Do you feel that the people that rejected you in the past really knew you?

[es20490446e]

Yes, they rejected me because we were incompatible or they really didn't like me

No, they rejected me because of who they projected I was

[Anonymous]

No, most didn't know me or care to know me. I think that's still the case.

I think they see short ugly guy with some "dorky" hobbies who doesn't make "enough" for them... (and what they want is likely to be covered by only 3-5% of the population), and that's what they care to know. And if they know a select few other (good) things, they turn them into bad things.

So no, they don't know me. And even if a select few do claim to know me (like they might know some of my family, or my pets names, or maybe a favorite movie...) they don't want to look deeper.

[es20490446e]

Maybe this will help you, but as a kind of good looking man I usually get the same impression from women. And it is rarely true.

Women are just like that. They hide their attraction, and they only let you know when they are absolutely sure it will come out as a good thing.

Meanwhile they just pretend not to like you at all, and even dislike you.

[Chazmatazz269]

There are lots of types of rejection. Divorce is rejection, for example. If a couple is married thirty years and then they divorce, they knew each other pretty damn well. In some cases, it’s that knowledge that leads to divorce. It’s called “irreconcilable differences”. You have to know yourself and your partner extremely well to be certain reconciliation is out of reach.
I’ve been rejected by women who knew me quite well. I’ve been rejected more often by women who didn’t know me at all.

[es20490446e]

Well, then you just need to find the right target.

[midnightmoon05]

It doesn’t matter. Rejection is not necessary about me.
attraction works in a funny way.
I have rejected plenty before i got to know them. I was just not into them. I don’t waste time on those who I know it’s not going to work out.

[Jamie05rhs]

@midnightmoon05 How would you know, though?

[es20490446e]

@Jamie05rhs That's the question I have been asking myself.

[Jamie05rhs]

@es20490446e Well, for a man's attraction to a woman, that's based on her genetic makeup. So, whatever genes her parents gave her, that's what she is. She either has it (for him) or she doesn't. (The only variable being if she is obese. Because obesity can hide one's natural beauty.)

But for a woman's attraction to a man, it can be a bit different. Because, since women aren't as shallow as men are, they can be looking at other things besides just physical looks. And besides genetic makeup, they could be looking at hairstyle, facial hair, physical build, clothing, stature, gait, scent, demeanor, and confidence. As well as other things that she can find out by talking to him.

[midnightmoon05]

I always knew what I want. Yes, usually just by talking.
I don’t out my heart in till I get to know them.
So in essence, I “rejected” them till I get to m ow them.
First date is just interviews. Meet, physical appearance - do they take care of themselves. Do they put thoughts into how they dress. Are they punctual. Table manner?
How they communicate? Are they a good listener?
Do they have money? Jk!!! Jamie knows I’m kidding. 🤣

[Jamie05rhs]

"So in essence, I “rejected” them till I get to know them."
@midnightmoon05 I certainly hope you didn't tell them that.

[Jamie05rhs]

"First date is just interviews..."
And wow... All this time I thought first dates were just supposed to be for measuring "chemistry"!

[midnightmoon05]

@Jamie05rhs maybe other people are diff. It has worked out for me. 😃

[Jamie05rhs]

@midnightmoon05 Okay

[LittleSally]

I believe most people will, rightfully, say B is the correct answer.

It's just logical - most people don't bother to get to know a person before attempting to jump into some kind of a relationship, unfortunately.

[es20490446e]

Why?

[LittleSally]

Why don't people bother getting to know someone before jumping into a relationship?
Stupidity and hormones trump common sense I guess.

[es20490446e]

In one instance I knew the girl for a year and a half, and I got a good impression of her. But when I dated her she was incredibly abusive.

In other situation the girl looked very well cared. But when I visited her home basically she was living in the middle of ruins.

She didn't even had an armchair. She watched TV by sitting on an old mattress on the floor, in the dark.

Her bed didn't have sheets. Just a yellowish dirty mattress.

So many times you don't really know who you will be dating till you actually start dating them.

