Why do men like spoiling women?

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

So… might not be a very good example, it’s just it has come to my mind right now. I don’t know for others but I have almost all my needs met from the guys, I don’t have sex outside of relationships, but apart from that the closeness, a nice dosage of emotional intimacy and all

For example, for me reading a bedtime story is a very intimate thing to do, cause I just love when a man does that for me.

So, there’s this voice actor who’s crushing on me and has absolutely sexiest voice I’ve heard, he has recorded bedtime stories just for me, he had even written his own exclusive stories about me and reads to me and sends me recordings every night.

Now I am talking with this Opera singer, who says I am a very sweet girl and he wants to sing to me. He’s in another city, so he calls me with voice call just to sing for me every night for the past 3 days just so I fall asleep easily.

For me these kind of things are much more sweeter than something materialistic or so on.

However, this way the need of my intimacy is met and I don’t give them anything in return, sometimes even forget responding. They still like doing these for me though. Why’s that?

[Telekinetic-Potato]

These people are artists. All they want is to be loved and have their work bring value to people.

Or they might just be massive simps.

But being able to provide something like that must be a pretty cool feeling. Especially when they probably spend many hours a week doing their voice work.

[Charliefretz329]

Men naturally are providers. That’s what we like to do. Especially for females. It feels better to give. It gives satisfaction, a sense of accomplishment, and pleasure.


For me a simple thank you is soul warming.

[love_conquers_lust]

Why do women allow themselves to become spoiled?

I’d wanted my ex to feel special. It was up to her to decide how her expectations drifted. Vice versa.

[Drdeeznuts1132]

Yes! It makes us feel like we took care of them and loved them. Thats how some of us love. We're PROVIDERS.

[EaterPeter]

Hunter gatherer theory. We love to do things for the woman. Make us feel very good, happy, proud, hero, if we get to do a thing for a woman we care about / like

[Jennz6]

Because all of your sex is in a relationship

[iamasassyguy]

Do you actually like that they bend head over heels for you without you giving them anything in return?

[msc545]

we are coerced into doing this stuff.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

How so?

Like why do these guys feel good doing these things for me without me doing anything in return?

[msc545]

our own neurochemistry coerces us

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

I love nothing more than that. I like it.

It’s just I want to find someone who can do all this as one person, sing to me, read to me, love me and be loved by me…

I feel like these people have parts of what I like but all the traits, I think that’s why I don’t keep talking with them, even though I find their gestures sweet.

[msc545]

No single person has all the traits you desire.

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

My fiance had everything I wanted in a man.

[msc545]

That was YOUR neurochemistry deceiving you.

[Alex8736]

can you be more specific?

[Alex8736]

on a 1st date if someone goes all out they are insecure or trying way too hard.. In a relationship its good to splurge on a special occasion like a birthday, anniversary etc

[LaFemmeFatale_1]

Nope. I mean the guys I don’t have any relationship with.

My boyfriend of course spoiled me. But I have no idea why would strangers read me bedtime stories and be happy or sing me everynight

[Alex8736]

correct me if I'm wrong but would it be fair to say if there is a mutual interest I would personally like someone who can communicate on similar interests, likes/dislikes, and most importantly a sense of humor. Did I miss anything?

[Anonymous]

Deserving women, yes.

[eagle1951]

cause they love them