboo that comes with that she's going to be bold and do what she wants because she wants to in another of ways I respect her even more for doing it that way and to be honest I have never thought of a girl and any negative way because of anything she might do on the first date

Lliam · Answer

Not a turn off. I definitely wouldn't like her less. I wouldn't necessarily respect her less, either.
Honestly, if I liked her and the sex was great, I might get instantly infatuated and addicted to her. Then, as time went by, we'd see how our relationship progressed.

Blueeyes81 · Answer

Depends. When I was 27 a bunch of friends and I were going out for the night. One of them invited her friend along and she and I just clicked. I mean in a way I have never clicked with someone before or since. We stayed up talking all night and I literally felt like I had known her my entire life. Come 8 in the morning we went to bed and couldn't keep our hands off of each other. We had sex multiple times that day and I never once thought she was easy or less of her. There was just instant chemistry. We ended up being together for the next two years.

Now if I didn't feel that chemistry and she was just throwing herself at me I'd probably have thought she was easy and just a one and done.

McKellar · Answer

For a guy, that's ALWAYS going to be a hard-core type of a turn on. Not a turn off.

If a girl wants to put out on the 1st date,... I'm more than happy with that. In hopes she's okay with that, I'm good with that as well.

Would I think any less of her and automatically think she's an easy score, and I can score with any girl no problem like her? By far... no.

Like I mentioned, if she's more than okay with having sex on the 1st date and wants to see more of me and wants to be with me,... I would very much be a lucky guy.

Aerissa_Jade · Answer

It can be for a lot of guys, they'll automatically think you are not marriage material and they just want to smash you and nothing more.

Depends on your goals, if you have no issues with that or not.

Usually best to get to know him better first, make him wait a bit... if all he wants is sex, then he will move on and you dodged that mistake. Unless all you want is sex too and don't care about more than that, maybe then you both be perfect for each other.

Whatever2929292 · Answer

No not at all! As long as I like her to start with. I mean if it was a woman who I found unattractive I would reject but be respectful about it or if I was in another relationship.

But that? No. In fact I would like her more

meggo87 · Answer

I’ve been with my now fiancé (dated 4 years) and we slept together on the first date. It’s so situational.

ChrisMaster69 · Answer

No it’s not wrong, however, I would likely Turn her down. would not think any less of her it’s just I need more of an emotional connection before the physical side of things,

HighValue · Answer

She likely doesn't think of sex as part of a special connection between two people or think emotions matter for it.
If she does it that quickly she likely has done casual sex (hook ups, ONS, friends with benefits, etc.) before.

I wouldn't do it because I need a much stronger emotional connection first so that wouldn't happen with me.

Jamie05rhs · Answer

All those guys that are saying they would be turned off by a woman having sex with them on the first date are immature retards!
If you don't want to have sex with her, don't have sex with her!! No one's forcing you, asshole!

Freyke · Answer

It's not a turnoff but a turnaway lol
A kiss is fine, but if you want sex right away I am sorry that is not happening. I can not be intimidate with someone who I want to have a relationship with, not that fast.

With a girl at the bar or club I see them differently. But a girl I want a relationship with I want to see them for who she is as a person instead of what she is like in bed.

JSmuve · Answer

It depends. A girl who puts out so soon has to be at least somewhat attracted to me, so that's certainly not a turn off. But a girl who's been with a lot of guys is a turn off. So you're either going out on very few first dates or you're going to be a walking turn off.

Crafteroon · Answer

Depends on the connection. Good chemistry in both can be a deep dive to a great pool. But if you're lacking in the emotional connection or the physical chemistry, a deep dive can make contact with dirty water or a floor tile.

AviatorTom · Answer

Why do you call it "girl putting out"? It's two adults mutually deciding to have sex. Nothing wrong with that, and whether it's the first or Nth date, it should be a turn on for both of them.

FilmGuy93 · Answer

I wouldn't like her any less, but it would make take her less seriously. Everytime I've had a woman do something like that on a first date, it was because she didn't take me very seriously.

legalboxers · Answer

I went out with someone who put out on the 1st date. We lasted 3 years. 2nd person who I was with who put out claimed I was "TOO REAL" because on the 1st date I fed her strawberries and pineapple in a hot tub and champagne, gave her a full body massage (prior to a candle lit dinner) and I made her breakfast in bed..

20yearsolder · Answer

No, I wouldn't like her less. I'm not one of these jaded assholes that thinks women shouldn't enjoy sex as well. Stereotypically a guy can go out and fuck whoever he wants and he's a stud but if a woman does it she's a slut. Bullshit

dolemite89 · Answer

i honestly would like her more. Not just cuz she put out early specifically but i feel like girls that want have sex if things are clicking are being more upfront and genuine with you. girls that make you wait a specific amount of time or make “rules” for you are usually not that into.

SiberFox · Answer

If she fucked on the first date, how many first dates has she been on? I'm not special it's just my turn.

