I have used dating apps on and off for fifteen years, in addition to basically all the methods I could think of. Sure, I didn't use them for more than three months at a time and took a one to two months break, but I did try.
I mostly swiped right, with the exceptions of single moms and women I'm not remotely attracted too. I even swiped right on women that were half the world away, thinking that they may decide that a green card marriage is possible and that we could be married for a life time. I used to be a hopeless romantic, but I no longer think it's possible. Women don't want me and even I hate myself.
Left more often than not. These women are ugly. Plus these "dating sites" have started doing this thing where they'll take dudes my age and only let me look at like 37 years or older women as if that's what I want to bang. I have to lie about my age now... that's a fact...
These sites seemed to have also banned my shirtless pics...
So you see they're not only trying to give the old hags a fair shake, they're also trying to give the dorks that don't look as good as me without their clothes on a fair chance. This isn't the old days when I'd get all the pussy off of Craigslist personals (the government banned it) and now it's a whole new box of rocks.
Where are some homosexuals... I'd like to ask them if they banned shirtless pictures off of Grinder and shit like that as well. I bet you they didn't. Just us straight guys get shafted until the dating sites are pointless to even try to do. 10 years ago I could pull tons of puss off of a site like hotornot or tinder... not anymore.
I've been out with this guy I met on a dating app and he was surprised how many matches I got meanwhile he said that there were mostly hoes on there and not many seriously looking girls also he got a lot less matches or girls just never answered his messages. So obviously I was mostly swiping left. Got on on few dates mind you the guys were very good filtered and they still turned out to be players, controlling etc. For me to success in this online dating game I would need time and energy. Which now I don't have either since I'm really busy with my studies. I was chasing love but thanks to my life experiences I had learned that in all honesty I'm not missing out on nothing. If I ever came to conclusion that yeah this is the best place for me to find my partner then only if I'm stable, with plenty of time and a mastered strategy. And I suggest y'all do the same. Otherwise your going to fail again and again and wonder why.
I'm gonna say what you probably won't like to hear, but you say you filtered and they turned out to be players, controlling, etc. So obviously you did not filter properly. There are plenty of guys on dating sites that treat you only with respect and are looking to settle and not play around. The criteria that you tend to check on seems to correlate to a specific kind of personality. And then you fall into that trap of getting tired of the same cycle rinse and repeat and taper off from dating. Gotta learn to read people's true intentions.
My friends and i tried it once for fun. I was all for swiping right if the guy was hot, but once i scrolled through their profile description or pics and saw that he was either shirtless OR hugged up on his pet/mom OR smoking OR drinking OR trying to show off a car OR playing video games OR watching anime THEN I lost interest and swiped left. So yea i think i swiped left on most. Im sure they swiped left on me as soon as I said in my description that I preferred close in age, no indoor pets and that I do not hookup. Yet i somehow still got messages from most of what I didn’t want. Only the pet lovers avoided me 😭🤣
Definitely more left than I should. Online dating is an attraction game if you don't find someone somewhat attractive you swipe left. If I find you attractive then I read your profile and look for any red flags. I have been doing better with swiping right more than I use to, getting closer to 50/50 but doesn't seem to matter because I'm pretty sure everyone does the same or super picky on looks.
Mostly left. Just to be honest the most girls you see on dating apps are just not pretty, underage while being on there with an fake age, use Snapchatfilters on all their pictures (this is no 2014), have no pictures of themselves but only in groups or just some random pictures from Google, are on the dating app just for sex, use drugs/smoke or are FAR from my type.
Didn't vote but back like 10 years ago when I used them, I was desperate so I was constantly swiping right. But I got like no matches because I didn't know how to take good photos. 💀
Lmao damn bro I started on dating apps when I was 17. First one was pof when I was in high school. And they barely even existed back then 😂 Wtf did you use? E-harmony? Match. com? 😂😂😂
I was probably one of the first to inspire the new landscape. They saw all my futile attempts & were inspired. I haven't always been a great pioneer. But it is a title I will gladly wear. Under my spandex ofc.
Lmao we started around the same time. Technically since I started around 17 that means it was 13 years ago for me. I think I win that pioneer award, even though I also failed epicly 😎
Well luckily no adult woman took you up on that. There are adult woman out there who would too. Sure it was exciting for you at that age but the other person could of unknowingly be playing with fire thinking you were 18.
But this is very scary you were able to create a profile at that age. There are supposed to be age verification checks on that.
@blueonblack22 I can't remember entirely, but I think the age verification wasn't as strict even just 10 years ago as it is now. Same thing with cancel culture and all that stuff nowadays. There's no freedom 😅
@HawkPerception I am completely fine with age verification for a whole multitude of reasons. Both morally and legally. Protect underage people but to protect adults who think they are talking to 18 year olds.
Cancel culture is a completely different story. That’s literally treating people who have dissenting viewpoints as criminals. It’s heinous but we are starting to see blowback about that in our culture.
@Sonorous yeah I figured. But again you would have suffered no consequences. The other person could risked their entire life and reputation for doing that.
It’s one thing they did that knowing you were underage. Quite another if you misrepresented yourself. But again very very few teenage boys can pass for grown men. Most women probably knew immediately you were under 18.
When I used it, mostly swipe to the left for multiple reasons. Plus, having too much matches is overwhelming and so I don’t swipe most of the time lol.
Personally I prefer swiping left or right to men in person because it's 3d, i can hear his voice and seem him live in person face to face man to woman. I mean if the feelings are mutual we feel each other and our souls are into one another then I swipe right and I hope he does too.
This is exactly how I feel! I don't us apps for dating for theo reason. My brother was in an app and a few guys kept asking him to go out and he always said he wasn't into guys and wanted a girlfriend, but he ended up with an older guy (a customer) from work who was really sweet and took care of him. He has had difficulty adjusting to it but it was something that only could have happened in person
I’ve been told I have high standards. To be fair most of profiles on dating apps now are bots or OF girls. So unlike a few years ago, there are more attractive women on dating apps than non attractive ones.
I mean I think dating apps are for people who are a bit desperate but I did make one due to curiosity about the app and it got awkward real quick because I noticed people and people noticed me
You don't have to push your self-consciousness on to me 😊 young you're damn right. When you're surrounded by friends and family you don't seem to worry about this insignificant stuff
Not pushing anything. You said it yourself. "... and it got awkward real quick because I noticed people and people noticed me." Meaning you care what others think greatly, which in turn makes you self conscious. Gotta work on your English buddy.
Welcome to a boring century. When I still used dating apps, they weren't about 'swiping' :) Knowing the basic idea, though, I tend (ed) to ignore 90-95% of the market offers.
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