the cute girls at college were all seeing someone (and mostly straight 😭) and the cute guys, those are rare lol, they too either have girlfriends or boyfriends and i have to back the f off.
is it fair to assume if you're attractive and have decent personality, you're probably dating someone?
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I believe that is generally true.
When someone is very attractive inside and out, they are always on someone’s radar. Someone is always trying to woo them, date them, or court them.
They can have their pick of many other high quality people, since quality attracts quality.
I can think of 3 scenarios in which they may be single:
1. Their standards are extremely hard to come by and they legitimately have not found someone who meets their standards, and they will not settle for less. (NOTE: With high-quality people, this part wouldn’t be superficial reasons like looks/money/status. This may be something more along the lines of finding someone they feel like they have a strong spiritual connection with.)
2. They recently broke up with someone and they are taking some time to do self-care and get over their ex. Then, once they are ready to find love again, they may find it quickly. (So the window of time you can find them will be very short.)
3. They have taken a vow of celibacy for an important reason or cause. (e. g. They are heavily involved in a cause they are willing to dedicate their entire life to. Or maybe their significant other died, and they refuse to move on, because they want to be loyal even after death.)
I’ve always been taken. And when I’ve broken up with someone, usually I’d take 6-12 months or more at least to just focus on myself and intentionally not date anyone.
Then, when I would feel ready to date again, I would usually find someone in under 3 months, and enter into another long-term multi-year relationship.
I’m currently happily taken been in my current relationship of 4 years.
I think it’s not too hard to find someone compatible if you’re well-connected and high quality.
Unless you’re looking for super high ultra compatibility, then it may take longer to find a good match.