Are you a person that assumes a lot?

[Justneedtokno]

So the last person I was dating stated that I assume a lot.

In my eyes, I would ask him questions, and if he didn’t give me answers to certain things then I prepare for the worst situation. And which, in the end it did, we aren’t together.

[AydenHazor]

I make assumptions based on what information I have in hand. If someone intentionally doesn't answer a question, then yes, I will form an assumption based on their aversion

[Alex8736]

people that always assume need to break the word in half where it makes an ass of U and an Ass of Me

[Justneedtokno]

Lol 😂 why can’t you just answer straight questions and effectively communicate. I’m still learning myself to say how I feel, but I was, I have to protect myself

[Alex8736]

I pretty much go with the flow and if something seems off with someone i'll just ask if everything is ok

[Justneedtokno]

But how are you getting to know that person if you don’t ask questions is fine to go with the flow for a little bit but not knowing nothing about you and a person gets annoyed if you’re just saying hey, what kind of food do you like are willing to try? That’s a problem

[Alex8736]

funny you said that cuz i started seeing someone before and everytime i would try to initiate a conversation to get to know her i would only get 1 word answers so after a few weeks i started talking to someone else who was very outgoing and when things were cruising along I get a random call from the one word answer girl who suddenly had a lot to say but by that time it was too late cuz i gave every effort but it was like u was talking to myself

[Justneedtokno]

See, that’s what I’m saying maybe it’s just because people aren’t always outgoing. And sometimes for myself I need to see if you don’t stick around first before trying to put in too much effort. I can’t be the only one to hold a conversation.

[Alex8736]

exactly and neither of us can read minds so communication is definitely key and understanding each other's likes and dislikes

[Justneedtokno]

Yeah, well. They were annoyed that I ask questions and it would be one word responses. They only communicated through text messages so I didn’t matter cause I feel like what are you here for if you’re just here for sex, I’ve already given you that option to admit in the beginning

[Alex8736]

100%

[AviatorTom]

No, I rarely assume things. It's safer that way. Kind of like the similar thing... trust, and verify.

[Sixgunsound]

Ronnie for the win!

[AmeerX]

I do assume a lot but I will tell you I let people lead on (not talking about relationships or dating) but I get what the other guy is going to tell even before they speak up. I think I got this from my mother's side 😅.

Anyhow, making assumptions and confirming them is nothing to be defensive about. You know what they say, trust but verify.

If you feel something doesn't make sense, it probably isn't right.

[VIVANT]

💯💯💯

[AmeerX]

@VIVANT lol you also wrote a response similar to mine. vivant she doesn't listen to me. She wants to marry and I told her to enroll in a bride agency. Lots of serious guys can marry her and she is wasting time on tinder and hook up sites.

[Justneedtokno]

I don’t use apps for dating. And I do want to marry, but I’m not forcing myself into something right away. Now you’re giving false information, sir

[AmeerX]

Sorry 😐, I got it a bit wrong.
But it's not forcing. You are not going to be forced to accept just anyone. Just your goals will be same. You and the other person will be wanting same

[Justneedtokno]

Marriage is a goal, but is not an end goal. Marriage is an important, major decision that you are agreeing to spend your life together and most people don’t even fully understand themselves once they start merging with another person so no, I don’t adhere to dating sites mail, order, brides, or any of that if God will see fit then it’ll happen if not, then it won’t.

[DizzyDesii]

I dont think you assumed. You investigated and he couldnt give you a straight answer. He beat around the bush if anything

[VIVANT]

That’s convenient for him to blame you bc he wouldn’t respond lol what a coward.

[VIVANT]

As for me I ask questions. I do have initial assumptions but I will verify before I draw conclusions. Mist oriole are terrible at answering questions they make you feel like you have sone motive other than truth. Direct communication is important to me so I don’t get along with mist people. Very few are direct and those are the only who I can trust & who don’t aggravate me bc I really hate games & bs… I keep things on a shallow level with the rest of the people.

[VIVANT]

Most people * (not mist oriole)

[SnowedIn]

I assume very little to nothing and ask lots of questions or communicate to confirm.

[The_Shadow_Dweller]

I firmly believe that the root of all problems is assumption alone. You stop doing that, many problems in your life will get solved like that.

[Justneedtokno]

It’s not easy to not have a certain idea of the way things would go. I plan a lot and try not to, but certain things.

[Andres77]

Yes, to a point. Unless I have to act on it and then I’d need to clarify things

[Anonymous]

I assume you don’t mean don’t mean over all.
I assume you mean just in dating.
I don’t actually ever assume because assuming is bad.
I assume that isn’t the answer you are looking for?

[lightbulb27]

I tend to make a lot of guesses and suspect those are assumptions. it's like a fun game.

[NathanDavis]

I prefer to know for sure, so I find out

[Sixgunsound]

Assuming gets you into avoidable trouble.

[eagle1951]

i never assume anything

[krin_m]

I try not to.