How do I tell this girl I'm talking to that I'm only looking for a casual relationship?

[SmokingJoe]

I started talking to this girl, and she seems legitimately cool, and is into a lot of stuff I like. We have a date planned out. I'm looking forward to meeting her. We just haven't had the what type of relationship are you looking for conversation yet. And I am not really looking for anything long term unless we for sure get along perfectly. How do I nicely say I am looking to take things slow and see where things go from there? I don't want her to think I'm just after sex and looking for casual sex. I'm down to take her out it's not like that. I just don't want to be in a super serious relationship at this point, and I don't want to hurt her feelings.

[Guy13]

If you are fun and she feels entertained then it should be an easy sell. Be honest with her but also show her a good time simultaneously. Women melt if you can make them laugh, feel comfortable, and vibing in fun together with a guy.

[SmokingJoe]

True that. We have a lot in common. I just don't know if she wants the same type of relationship I'm looking for. I don't want long term commitment until after I know we vibe mentally and sexually.

[MiamiMadness]

Be straight homie, tell her you only want something physical, if she doesn’t throw up in her mouth, you’re off to a good start

[SmokingJoe]

It's not 100 percent like that. Definitely partially. But I do want to take her out a bit here and there, and I definitely want to have a physical relationship. I'm just looking to casually date her and see where it goes.

[MiamiMadness]

I’m just saying bro friends with benefits catching feelings is like as common as dick questions on gag, just be ready for some awkwardness when one side wants more and the other wants less

[SmokingJoe]

I feel you. I hope we can have fun as friends with benefits for awhile and if it works out maybe more. But I feel like she is already ready to jump into a relationship. So it's probably going to be awkward in the very near future. I just want to go on some dates, eat some good food together, shoot some pool, bowl, and have some no strings attached sex.

[Dav1dTh0ma389]

Good luck with that bro. Girls aren't looking for that sort of thing. And if they tell you they are, they're lying

[SmokingJoe]

I just had sex twice with a girl today that I met today, wild kinky sex to. This girl the post is about seems vanilla af though. I have been talking to her for a few days since making this post and more and more she seems like she ain't gonna be with a friends with benefits type situation. I'm gonna take her out in the next few days and see what the vibe is like though.

[Iron_Man]

Just come right out with it

[SmokingJoe]

Yea it's starting to feel like honesty is the best policy. She seems like she wants a relationship. But she may be fun to hang out with. I'm gonna take her out and see the vibe.

[Iron_Man]

Right on

[SmokingJoe]

Like I'm cool with relationship aspects right from the start to. I just don't want long term commitment until I know we are compatible mentally and sexually. Both are important for a long term relationship. I would be cool to casually date her in the beginning. I'm not asking to just smash day 1. I just don't want nothing to serious right away and hopefully she is cool with that.

[Anonymous]

Just be honest and don't lie.

[SmokingJoe]

Yea honesty seems like the best policy here. I think she wants a relationship. But I'm gonna take her out and feel out the vibe. Maybe I'm wrong and she is down for casual fun.