Dude honestly my cousin went through the exact same thing, I am going to say the same thing to you even though I am younger than you "Grow a pair of Balls" :@. So what if she wants to get a divorce, your life shouldnt end there. You are still a young guy, you have your whole life ahead of you and if she does not wants to be a part of it than FINE. I know that your heartbroken, but the best way to get over this is to stop being sad. Go out with your friends, party have fun and if you don't have any friends there is nothing wrong in going to Bars or Clubs alone and meeting new people. Start to keep yourself busy, enroll in courses that can upgrade your skills and make you financially more stronger. Join a gym, get in shape but keep yourself busy. My cousin was deeply in love with his wife and appearently she wanted a divorce because she wanted to find herself, he was heartbroken and literally left distraught. He quit his job, finished Grad school, joined a Gym and made new friends and I can see how he has bounced back even stronger than before. While his ex wife just bumped from guy to guy, just last week he told me his ex wife called him and wants to get back togather with him. He simply flipped her off because his life is much better now, he is dating girls that are much more beautiful than her and more successfull than her. Buddy just stop thinking about her, she is not the only girl in the world. Go out have fun, improve yourself and trust me things will start getting better for you. I know its not easy but that is the only option you have, if she has moved on than so should you. Dwelling about the past will only make you sad and will eventually lead to depression, don't do this to yourself man. I saw what my cousin went through but he picked himself up and came out stronger than before, I don't want you to go through the same pain he did at the early stages of his divorce.
P.S. Sorry about the long answer :P but I just don't want you to fu** up man.
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Did you get divorced eventually? what's the status of your marriage ?I'm in the same situation and I don't known what to do
First I want to say as a woman from the bottom of my heart I feel your pain. Sometimes when people marry young this can happen. She thinks it will be so much fun going out, etc., etc. In reality, it's the same sh*t over and over again out there. So many people are looking for a secure relationship with someone who loves them. Just like notorious eagle wrote, your wife may find the grass isn't greener and she'll bounce from guy to guy. SHE does not deserve what you have given her. It looks concrete she is leaving. Right now, your sufferring will not ease up because she is still living there. It's bad enough telling you she is not in love with you...but to go out to date and party and then come home must be making you sick. SHE is making her choice to leave you so she needs to leave if she has any empathy of what she is doing to you, she will do this immediately. I hope she has somewhere to go and you can tell her to leave NOW. 7 years is a long time. You are going to have to go through some terrible healing time before you feel normal again. It is affecting your work life and everything. You may want to see a counselor...not to get back together, but as a place to go where you can talk to someone. It will help. I know your friends are telling you to go out and have fun but take one step at a time...get her out of the house first, start feeling a little better and then start going out. Sorry for the long post...I wish I could hug you.
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