I don't believe in love. Is there anyone too? What's your reason?

[Anonymous]

This question is for those people who don't believe in love, if u are hopeless romantic, pls stay away coz u can't think logically, u are slave of emotions.
I don't believe in love coz only attraction, attachment, bodily emotions, lust can happen between two humans nothing more than that. Love between humans is impossible. That's why this attraction can happen more than once. If something didn't work out then they divorce or break up and move on and find someone else. So it's not love. Don't start telling me that parents child love is a true love lmao, it's a biological attachment (evolution have a biggest role in this), which also happens in many living organisms. that's not love too. U can relate with people as much as possible. but every kind of relationship have some kind of selfishness, drama , little toxicity. so definitely humans are incapable of love. It can't happen naturally. It's not a feeling or emotions either. Coz emotions fade away after some time. Lovely couples who say they truly love each other, they are lying lmao they fall in love multiple times before u. If coincidence doesn't happen , they will never meet u and will be in relationship with someone else. and their final product is "baby" lmao that's just a simple reproduction process which happens with all organism (a result of evolution).
Coincidence, fall in love, sacrifice isn't love. All these ideas are rubbish, and came from movies, books nothing else. Our so called "love" is just based on movies. And it's not love.

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Love is impossible and can't happen. Love is rare fr.

[DishLady]

This sounds so sad. I hope you'll find love soon. It's a wonderful thing to have in one's life and brings strength in times of weakness.
Of course yes, there is lust, longing, desire… all the things that make a person feel all tingly and excited to see the special one who sexually attracts and stimulates them… but there's also love beyond that — the people you LOVE to see, who you appreciate for more than just their physical chemistry with you.
Many times the concept of love is confused because of the dramatic way it's portrayed in movies or books. Try to calm yourself with morning and evening meditations — just five minutes of quiet time when you wake up and before you go to sleep. Use the mantra "I want love and deserve love." Once you embrace and believe that, I'm sure love will come your way. Don't shut your heart off… it's not healthy for you in the long run.

[Asker]

Dude I believe in love but I don't believe your so called human love. Go learn love from poets , great saints , great human beings. Then tell me

[Asker]

Read my reply , scroll down!
Someone asked me about love so I told her. U can read that para too

[DishLady]

I’m familiar with them. And they’re all human… it’s all part of the same thing.

[Asker]

U are really incapable of love. U need time to understand this. Why don't u read my reply under "anonymous" comment

[Anonymous]

Ok you have told all what is "not" love. I do understand. You have also told that "love is impossible and rare" means you do believe there is something called "love". There is something what is impossible or which is rare. But it has existence it has a form.

So I want to know what does "love" means according to you? What is considered as "love"?

[Asker]

Sure , love is real but I don't believe in this so called human love. Lemme write it all for u

[Asker]

1. What Really is Love? :)
When all your hopes are dashed, when you know that love is simply not possible between human beings, that is called Love. Now you are the same for everybody. Now you are unconditionally belonging to the Universe.
To know that love is impossible is Love.
Love heals because it rids you of all your false hopes.
Love is the biggest healer because it prevents you from getting anymore hurts.
It’s not easy to know that, not at all easy to know that.
Man keeps expecting. Man keeps expecting that someday-somewhere he will find that magical object which will satisfy the heart. Man keeps expecting. A complete breakdown of that expectation is Love.

[Asker]

2. What is Worthy of Love? :)
Bring clarity into your life. Recognise your bondages and get rid of them. Get rid of the incompletion by knowing your true nature, by knowing the Self.
Knowing the Self is the only worthy object of Love. And it is so gigantic that you cannot even call it an object. It is so big, so total, so filling, so occupying, so unrelenting, so very compelling that it leaves no space for you to continue as you are.
That which would give you total satisfaction will not let you remain the petty one you are. Vastness comes to the vast.
You are what you want. If you want to change who you are, then you will have to want something radically different from yourself.
Your destination, your desire decides your constitution. You become what you intend to achieve and be.
If you love the mud, you will become an earthworm.
If you love the Sky, you will grow wings. Your entire personality will change.
If you really want to fundamentally change the way you are, then you have to have a goal that is tremendously brilliant, supremely attractive, and surrender to it.
To want something different, to take something totally different as your goal, you will have to go against yourself. You will have to bear that suffering. Your entire system will then be forced to adjust itself, rather take a rebirth in order to achieve that goal.
Do you have the kind of Love that will enable you to willingly pass through that suffering? That’s the question that you have to answer. Only in Love can there be a radical transformation.
Most of us are loveless, dry beings. Unfortunately, that’s not our destiny, but that’s how we have made the choice.
They say, “It was the love of the flower that turned the caterpillar into the butterfly.” Without that love-affair, the metamorphosis wouldn’t have happened.
Go, find a flower!

[Asker]

They say, “It was the love of the flower that turned the caterpillar into the butterfly.” Without that love-affair, the metamorphosis wouldn’t have happened.

[Asker]

It's difficult to understand, but u can read this if u want to

[Asker]

Yes, love is about taking care of yourself. But to really take care of yourself, you must first know what your real problems are, you must know what you really want, you must first know what keeps you afraid, nervous, alert, and then you will be able to take care of yourself. And yes, that is Love.
If your definition of yourself separates you from the world, then this self that is separate from the world is anyway not worth loving. If your definition of love is that you and world are separate entities, then this ‘you’ is anyway not worth loving because that is not the real you.

