I don’t have a problem attracting most men I’m interested in, but I have difficulty relating to most and I’m not easily interested. Those I get interested in have always let me down and I don’t believe that there’s someone for everyone. I’m not damaged. It’s not to do with how hot they are. Guys just fail to meet my standards of being good hearted, generous, funny, smart, loyal and loving. Quite often they’re ordinary or attractive. So that’s not it and sometimes I’m just not feeling it because they’re too nice and lack my level of intelligence. I’d rather stay single and not date, like my best friends do than settle for someone who bores me. What do you suggest I do?
You’re asking two different questions.
The first is about how to find a date who actually interests you. I can’t help a ton. I’m a dude who likes women. I don’t know the ins and outs of attracting men, especially men to whom YOU would be attracted. You can start by being honest with yourself about the importance of physical attraction. If you REALLY value intelligence, knock that shit off. Only dummies believe that nonsense you’re spewing and smart men can smell bullshit from miles away. If you’re smart enough to deserve a smart dude, there’s no point in arguing and we both know it.
The second question was about what i (we) suggest you do. Get comfortable with and accustomed to being single. Use men when you must, but entirely avoid them otherwise. If dating for women is as bad as dating for men is right now, there’s no point in wasting time, energy and money on the kinds of trash that remain available beyond the mid to late twenties. If you can attract those kids, more power to you! You might have a shot! Could they possibly keep your interest as you’ve promoted yourself herein? Highly unlikely.
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Unfortunately as women's intelligence goes up the average chances of them getting married go down. They always seek to have a man who is at least as intelligent as they are, and the higher her own intelligence the more limited the pool is
Question though. Where are you searching for these men?
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A relationship with a person is something that takes time to develop, same with feelings.
You don't just meet someone, and suddenly you are crazy in love with them.
Maybe you find them sexy, but that's it. Feelings come later, if you like the person as a person.Welcome to the world where you cannot trust anyone, where everyone has some kind of flaw and not really good enough for you and where your expectations have been subliminally and DELIBERATELY set by Hollywood and music industry to keep you single, to keep you searching and to keep you sad, angry and depressed.
Stay single and date many guys. I am single and love being with different women.
Yeah stay single. If no guy fits your bill, you're the one with the problem. Not them.
Sounds like a definite you problem. You probably shouldn't date. You sound like a nightmare.
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