[LittleSally]

That is very true.

[Guy13]

Let the Past rest in what it was and check out that booty walking by…. Who or What were we talking about, sorry 👀

[es20490446e]

Yeah.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

I thought that dates were the time you were supposed to get to know someone, so I usually asked women out based upon what I could infer from their looks and brief interaction with them, for the most part. They rejected me the sabe way that I accepted them. I don't blame them at all. Preliminary analysis indicated to them that I wasn't compatible. I get it. Nobody wants me. It's a fact of life.

[es20490446e]

Maybe identify the main reason, and improve that.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Considering it could be anything and I don't feel like trying to hunt down these women, no. I'm working on accepting that basically all women I could come across could reject me and deal with it by not bothering.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

I have abandonment issues I often push people away especially women who tell me I’m attractive because I don’t believe it and it feels like they’re making fun of me so I convince myself that they wouldn’t like me anyways and never be myself around people

[es20490446e]

Just for being a man I always assume that women have certain degree of attraction towards me.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Yeah but your mom is the first woman you ever meet or interact with and if she didn’t want me it’s hard to believe that any other woman would

[es20490446e]

That's the same as saying that everyone is the same.

[PainusNdeeAnus]

Is it? How many women have you met that loves you as much as your mother?
“ No woman will ever love you like your mother” -Mike Tyson

Everything your woman wife/girlfriend does for you is for her survival but everything your mother does for you is for your survival

[es20490446e]

He meant when your mother isn't fucked up.

[AdithyaR]

They definitely did. It's getting to know me that would make them want to reject me.

[es20490446e]

Maybe change the main reason for that.

[AdithyaR]

I would if I knew the reason, uptill now all I know is that I'm fundamentally unappealing 🤣

[es20490446e]

It shouldn't be that difficult to spot, if you look at it thoroughly.

Most of the time it's just that women don't feel free to explore that dimension of you, either because you look unapproachable, or because you are forcing the situation.

[AdithyaR]

I'm pan so it's both men and women. Although you maybe onto something about the unapproachable point, cause I've never approached anyone myself.

[es20490446e]

Well, that could be a disadvantage.

[AdithyaR]

I get it, it can be hard to approach someone someone who never leaves their house 😅

[es20490446e]

That is why it is hard to approach me.

Because when I leave my house it happens quite the opposite.

And I kind of dislike that too, because I have to deal with plenty of people I don't really like as a person for having a relationship.

[AdithyaR]

Ah i see. In my case the only time I go out nowadays is my daily gym time and when i go grocceries shopping and both are times when i don't wanna be talking to people.

[es20490446e]

Maybe just once a week doing something more social. Group activities are nice.

[AdithyaR]

I've been advised the same by others but legit couldn't be bothered to do so. But then again I'm not exactly upset about being single so i guess it ain't an immediate issue.

[Sour-rose]

We were kids at the time. Of course one of us had to break it off.

[Agape93]

Nope. They rejected me and thus gave 0 time to get to know me.

[lightbulb27]

of course not, and I rejected others based upon my projections (unfair) of them.

[es20490446e]

Yepes.

[Anonymous]

Anyone who rejects someone, doesn't know the person they are rejecting. Even if they accepted them, it would be true.

[es20490446e]

Ummmm...

[genericname85]

i assume it mostly had to do with superficial attraction tbh. not so much about character.

[es20490446e]

Probabilistically probable.

[Tomisworthless]

They rejected me without me ever asking. One look at me and they are disgusted and deem as no deserving of respect or love

[es20490446e]

Their problem.

[Tomisworthless]

Nobodies missing out lol believe me

[es20490446e]

I don't :P

[LiamJHayden]

I tend to cold approach, so there is no way they could have known me.

[es20490446e]

Would you recommend cold approaching compared with some other method?

[SnowedIn]

Nope; not did they take the time.

[malwins]

Why would i think rejection is about me

[es20490446e]

Is it a question?

[malwins]

Yeah i mean they could have sb else

[Teriyaki70]

No clue

[es20490446e]

Okay 🙂