What if I don’t want a relationship but just do casual dating and sex?

[Anonymous]

I honestly rather do that than be in something serious because I literally have nothing to offer. And I would honestly make a horrible partner.

[MementoMori777]

Proverbs 18:21

The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit


You should stop talking like that, say you are worthy for a relationship and you want a relationship, stop looking at the cons and focus on the pros because when you find someone they will look at the pros and will accept your cons, that's with everyone, ask anyone, everyone has flaws but they are accepted by others, you cons won't stop people from seeing your pros and that's why you should focus on that instead.

[Asker]

Well, my cons and flaws are pretty bad. I don’t have much pros about me.

[MementoMori777]

Are you sure you aren't being bias towards yourself?

[Asker]

I’m 100% sure

[SteveSmith1985]

The most important thing is to be up-front about what it is you want. The only real problem would be "confusion" where someone was dating you and/or sleeping with you... thinking it wasn't casual... when it is. So as long as you're up-front and straight-forward about the casual nature of the relationship/encounter, then that's the most important thing. But if it's what you want, then morally, you're good as long as you're honest about it. 🙂

[Anonymous]

That situation is everywhere. Just do it if u wanna.

[Anonymous]

First of all, you could be a great partner. Anyone could. You just don't know how to change. Most don't. They never learn goal achieving only goal setting. But if you want to just do casual stuff then go for it. It is your life so dont let other people control it and back seat drive it for you.

[razelove]

Then do that. Rather then have "rebounds" when I didn't feel ready for a relationship I did the same thing, it's a lot more satisfying to just be yourself, and honest.

[Vegasrunner]

@sasha0426 nothing wrong w/ that. You're at that age where most single women as themselves that question. The "dirty thirties" is a real thing.

[Asker]

I’ve heard about that. But, would any guy be ok with an inexperienced woman who just wants sex? I know that’s going to be a hit and miss thing.

[Vegasrunner]

@sasha0426 You mean for a long term relationship?

[Asker]

No, just for sex. Nothing long term.

[Vegasrunner]

@sasha0426 I'm asking you are you saying no guy would want a woman like that for a long term relationship?

[Asker]

Oh my bad!
Yes. Well, either that or just for hookups.

[Vegasrunner]

@sasha0426 Not sure if that's true. The average guy struggles to get laid so I ca. See plenty circumstances where if the average guy was banging a girl like that he would try to get into a relationship because he would be afraid to lose access to the p***y.

[slatyb]

Suit yourself. Also maybe get some counseling to talk about your negative self-image.

[Asker]

Why do I need counseling?

[slatyb]

"I literally have nothing to offer" I'm sure that is not true.

[Asker]

What is there to offer?

[Marked_Man]

Nobody has "nothing to offer". You need more self esteem. Don't reduce yourself to being someone's sexual outlet.

[Jamie05rhs]

Don't say that, Sasha. You don't have nothing to offer. You have a lot to offer! You just have to relax and try to be more optimistic. :)

[CAPTAIN-OBVIOUS]

You don’t want to be forever alone. I’ve been there

[Asker]

Like I said, I would make a horrible partner. So I rather just go for sex and that’s it.

[Mansearching]

Nothing wrong with that. Just protect yourself.

[007kingifrit]

this is a comment born from depression not logic. a relationship is the only thing that makes you happy long term

[Jennz6]

Sasha, I agree, I feel the same way about casual dating and sex

[alexking2]

Casual sex is fine! You do what feels best for you :)

[serious]

Okay, it is your life so your choice.

[Stevefiveo]

Just be upfront about it.

[Anonymous]

Are you a man?

[Asker]

Does it look like I’m a man? Jeez 🙄

[Opinion Owner]

Then why do and want casual sex?

[Asker]

Because, like I said, I have nothing to offer and I would make a horrible partner.

[Opinion Owner]

You have sex to offer... no?

[Asker]

Besides that

[Opinion Owner]

Blowjobs?