I'm a guy and I'm almost 19. I have never had a girlfriend and have never kissed a girl and have never held hands with a girl. I'm bullied since 1st grade. I'm still bullied at school and outside school and I'm bullied in front of girls. Girls my age have many boyfriends and etc. Even guys my age have many girlfriends. I look weird, I consider myself ugly and etc. Girls never noticed me and never notice me. This year I'm going to college. I feel like it will be the same situation there. Girls will not notice me there too. What should I do? I never expect to get asked out by a girl, because girls never do that.
Are girls really a higher level than me?
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You should gain confidence by not talking down about yourself and worrying about what everyone thinks of you. Saying positive affirmations help. Like You should focus on self love before getting in a relationship. Maybe going to the gym? Eating healthier? Getting a haircut that suits your face? Skinecare? Dress better?
And when you get in a relationship, dont think you can't break up with your partner because you’ll never find anyone (because people actually do that for some reason😧). there's like 8 billion people on earth like bffr 😭 also dont try to force a relationship, if someone likes you but you dont like them, dont be in a relationship with them because you think no one else will like you. But you should probably focus on school and your self before girls tbh.
Also you should stand up to your bullies because they’re probably just insecure people 🤷♀️ being a bully is embarrassing, and theyre being pick mes by bullying you infront of girls 💤 so the next time they do something like that, you should say something back
I go to the gym since 1 year but without results. I am on a very strict diet more than a year but no results too. I have OCD and ADHD and my ADHD makes me too lazy to dress good and I have problems in studying - I physically can't study and remember lessons. And there's no way I can get in a relationship with any girl. Girls are a higher level than me, I am weird and shy and can't talk to girls, I am not popular and have no friends. I have never had a girlfriend. I am a virgin. I'm afraid of girls. I suffer from OCD and ADHD and take medications and if they find out I will be considered insane. I'm bullied and I'm physically weak so I can't defeat my bullies. For me all girls in the world are inaccessible, unachievable, impossible to get. They are superior to me and I will remain single for my whole life. One of my biggest fear is talking to girls.
@CSFan you really need to change your mindset, dont say you can’t do something because it just manifests negativity. Tbh i went through the same thing, like rn im in 8th grade but in elementary school i would get picked on my looks and in like 6-7th grade i was insecure about my looks. But it wasn't until the summer of 8th grade when i kind of ignored everyones rude comments (including mine) and just focused on myself. After working on maintaining a positive mindset, i started working on the physical aspect. Now i workout, eat healthier while still having cheat days, journal (which is so helpful!!), and try to become my better self. If you continue to live in a life of negativity and pessimistically, you're just manifesting bad for yourself. Even if you're being “delusional” and saying something like “i have 100 bucks” you're basically manifesting 100 dollars into your life. Like i dont really know how to explain it, but if you research law of attraction and law of detachment. Like it might sound dumb, but it’s helped me gain confidence and stuff.
For the gym part and not seeing results, try eating foods with high protein; refrain from fast food, consistently go to the gym, do longer reps, and somewhat push yourself to the limit. I feel like staying on a strict diet isn't always the best, balance is key.
For dressing up, maybe you can pick out an outfit the day before and wear it the next day, i recommend going to Pinterest for outfit ideas !!! Omg and also wearing cologne or perfumes makes you more attractive. I literally get more compliments from the perfumes i wear and people ask what perfume im wearing. People notice when you smell good and i feel like that makes them want to talk to you more because of how noticeable it can be. I recommend light blue by dolce and gabbana, if its not in your price range there's this website called dossier that sells cheaper scents of expensive scents. Also personal hygiene can really make people like you. (1/2)
@CSFan i wrote so much 😭 but also about remembering things in class, not everyone is the same type of learning, you might be a visual learner or something else, you could take a quiz online to find out what type of learner you are, so you can improve in school! Tbh a lot of girls like shy, nerdy, guys. I feel like you might be overthinking a relationship with a girl, if someone thinks you're insane or weird because you take meds, their opinion shouldn’t matter yk?
I know but I'm the exception when girls can like someone like me. I feel like every girl in the world hates me. But I still somehow care about this. I still hug my blankets every night. Back when I had crushes in the past, my heart was always beating very fast when I was seeing them around school and I always knew that I have zero chance with them, just like with all girls. I have a dream and I hope that when I go to college some girl will like me there. But I know and it's obvious that girls never ask guys out, it will remain a false hope.
@CSFan why do you think every girl in the world hates you? You haven't met every girl in the world 😭 also i heard that people felt ugly when they were going to a small highschool but as soon as they went to college, more people found them attractive, so there's always hope
I think that every girl in the world hates me because from personal experiences, logic and evidence. I'm 100% sure that in college girls will not notice me just like in high school. They all will have boyfriends, some will even have their first kids. I have thought about my state-made burial. I may be buried without audience. When I get old, my burial will consist of only one person who doesn't even know me but this person will at least say some good words about me. And I will be in a grave that is not next to any female partner. Simply, in the future I will be a bag of bones.
@CSFan why are you so mean to yourself? Its like you're self sabotaging yourself by staying in this negative mindset that nothing good will happen to you. If you change your mindset, i kid you not you’ll see a difference
Not really, but thank you for your comments.
@CSFan okay wait i have one more question. Have you ever tried talking to a girl that you liked and was also single?
Nope.