When will I find love?

[Anonymous]

Technically this is a rant but it's also a question.

So I just broke up with a girl that technically would be everything I want in woman. (Funny, Smart, into nerd stuff like star Wars and video games, had red hair and even wanted to move to where I've always wanted to move to). And I'm asking myself where in the world is this woman that I've been told my entire life I will find? I'm just so exhausted of doing the same old routine of match, get to know each other, then a few months go by (2-4) and then the girl starts to lose interest and the next thing I hear is "it's not you. It's me speech." Anyway, the question is how do I find this supposed girl that I've always been looking for?

[quaranta]

I am one of those "it's not you, it's me", losing interest in partners after 2-4 months.
But you say you keep getting this kind of partner, so maybe it's something related to you (or just a series of bad coincidences). If it's related to you maybe you tend to get interested in partners who give mixed signals and give you a sense of freedom yet of challenge at first, but if you select girls who don't really look for a relationship and are just confused then you are going to gamble that a bit.
Or maybe you tend to become needy and clingy and this is why they end up losing interest (this is a granted way to produce that effect, valid for both genders).
In my case most of the times what made me lose interest was becoming like a nurse to my partners, who were emotionally heavy to handle. Those are situations where I got less than what I spent, so to say, and that can only kill "interest" from my side, leaving only care in place, but care alone doesn't make a reciprocated relationship.
Another thing might be you are simply a very negative person, aloof and inactive, and that gives the perspective you don't offer much to grow with.
Any of these things, if true, can be certainly improved over time.
But of course, as I said, it can be just all a bad series of coincidences, too...
Besides, in terms of compatibility, you get compatible partners in communities, events and circumstances that reflect your interests and personality, so as much you keep getting to know new people in those areas, as much you'll probably find another compatible girl there, somewhere, at some point. And your preferences will most likely change over time, partner after partner... So don't focus too much on a specific type but look for compatibility, solidity of their intentions and be open to be surprised by the next type of girlfriend you will get.

[Guy13]

Love will find you when you are not stressed about it and opened up. Confidence attracts people and sexual interest. Live a positive life and she will come.

[boggboss]

Stop looking for the perfect girl as she probably don't exist