Shouldn’t you do easy things you wouldn’t normally do for the person you love sometimes?

[Anonymous]

my boyfriend and i go out on dates but when i want to do certain things he doesn’t want to like when i asked to go to a ball his dad was going to & told him we didn’t have to stay long he said it’s not his thing. which is cool but then today his dad had his four wheeler and golf cart out and i asked his dad could his son drive us & he said he doesn’t know how to drive it in a joking way but if his son asked and wanted to learn he would’ve let him. we talked about this and my boyfriend said he’s supposed to be happy doing things to and not bored. and i said i under but you do things you wouldn’t do for the person you LOVE sometimes like this easy task of driving around the neighborhood for 5mins 😂i was so upset i was like what’s next

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+1 y

We talked about it and he apologized he’s done a lot for me :) i was just making sure nothings changed

[SteveSmith1985]

Well relationships all require compromises.

So, I'd be willing to bet that SOMETIMES you agree to plans that aren't your first-choice of what YOU would like to do because you know it's something that HE really wants to do. That's exactly as it should be SOMETIMES.

And it should be a give-and-take. So yes, it is absolutely fair for you to expect him to make some compromises as well. It's fine if SOMETIMES he agrees to do something that YOU really want to do, even if he'll be "bored" or doesn't really want to do whatever.

That's definitely how any relationship has to work. Or the relationship won't work.

It's a matter of balance. MOST of the time a couple should do things they both really want to do. But each person should totally be willing to sacrifice and do something they wouldn't choose because they know it's going to make their parter really happy.

Several of my ex girlfriends were serious "dancers". Like they had dance-classes 6-days-a-week and dance was something that was SUPER important to them. A giant part of their lives.

I fucking HATE dance. I always have. I don't "get it" it doesn't "speak to me" and I really do not enjoy watching dace.

Do you have any idea how many goddamn dance competitions I sat through? A freaking lot.

And... I wouldn't have even THOUGHT about not being there. It was super important to my girl. I sat through that shit with a smile. As you do.

Sounds like you're right.

[Asker]

yep thanks lol

[Guy13]

Yeah and hard ones too IF the partner had a heart for the other person. YOur instincts are right as it relates to serious emotional commitment, therefore, it is likely that the emotionalism and adjoining physicality are being experienced elsewhere.

[Kaneki05]

No one needs to change for you so if they aren't get the message to leave or stay with the person because you like them and that thing don't really matter anyway. The choice is yours.

[Asker]

Its not that deep but yeah if things get worse then i’ll see what to do thanks