Are you insecure if your partner’s ex looks better than you?

Question

Do you insecure bout that or just chill about it?

Finchie40 · Accepted Answer

Just depends on how she treats me , if she constantly compares me to her ex like he was this amazing person then I will lose respect and interest in her and feel it be a matter of time before she threw in the towel on me , so I would walk away from her before she can even consider doing that to me , if she brings up her ex out of the blue from something that reminded her of him then that wouldn’t bother me too much , it’s still disrespectful but it isn’t as bad as constantly hearing about an ex , if someone constantly compares you to an ex , it’s best to walk away from that person and realize you deserve someone that makes you a priority. Your ex is an ex for a reason , if they were such an amazing person , they wouldn’t be your ex period , Someone that holds onto an ex shouldn’t even consider getting involved with someone else because they are clearly not over their ex , they are holding onto something that is gone and honestly they are probably the reason the ex left them in the first place or cheated on them , Most girls hold onto an ex for whatever reason, and little does she realize it’s killing her relationship with her new partner , Most guys won’t tolerate it and feel it’s total disrespectful cuz he thinks how would she feel if he was constantly throwing his ex in her face. Relationships only survive when you remove selfishness for each other and make each other your priority , if you can’t do that for your partner they will not be able to do it for you , Respect each other and eliminate all things that can add fire into your relationship and you will finally see love grow and be happy and secure in your relationship , cuz when you only think of yourself you will be used and treated like a convenience that you choose to do

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

Sounds like you are likely cyber stalking your ex. It’s driving you nuts and depressing you isn’t it? It takes one to know one.

First off there is no guarantee he sees her as physically more attractive vs. your personal judgment. Unless you’re obese or and she’s a fitness model or something then there is no guarantee it’s looks alone. Women do have some fair judgment on other female attractiveness but you will be able to judge a girl’s looks the same way a man does.

Anyway as painful as it is to accept there is really nothing you can do about this. I realize it’s much easier said than done. I’ve been there. I personally never wanted my ex back BUT I just wanted 20 mins of closure about something exceedingly cruel she said to me. That’s it. But she had to see me as less than human to make herself feel better about her own bullshit. When I came to realize how selfish that was in itself and part of me is glad she didn’t stay with me.

You have to realize that all the negative mental energy you put into this won’t make him back. Your brain is lying to you via the scarcity complex. Humans fear more of losing something than hoping to gain something. Remember you are not thinking clearly due to chemicals fucking with your mind.

However I just have to ask. Imagine if a guy on GaG asked this exact same question? Would people be as gentle with their responses? I highly doubt it.

Allison20 · Accepted Answer

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TenderFantasy · Accepted Answer

Maybe a little but it really wouldn't matter. They already broke up so why should I be worried? I mean, if they were really going to make it work, they would have already done so. She's from his past. The only thing that would make it way worse was if they had a child together, and unfortunately for me, they did!

Anemone978 · Answer

When I was younger the idea of ex's and them looking better than me used to make me very insecure. Now that I'm older it's like who gives a shit.. if you are with me obviously there is something you like better..

TacosRAwesome · Answer

It depends on how good looking I'm feeling at the time. Like if I'm looking my best then she could be a super model and Ill be fine. If I'm looking like shit, she could be slightly hotter shit and I'll be sad.

Anonymous · Answer

I honestly wouldn't care or think about it. Even if he was in love with her and she dumped him and he didn't dump her and she broke up with him, but if he is with me I'd give them a better reason to be happy and move forward but I certainly wouldn't make myself the rebound person for him or be used. Over all I wouldn't care who looked better.

Anonymous · Answer

That really depends on how she treats me. I mean if he was much better looking, and she treats me bad then it's pretty clear she just slumming and really doesn't like me. I may not be the most attractive guy, but I am a decent human being that cares about the people I love. I deserve the same back. I'd rather be alone than deal with that kind of disrespect.

Fanfare690 · Answer

No one looks better than me in my eyes. Except if she's a super model. Eventho my baby is fine as fuck Hed never be able to handle a model😂😂

AydenHazor · Answer

With body dysmorphia, I honestly think most people look better than me. If a partner has chosen to be with me, they've chosen me for a reason and I'm happy with that. I'm not, nor should I be, in competition with their exes.

Rockstarrrrr · Answer

No actually it would make me feel bad if they look worse lol... if they look good or better that means she always had a nice taste which is cool

spartan55 · Answer

Girls do that because they compare themselves to everyone.

genericname85 · Answer

no, i actually get more secure then. cause i know then that clearly i've not been chosen for looks exactly. right?

JustinTheGreat · Answer

My partners exes don’t look better than me so I have nothing to be insecure about lol

Kingofkings1992 · Answer

That’s entirely subjective. Just because you think she looks better, doesn’t mean he feels the same way. Besides, looks aren’t everything that matters. Great looks with a trash personality will send just about everyone running.

Ms_Facesitter · Answer

Heck no, because I'm better, he picked me. She's in the past.

NostalgiaSenpi · Answer

I don't understand why people care. They're an ex. Time to move on. Put on your big boy pants or your adult panties and move on.

Reem12345reem · Answer

Yes I would be insecure

icedragoom · Answer

Nope cause she is with me and not with them

Anonymous · Answer

I'll let you know if that ever happens

Wise4myage · Answer

No, that's stupid.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes I am

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