When exactly, am I going to find the love of my life?

[DkGUY77]

I am 46 years old. To be honest, I am mildly autistic. But that doesn’t interfere with my every day life. Ever since high school I’ve tried to ask girls out that I liked and I got nowhere. I did eventually in my 20s date handful of girls, but they only lasted two dates, and then they never return my calls. Every time I ask a girl out now they tell me they’re not interested. My career is an actor, in theater and various films. Not big time lol. But it’s my dream. I also study martial arts. I have had girls in the past tell my friends that I came across as scary , which they didn’t understand, because I’m one of the nicest guys in the world. I really wanna wait till marriage to have sex, but nobody believes me. It’s the truth , So why wouldn’t you believe me lol? Just today, a girl that works at a supermarket, I was talking to, and then I tried calling. Just figuring I might try to become friends with her, and they wouldn’t let me talk to her as if I’m some kind of stalker. 😂 I’m just trying to be friends. I just don’t understand. So when am I gonna find that special girl?

[MrOracle]

Well, you are doing some things right already: it sounds like you are focusing on the local women around you and meeting them IN PERSON, which is far better than most people, who are on worthless dating apps. That's GOOD - always focus exclusively on LOCAL women and meeting them in person.

Now, I don't know you, so I could be wrong, but if I had to guess, it would be that you come across as desperate (to get a girl) to the women you are meeting, and it turns them off. This is going to sound so backwards, but human brains work in strange ways, and it's true: you need THEM to find you attractive FIRST, and then you need to show NO interest in them at the very beginning - but rather, slowly let them "win you over."

That's not easy for anyone to do until they've had LOTS of practice, and that's really the "secret" that most guys who get tons of girls use: they ask out LOTS of women, get tons of rejections until they are so used to being rejected that rejection doesn't slow them down a single bit. Such guys don't even care if the girl is going to work out long-term - they're happy to go out on a couple of dates just for the experience, and, hey, maybe things DO work out.

To start off with, do NOT approach women with the goal of getting a girlfriend. Instead, approach them with the goal of only being a temporary acquaintance, and ASSUME ahead of time that they have NO INTEREST in anything more than that. If you have this mindset, you won't come across as desperate - because you've already assumed they aren't interested - and you can simply be friendly without having ANY further expectations. For a while, you're going to think this isn't working - no girl will show interest - but keep doing it. Let girls blow you off or run away - that's totally fine. Every time that happens, you're going to care less and less about rejection, and you'll come across as less and less desperate, even if you don't realize it.

Eventually, all the desperation will be completely gone, and a few girls will start responding and showing some interest. You MUST NOT jump right in and turn your interest on full-blast - only allow yourself to show 5% interest, even if the girl ends up walking away. That will be tough, but do it anyway. Soon, you'll get girls who will stick around even though you only give 5%, and so you can bump it up a bit to 20%. If you do that right, THEY will start making even more of an effort, and you'll reach 100% interest without you doing all the work. That's how you "win."

This isn't easy - it's a lot of work, it's tedious, and it's full of disappointments, especially at the beginning, but if you stick with it, you will soon be attracting women far more easily than you can even imagine right now.

It's like working out - it's a ton of work and takes a lot of time, but if you keep at it, eventually you wake up one day with a well-built body.

[Lliam]

I predict that it will be on September 22, 2025.

[Ez-Bri-Z_v2]

At some point you might have to look within and see what you are doing wrong. You've had people call you scary and others just not interested. Maybe you come off really strong or desperate. Maybe you overshare too much in the beginning. Maybe it's something physical. I would evaluate your approach and go from there.

[Avicenna]

Something like that is usually a random, lucky occurrence. It has no timetable.

[In_Trance]

The autistic troll strikes again

How many different accounts are you going to use to post this crap

[Anonymous]

For guys like us, on the spectrum
Well I'll be honest with you that doesn't happen

[Abbycado]

Yeah, when you stalk? Good luck.

[DkGUY77]

I didn’t I just called to talk

[Abbycado]

“I’m some kind of stalker”

If she thinks that? Good luck bud.

[DkGUY77]

They seemed as if!!! Truth is the truth

[DkGUY77]

I’m not … they seemed as if

[DkGUY77]

I don’t understand

[DrPepper12]

Fate is a strange thing. Keep looking!