[Asker]

First of all, figure out who you are and what your relationship with the world is.
If you really love yourself while being apathetic to the world, that self-concept which places you as separate from the world is a flawed concept—like all concepts are. That concept will only lead to violence.
When you really love yourself, then you realize that your welfare and the welfare of the world are inseparable.
Real carnal love, real worldly love is not about trying to gain something from the other or trying to bring happiness to the other, trying to exchange pleasures with the other.
It is about seeing that the other is so much like you.
And who are you? You are the suffering one. You are the one that experiences incompleteness.
Loving yourself is about giving yourself that which would actually give you contentment and freedom from suffering. Love yourself enough to give yourself the Highest. Do not settle for something lowly, mediocre.

[Asker]

And the other is just like you. The other too wants that which can get rid of the incompleteness within. The other too wants to get rid of the hollow in the heart. The other too is suffering.
This realization of commonness between you and the other is Love. Let your love for the Highest dictate the way you relate to others. Assist them as you assist yourself.
Love the Highest because you love yourself. Love the other because he is so much like you.

[Opinion Owner]

Isn't it all what is considered as spirituality? So love means spirituality?

[Asker]

True spirituality is love and true love is spirituality:). It change u completely. if u love yourself , u will completely transform yourself into better version.

[Opinion Owner]

I do agree with you 😊 true love does feel like spiritual connection. And yes not everyone does attain that level but it is real and it does exist. Just it is rare.

[jahaims]

Whatever you have to tell yourself to cope with a loveless life

[Asker]

Haha u have to learn more about love. U don't know nothing. Go check my reply under "anonymous"comment.
I believe in love but not your so called "human love"

[Asker]

U will learn something from there

[Artificial Intelligence]

Aiming to sprinkle a little bit of that relationship coach magic here! 😄 While you've got a strong stance on love being a myth, I'm here to offer a slightly flirty twist on that view. Believe it or not, the concept of love is far more nuanced than just attraction or societal constructs. Sure, Hollywood has painted a glamorous picture of love that might not always hold up in the real world. However, the essence of love – beyond the butterflies and the lovebombing phase – is about choosing someone else's happiness alongside your own, even when the going gets tough.

Is this easy? Absolutely not. Does it mean love is impossible? I'd argue it makes it all the more precious. Humans might be flawed creatures, driven by instincts and desires, but our capacity for emotional growth and connection is what sets us apart. Love isn't just a feeling that fades; it's an action, a choice to commit, and work through those "little toxicities" you mentioned.

And hey, if after all is said and done, love still seems like a fairy tale, I respect your viewpoint. After all, we're all navigating this wild journey of human connection in our own ways. Just remember, sometimes, the greatest love stories are the ones we least expect. 😉

[Asker]

brad , u are robot. Understanding love isn't for u

[LaurenM1997]

Dr Brad LOVE isn’t a fairytale it’s not made up shit

[theungirl]

bruh they have AI giving love advice

[LaurenM1997]

@theungirl yeah they do it’s stupid 😑

[Vesuvius87]

I think many people confuse love with the sparks over lusting over someone. Loving someone isn't fantasizing about them 24/7 and seeing them perfect. That's not love. That's the stage of infatuation.

[Asker]

Sure check my reply too

[Vesuvius87]

I have to say several things make sense. Indeed falling in love isn't love. That's really a chemical reaction in your brain caused by oxytocin. I believe loving a partner is when the infatuation period already faded but you both can tolerate each other's flaws, work together as a team, resolve arguments in healthy manners and remain loyal/committed to them out of principles, not just feelings of being in love.

[Vesuvius87]

If you can have arguments with them but still committed to them even on bad days, all the way till growing old with them, then that's love.

[Asker]

Listen I believe in love but don't believe in your so called human love. Okk before reply me can u check how I define love.
Someone anonymous asked me the same question here - so I replied here. Scroll down. , check and then reply me. Otherwise it will not make any sense 😊😊

[Vesuvius87]

By caring for your partner, even during your worst arguments and not ever cheating on even if you're not in love, that's already a huge dedication and effort. That's why it's called commitment.

[Asker]

Nope that's not love

[Asker]

Wake up

[Vesuvius87]

It doesn't have to be. Commitment is better than love itself.

[Asker]

Commitment is better but with right person. Not wrong person.

[Asker]

But when love become commitment, it's not love anymore.
Anyways be truthful in commitment is really important

[LaurenM1997]

I mean if you find a guy and then you will believe that love is possible! You just gotta find the right guy 🙂

[Asker]

Go run behind right guy. I will run behind god, who is the only the right person for me.

[LaurenM1997]

Why so cold? Only trying to help you 😬

[laly520]

that was interesting to read

tho personally I used not to believe in it but I do now

sometimes all it takes is one right person

[Asker]

No right person. U only read why I don't believe in so called human love. Now read about that "love" which I believe - go check under "anonymous comment"

[laly520]

I did check what u said below
we do believe in different things but its alright

[Asker]

Yeah but "common human love " isn't real love. Anyways it's not my perspective, but it's great humans, saints perspective and I totally agree with them

[laly520]

r u into philosophy by any chance? I mean do u read philosophical books or?

[Nikki1989]

I have been in love for the last 10 years, so it must be real, right?

[XHopelessRomanticX]

Lol ok

[Asker]

Go read my reply - under "someone" comment.
U will know more about this :)

[Asker]

*under "anonymous" comment

[XHopelessRomanticX]

I’m laughing because look at my username 😁

[Asker]

Ic🙂