Why do some men treat their girlfriend so badly?

[Anonymous]

my best friend has a boyfriend. she‘s really pretty, gets good grades and she‘s really nice. Quite a lot of guys have a crush on her. Her boyfriend seems really sweet and kind but she cries about him so much because he doesn‘t treat her well. He often ignores her, tells her he‘s busy and won‘t talk to her for days. He‘s not as attractive as her, doesn‘t get good grades and I think he should treat her better. why does he behave like this?

I don‘t know how to help her because she cries about him so much and tells me about it and I don‘t know what to say anymore.

[Finchie40]

Tell her to get her head out of his ass and kick this ass to the curb , Most girls like the bad boy type not realizing he is going to keep treating her like shit and sadly to say he is treating her like shit cuz he knows she is pretty and attractive so in a sense he is jealous of her , but most girls Love the asshole dominate type that think their shit don’t stink , She sadly feels she deserves it , cuz she probably doesn’t realize how pretty she is on herself , Guys like him , latch onto girls like her so he can control her and make her feel worthless and that she is lucky to have a guy like him , Girls do this to guys as well , that she feels he gets more attention than she does , like she is jealous of him not realizing he doesn’t really have a clue if he is good looking or not and wonders why this girl treats him like shit , cuz she is trying to control him. It’s a manipulative tactic that insecure, low self esteem people use to keep someone by their side , it’s a narcissistic trait , if she ever has the courage to leave him , he will try to play a victim that she was the one that was in the wrong without pointing fingers at himself blaming her for betraying him and telling everyone else that she is a whore while playing this nice innocent guy so people Feel sorry for him , Say people like him will cheat on their partners cuz they feel their partner is going to cheat on them first pointing fingers at her like she deserved it from the way she treats him , Which is good but in his mind she is playing him , it’s a sad thing to experience and watch , But it happens all the time , Relationships are supposed to bring you peace , not misery , She is in misery if she stays with this kind of guy

[Finchie40]

Thanks for Superb even though I was writing with a jolt of caffeine in me lol

[SoIcyGang]

Because girls have expectations that guys don't even know exist.

To a girl he's being horrible. But to him he's just having a tiny bit of space.

If he was really bad he would say bad things and treat her like shit.

But based on your description thats nothing. That's just a guy that doesn't know that women are wacky and need all these special care tips like a puppy with an instruction manual.

It takes a lot of dating around to see what women want and their wacky crazy ways.

It's all about boundaries anyways. The guy needs to put up boundaries but he didn't. The girl has no boundaries so she has no way to know what is going on or what to do.

I guess you have to put up boundaries with women or else they'll have you carrying them around on your man teat like a baby monkey.

[Wade12345]

no, the man should calm down and set expectations and so should the woman. you don't need to "date around" to know what your boundaries are. You can read or talk to other people and learn from them too you know.

[SoIcyGang]

It's funny you replied to me while I was replying to your question!

I don't know what it takes to learn boundaries. Some girls are insane and you have to make up new rules for a new crazy gal. I feel like you never know what a woman is going to do or act like.

Sometimes they're one way when you meet them but behind closed doors they're completely different. You just never know.

I guess the most important thing is just having the ability to set boundaries at all.

[Rosexøxø]

He probably just doesn’t love her,

OR

Isn’t happy with his own life.

People dissatisfied with their own lives are always anxious/weak/ and irritable, so that could cause them to complain, verbally abuse, or be “mean” to those around them, and even the ones they love, too much of the time.

[anon1903]

If she's such a catch, why is he putting up with his BS? It's not important whether your partner loves you or not, if they treat you badly, leave.

[Guy13]

If the person getting treated badly did not draw any boundaries or set expectations then this is what may happen. Either you set them now and go through a difficult period making him adhere to your Standards or you get out and go the opposite way.

It is likely that your only choice is to go in the opposite direction. I have never seen anything like this workout because you are now seeing the tip of the iceberg.

[genericname85]

who cares? if you're treated badly by your partner, leave them and look for a better one. that's all there is to it.

if someone treats you badly, obviosly they're having some issues. but that's their issues to fix, not yours. so just leave.

[nudetru]

girls seem to not be able to get on without it.. nice guys are boring... being treated good by a guy is interpreted as people pleasing. and weak. . the Drama perpetuated by such actions keeps its fresh edgy .. basically it's how she likes it to be. she loves it
so does he

[boggboss]

Pretty much what the other user said as soon as a guy like him knows a women will let him treat her poorly and she will stay that what he will do

[Paul09]

You can't help someone who doesn't want to help themselves. She's got a line up of men crushing in her, yet she "choses" to be with the idiot instead. She's is the problem. She should leave him!

[FilmGuy93]

Self-centered people are always a little bit stunning that way.

[Anonymous]

Why would she stay with someone that treats her like sh1t? She can find a better guy as there are plenty of single good guys.

[rabbitzzz]

He is not treating her badly, your friend is needy.

[TheSpaceGnome]

Because some women go after bad boys and talk shit about nice guys.

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Because the women let them treat them that way.

[Anonymous]

Sorry to say but he probably dicks her down good and that's what matters most to her

[driven159]

For the same reason women treat their boyfriends badly too they think the world revolves around them

[Jltakk]

Real question is how are these guys getting girlfriends in the first place?

[Anonymous]

she treated me badly she treated me like god damn shit

[Wise4myage]

I question why women stay with such assholes.

[Minahh]

Childhood issues. Their dad treated their mother the same way.

[Minahh]

Because they are abusive fucks.

[mathew1543]

I have no idea why people are like that