Do you believe you will find the love of your life?

[Androm]

Do you believe you will find the love of your life?

[Investigator]

Short answer: no

Long answer: Statistically-speaking, there are too many people on this planet for literally not a single one of them to be compatible, in some way. However, due to social engineering and the runaway effect of social media on the population, that population decreases every year or so.

There is no such thing as "the love of your life", there are only "approximate appropriates"--people who have just enough of the qualities one looks for in a partner overriding all of their "have to deal withs", but these people are stand-ins for one's "ideal". We don't live in a world of "perfects", someone who was tailor made specifically for us.

The ugly truth is that the sentiment "there's someone for everyone" is copium; it is false. There wouldn't need to be a dating market if everyone had a "soul mate GPS", you would just be born knowing who your partner is. There would be no mystery. By that same token (and this is something people want to avoid like the plague), some people--given their cumulative life trajectory--are basically born doomed to misery and suffering. If there is a some sort of cosmic story that everyone plays a part in, these people exist purely to balance out the world's collective joy: for everyone who is content, there are those whose life is pure agony and that is practically by design.

In summation, there is no one who is the "love of your life" and the very idea of this immaculate individual--purpose-born to be with you and you only--is some kind of mythical narrative that a lot of people buy into. It sounds nice, because it is: if there is "someone for everyone", then all you're doing is finding that person who fits you like a glove, for whom there are no struggles and no torment, just pure bliss. Sounds a lot like the Abrahamic God, doesn't it?

[Xepshunall]

You can ABSOLUTELY find the love of your life. I did. Back in 1995, I told Vird to stop coming over for sex when she was horny. Granted it was only a couple times a month but I wasn't the man she wanted. I was just the man she craved when she had a craving. She wanted the man who fathered her most recent child. By this time, we had already had a relationship and had shared a home. I had fallen in love with her whole family. I was ready for a life with her and she wasn't having it. She honored my request to stay away from me. I cried for days while performing my usual daily routine tasks.

One day, when I was ready to put life behind me, I found her on Facebook and contacted her to see how she was doing. It wasn't long before she asked me to move back to Oklahoma to be with her. We reunited in the state that I also fell in love with. I was finally home. It was just like old times except for the lack of a "baby daddy". She was exactly the same person except for appearances. To this day, we have no interest in anyone but each other.

The problem is that the love of your life isn't guaranteed to be compatible with you. I own 3 properties in 2 cities because I can't accept her for who she always was and still is and the same goes for her acceptance of who I've always been. She owns hers in another. We're still the best of friends and I take her out on dates but it ends without any physical pleasure. The day she asks me to give myself back to her will be the day before she finds my corpse on her front doorstep. My love for her is undying but I lack whatever it takes to settle for an unpleasant life with her. Pray that you never find the love of your life.

[jennifer_bloom]

I believe a guy can make me happy and protect me if I'm sick - I don't expect him to magically fill me with exhilarating excitement every day. I think I still have to make normal sacrifices if I want to enjoy my life, such as earning money so I can buy picnic food or trips to distant tourist attractions or materials for my preferred sports and hobbies.

[coachTanthony]

Well if you do then you will and if you don't then you won't. The mind is a powerful thing. Use it wisely.

[Minahh]

So true coach

[SteveSmith1985]

I think it's more of a "hope" than a "belief" for me.

[Guy13]

Yes, I have too. Can't live without Hope.

[Keyboardkat]

This sounds like an immature guy. Some guys don't want to commit because they don't want to "foreclose their options." In other words, what if they commit to a girl and the next day someone better (sexier, more beautiful, smarter) comes along, and they're stuck.

When we get more mature, we realize that one has to make choices in life. You can't have everything, and you can't have EVERYONE! There will always be attractive people around. AND, no one is perfect. Everyone has physical defects of one kind or another, everyone has hangups of one kind or another, and we have to be able to recognize that we're never going to find the absolute 100% perfect partner. A guy must decide, does this particular girl have most of what I'm looking for? (A woman also has to decide that). Love is actually a choice. It's a choice that says, "I choose you today, and I will continue to choose you tomorrow, when we're older and neither of us is still so attractive." He's not ready to make that choice yet. If you are dead-set on getting married, you need to ask yourself whether it's worth waiting to him to reach that point (and his ultimate choice may not be you), or whether to look for someone who is a little further along on the maturity scale.

[AmeerX]

I don't know. I have been left heart break 5 times. We don't date here like in US but every confession ended in "sorry we can't be more than friends" , "oh my parents don't agree" , " oh you are a sweetheart but I have someone else" ,"if you love someone you should let them go" and etc etc.

So, I don't know if I will find someone who will love me like a lover.

Actually I get girls who want my money after they find out about me. So no thanks, they don't look at me for me ((

[Static_In_The_Attic]

I already found the love of my life, it’s PiZZa!

[whorable]

i’m not sure tbh.. i sometimes feel very detached from my emotions and feel like i could never fully love someone the way you mean. i have appreciation for people and of course care for them but when i say i love you i still feel like they could die right now and be completely okay with it.

[monorprise]

Think carefully what that means "love of your life"? What is the definition of "love" your using?

Is it commitment and service as was originally the definition or the infatuation and passion that they sell today?

It is possible to meet someone who inspires both for a time, but ultimately we do not promise to love out of an expectation to control our feelings but out of a expectation to commit and serve eachother.

[DoctorSex]

Yes. Not a doubt in the world. And the key is not about the love of my life, but the relationship of my life.

The key is in the relationship. You cannot control who a person Is deep down in the recessives of their mind that they may never disclose to you and which may be, undesirable. However you can form a strong relationship with a person which comes out of shared goals and honest open communication.

Kind regards,

DoctorSex

[MCheetah]

Nope. I don't fit literally any straight women's male criteria in height, looks, or simpery. The first of those three is the Kiss of Death, though. I had one woman once, for a year. But that was a long time ago. Nowadays, however, it is impossible. Women who'd be attracted to me simply do not exist (and fetishizers who aren't really attracted to me, but say "any black male" don't count.)

[LittleMelissa9614]

Yes! Absolutely! I believe I will find the love of my life! Hopefully soon!😊❤️

[BJP21]

I as I understand it with the global population census. There are 101 males per 100 females. No wander I can't find a date. LOL

I believe there is someone for everybody.

[Little_Bumblebee]

I kind of do... and yet I kind of don't.

'The love of your life' sounds so... 'soulmate-ish' and as if they have to be this perfect fairytale being. And that just sounds unrealistic.

[Jaximus-Lion]

Just find it like that? That will never happen to me. It is a long process to be in love with someone for me, just meeting a person does not do it for me.

[dowser19]

When I move to Mexico for good next year, yes, I think it's probable. My values are valued in Mexico, not here in the U. S. They're looked down on here.

[Chazmatazz269]

I don’t believe in “soulmates” and singular love. Lifelong love is a series of choices. Anyone who suggests otherwise is deluded or has something to sell.

[AsaKyo]

I feel like I already have, but who knows? lmao

[Kreneman]

I already have and now I am engaged to a beautiful woman.

[Alchemizt]

I really hope so. I always try to be positive on that.