How do I tell a guy I dont get intimate until I am in a relationship without scaring him?

[cdimples99]

[Guy13]

Go with your instinct, however, always being upfront is not always good. See if there is a vibe and all that before making it more stressful with this conversation. A time will come and you will know it. Usually, it is the first Stop/No... at least this is when we expect to have the Expectations, Standards, and Vision conversation. Do NOT drown out the possibility of something developing trying to be upfront and OCD Neat...

[coachTanthony]

If that is a non negotiable then the right man for you will either respect it and align with you on that or move on. One thing you don't want to do is dance around it. You scare him off then is that the guy you want? Hope not.

[itsalyssaagain]

You will only scare a man who doesn’t want a relationship with you.


If he likes you he will be happy to wait.

[LazerBean]

Just do it. Scaring away hoes is always a good thing

[WaterIsland]

You just say that. If that scares him, he isn’t the right guy. Period. He should respect that. You waiting until you’re in a relationship before being intimate is PERFECTLY reasonable. I believe in that choice too for myself. So just say that that you don’t wanna get intimate until you’re in a relationship.

[sweetpeababygirl27]

why are you worrying about scaring him? if he doesn’t respect you, or runs off because you were honest about your boundaries then that lets you know he only wants one thing. stop with the nice girl syndrome and own what you want.

[Anonymous]

Why would you need to tell him? Women today are far too oversexed. If it's a problem he'll say something and then you say that. And either he respects it, he respects your choice or he doesn't. And if he doesn't then you've lost nothing.

[Alex8736]

if thats the first question they ask just ignore and block them.. its best to be honest and straight up where if someone respects you then they will respect your boundaries

[In_Trance]

Just tell him you're not interested