I met this guy and we really hit it off. We texted like crazy before meeting and then met twice and both times he was all over me.
I noticed him pulling away each day and I gave him space but and when I asked him for a coffee he said he really like our interaction, our talks, the physical attraction is amazing and he had fun with me but after he saw the last time, he felt emptiness.
He felt like this isn’t the way it supposed to go in the beginning and he wants to trust himself and don’t go further with the relationship, he made peace with that decision and very stubborn about it.
He said one of the reasons he felt like that is because a week before we met online, he was dating a girl for 3 weeks and even though he knew from the beginning that their relationship won’t last and he deserves better because she was a mess, he still didn’t really got over it.
I’m giving him distance and following a no contact rule for the sake of both of us, but I’m wondering if he will ever change his mind since I know Capricorn stick to their guns.
Any advice?
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Sorry... wrong question. Excuse me.
First of all. Being a Capricorn is irrelevant here. Don’t let that cloud your judgement of the situation and what is really happening here.
I think the bigger question is do you truly want to be his backup plan? If he comes back, that means you’re his backup plan. I wouldn’t tolerate that if I were in your position. He didn’t choose you first. And I personally value someone in a relationship that makes me a priority. But he chose this other girl over you. I wouldn’t want him back.
As for if he will change his mind. No one can read the future. He might. He might not. But today, right now, it’s over. So it being over, is what you have to remember. Don’t live your life for what “could” happen. Make choices and decisions based on what “is” and what is happening now.
He didn’t chose her. He said that even when he met her he knew their relationship is temporary because of the way she was behaving. He’s not gonna get back to her.
If he can’t get her out of his mind, and can’t move on. He chose her right now. Maybe not in the literal sense. But emotionally.
That’s nothing against you. It truly isn’t. It’s just that he’s viewing you as his backup plan. Which isn’t respectful towards you.