On dating apps, should you swipe right on everyone or only those you find somewhat attractive?

[Avcfhcic]

Had a bit of a debate with a friend and want to know what everyone else thinks!
Arguments are:
- You need a physical attraction to someone
- You don't know what someone is like until you talk to them.
What do you think?

Everyone

Attractive to you

[PatriceONeal]

Men will date close to their attraction level like a 5 will go for a 5 6 or 7. And 4s looks for 4 5 6s. Women on the other hand. No matter their "rating" are looking for 10s. This is what's offsetting the dating culture. The hoe phase that women are all about can only be stopped by their choice. It's up to them becuase they are the ones allowing it.

I'm no Bible thumper but the Bible distinguishes a difference in selecting a partner. It says to find one that's suitable not necessarily the most attractive or richest person you can find. I think hunting for the most attractive is a Neverending story.

[Little_Bumblebee]

Don't understand why you would swipe on someone you don't find attractive...

[Avcfhcic]

He said about personality and feelings can grow.
I don't really buy that

[Little_Bumblebee]

You cannot force an attraction, and I don't feel like it's a good way to think as if "anything will do"

Now, personality compatibility can increase attraction, and I've found I prefer actually meeting someone in real life, as I cannot really feel attraction with only a picture, it says nothing about how that person acts, speaks, smells, tics, mannerisms etc.

But I don't think it's good to just swipe on everybody like that, you need a better screening process than that.

[Avcfhcic]

Yeah I was always going into it saying I'm going to swipe on girls I find attractive or potentially attractive, since photos and real life do differ slightly.
But my friend said I was being naive and not giving myself a good opportunity, and I disagreed, hence the question here

[Little_Bumblebee]

Sounds like he's just trying to get "someone," or "anybody", while it more sounds like you're trying to find the right one.

[Avcfhcic]

No he's fortunately got a girlfriend. I'm the only single Pringle in my group

[Little_Bumblebee]

Ahh, sorry to hear that if it makes you unhappy.

Funny thought though: Isn't it weird we say "single as a pringle," when it's the least single chip there is? I mean, the chips are literally spooning in the can the whole time :P

[Avcfhcic]

Wow stop making me feel bad 😂 don't make me want to be a Pringle

[Avcfhcic]

I'm happy for them of course! But it does get me down that I'm the only one without a girl and also a virgin...

[Little_Bumblebee]

The pringles are out there living their best life :P

But yeah, I get that it's rough seeing others have what you really wish to one day experience.
I especially felt that in my teen years before I got my first boyfriend.
Just a word of advice that I myself discovered:
With my first boyfriend, I was much more in love with the idea of love and a boyfriend, than I was in the actual person, and I ended up being with the wrong person for way too long.

[Avcfhcic]

I'm sorry to hear that. Take the positives though of the experience!
I do worry that as time goes on that "desperation" takes over to an extent. But hopefully it doesn't get that far

[Little_Bumblebee]

Yeah, you learn throughout your whole life and it did give me a lot to reflect upon.
One is always to follow your gut, ask yourself how you feel when you're together with them, and stuff like that.

I hope you find someone you want to be with - and the other way around as well of course.
Until then, just live your best life, better enjoy it, you know? :)

[Avcfhcic]

Thank you 🥰
Wish you the best in your endeavours too, find your honey 😎

[Little_Bumblebee]

Heh, thank you, I'll do my best when the time comes ^_^

[CoolCatMar1]

Attractive to u

[Avcfhcic]

Glad you agree with me, that's what I swipe on.
I do think you can become attracted to someone but I think it works better having that instant attraction

[CoolCatMar1]

Exactly

[Wise4myage]

Just the ones I don't find attractive.