Avicenna · Answer

I would say no, because that only happens in my experience when there is a lot of chemistry and/or both parties want it.

HawkPerception · Answer

Not at all in my opinion. I just go with the flow and if a girl puts out on the first date, to me it just shows she's into me, which if anything makes me feel attractive and gives a nice high.

Gent207 · Answer

Turn off for me Love, sex and life is a game to me. You have to play the game to make it fun and meaningful otherwise it's boring and meaningless.

Shy_Steve · Answer

We might think your leading us on if you told us that so we might not trust you, But if you like initiated it, It would probably okay as long as it wasn't too quick or Aggressive.

Sparkie460 · Answer

I don't have sex on the first date. I like to get to know the woman first. I wouldn't think less of her but we wouldn't be having sex.

Twalli · Answer

I won't have sex on the first date. If she wants to give a blowjob or be eaten out on the first date, that's fine, but no sex.

lightbulb27 · Answer

no, it's not that but how "she carries herself". that says about her character, and her character could be a turnoff.

MysticDevice · Answer

If the chemistry was there I'd be all for it.  Otherwise if there wasn't anything to suggest we'd be good together then it might be a turn off.

Neilbud · Answer

I think the issue is sex won't create chemistry or feelings. If anything it will be a filter to show if their is or is it feelings. I think a lot of girls believe that sex is the key and it's not.

TheMajesticKing777 · Answer

Yea cause I wouldn't initiate anything in the first date which would just be considered a red flag in my opinion cause it means the idea was hers

CallmeTheKnight · Answer

Depends. If I've known her for quite a while before the date, then no it isn't. If I never knew her well before the first date, then yes. That's a turn off big time

Shamalien · Answer

It makes me think she’s only good for a fuck. I like a woman with some self control and I don’t sleep with strangers

jengeorge26 · Answer

It gives you the wrong idea about sex, maybe he will think that it will be easy every time he wants it

Anonymous · Answer

i don't think it's a good idea. they're practically a stranger. or at least someone you don't know 100% about (especially their past partners)

fiveinthemorning · Answer

To a gentleman yes. To a sleezy guy or a douche than well, I wouldn’t know.

pass_the_celery98 · Answer

for me, yea. if i take her on a first date im just expecting a nice dinner, a hug in the end and wishing her a good night

TwiNshichamp1 · Answer

No I don't think so. But I wouldn't accept it. Maybe until 3rd or 4th date. But sex shouldn't be an issue/first priority.

Ironic_Method · Answer

There's a few factors that go into it, but sex is a good way to end (or start) a date for me (assuming we've talked sufficiently prior).

Hairylegs222 · Answer

The funnest 1st date I ever had was having sex at the end. Doesn't matter, just go with it. You only live once, enjoy it.

bamesjond0069 · Answer

Id like her more for friends with benefits or casual situation and less for serious relationships. However if she's already done this then id expect it from her and move on if she didn't put out asap.

OddBeMe · Answer

Depends on the details. There are bar flies who offer sex acts for drinks.  There are also “first dates” with people who know each other pretty well.

motownplayer2000 · Answer

I’ll respect her for going after what she wants so no wouldn’t like her any less. Be a bit awkward, but hey if the vibe is right, we keep it moving

Uptowngirl88 · Answer

Why would you put out on the first date? What has the man done to earn you and your trust that you're so willing to just give it up?

Waldoe · Answer

That's how I decide if there will be a second date...

momo__b · Answer

Why does it matter? Everyone is different. If there’s a good connection why not? If not why put out at all? If you really like someone brining it up in casual convo and see where it leads to 🤷🏼‍♀️

H8INCHES · Answer

Just the opposite. I don't respect a prude who holds off because she thinks she should. It's dishonest and tells me she can hold out whenever she wants. Not my kinda girl.

Anonymous · Answer

Not necessarily, but it definitely paints a picture of her in my mind that is a little hard to overcome. I'm less likely to take her seriously as a serious girlfriend.

Massageman · Answer

Total turnoff. The big turn-on shouldn't happen the first date.

Redstang88 · Answer

Nah, if I like her I like her. That wouldn’t change anything

driven159 · Answer

If it's a turn off, you have a choice as a guy not to have sex with her and say next time we will let me get to know you now that would turn her on

Chekxkc · Answer

I prefer a girl that would wait to have sex in a serious relationship even marriage perhaps. As long as it’s not just for religious beliefs but her nature

Anonymous · Answer

Not at all. If we're vibing and it's going that way I'd be pretty stoked on her.

IsoUser · Answer

Why would I think anything less of her if the chemistry is there emotionally and physically?

jahaims · Answer

If she tried to hookup on the first date that would be our last date

Crankor · Answer

It would make me think it's more of a fling than anything long term

Vinni89 · Answer

Its a mutual decision, just make sure that its protected sex.

BarryLiverstone · Answer

Yes and I’ve had to start saying no when they offer

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