Me and this guy are in the early dating phase. We’ve been going on dates and getting to know each other, but it’s definitely too early to put a label on “what are we”.
Overall, he’s been doing everything right, we’ve got great chemistry, he’s being a gentlemen, treating me right and it’s always a good time with him. The only thing I’ve noticed is our love languages are very different.
I’m someone who loves words of affirmations and am pretty simple. I also like when a guy asks me questions. But his way of showing love is gifts. He also converses differently like spontaneous topics where eventually I’ll bring up facts about me but doesn’t exactly ask a lot of questions.. And the thing is, he does remember those little details about me which is great. And don’t get me wrong I appreciate so much the gifts, but it feels like a lot? And another pro is he has been open on if he does something that’s affecting the other person, he wants to know and fix it.
so my question is, is this something I bring up to him now or later? It’s like I know he cares and I feel safe and comfortable with him, but again I don’t know if it’s too early to bring this up. Because I could tell he really likes me and has been open about how comfortable he is with me, but that’s because I know his love language and ask questions…
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Since it’s on your mind, no, I don’t think it’s too early.
Here is the important thing to remember going into that conversation in my opinion. Everyone is different. You can’t go into it with massive expectations. Your goal should be to learn more about him, share more about yourself, and move a BIT closer to a center point.
After that conversation I’d also get him gifts a bit more. Not over the top. But if that’s his love language, you should work to do that a bit more. And he should work to accommodate your love language a bit more.
It’s not easy to do. Guys do tend to struggle at communication more than girls it seems like. So don’t go in expecting a ton. The goal is to slowly move closer to a center point.
And based on everything you said, he’ll truly take it to heart and work towards that. If not, that’d probably be a bit of a red flag to me.
Thank you, this was super helpful!
Glad to help! Good luck.