Do girls only hang out with people they consider in their "level"?

[Anonymous]

Is this very common?

[Guy13]

Within the girl cliques, there is a power struggle and everyone has a place. Hanging out with guys that are uglier than you lowers their ranking. they will not do it unless it is family as that is understood by the women. There will also compete over phone number SO if you get a number from anyone, including ugly guy, it counts. NO lesser looking guy friends !!

[Asker]

If girls start getting "Cranky" or "anxious" when a guy they perceive as lower is in their circle because of someone else?

[Guy13]

Yes. V-Holes act rudely to “perceived less than guys”.

[Tomisworthless]

True my cousin is really attractive and his friends are just as cool and handsome growing up I was allowed to hang with them but would be the doormat to the girls they were with I cockblocked several times just by existing and ruining everyone’s sexual tensions

[20alliecat20]

@Tomisworthless Tommy 🤗

[Tomisworthless]

@20alliecat20 ?

[inhua]

for the most part yes.

there's a reason we don't see Kate Middleton hanging around homeless bums.

[Asker]

I'm Just curious

Im considered "homely" or to put it simply

A 6/10 in the face & I've noticed that many of my female neighbors who are around my age tend to get VERY agitated/angered/stressed out if I happen to be around

Is this common if you're not at least a 7+ in attractiveness?

[jennifer_bloom]

I am a spiritual person and I like to associate with people who can stimulate my mind or evoke my sense of compassion and philanthropy. It does not mean I think dumb people are worthless or worthy of punishment but they do not provide me with the mental nourishment I want in a friend.

[Red-Blaze]

Level no, wave abslotly, we got shared intrests, my friends got depth and think beyond the next two minutes
Levels are in ilusion of group that honestly is silly
Only think maybe diffrent is most my friends are healthy, I prefer long term friendships

[Red-Blaze]

Thanks for MHO

[Xoxocutekitty]

"level" is super subjective, like someone can dress totally different but be on the same "level" in terms of values or in terms of hobbies/personal interests.

I tend to find there are very few people who I hang out with that I don't connect with "on some level" because otherwise what do we have in common to talk about?

[KittyKat90210]

I'm not sure what you mean by level. Status? Looks? Intelligence? Money? People basically hang out with people they have something in common with, but women don't necessarily limit our friends to any of these criteria.

[menina]

I can't speak for other girls but for me, there's no such thing as "being my level". As long as I like the person, they respect me and we get along, it's enough for us to be friends or to hang out.

[Asker]

So if most girls either get very cold or standoffish when having to speak to me but are completely "bubbly" with everyone else regardless of gender?

[menina]

Maybe they don't like you. Or they think they're superior.

[Asker]

But why create all the drama?

[menina]

Perhaps they like drama or they're attention seekers.

[Asker]

These types either lower their heads but frown/smirk or look away but with a frown & sometimes narrow their eyes when eyeing me

I literally avoid gals for these reasons

[menina]

Not all girls are like that. You just met the wrong ones.

[Asker]

But the smirking, frowning,& narrowing eyes are typically bad signs?

[menina]

Yes they are.

[Asker]

What were they trying to tell me with these facial expressions?

[menina]

Maybe that they find you boring or that they don't like you.

[Asker]

It's very weird because I've always had this "effect" on females since I was 14

So they have a problem with my appearance?

[menina]

Maybe they do, maybe they don't find you attractive.

[Asker]

So girls have to find you attractive to respect you on some diplomatic level?

I've never understood why me & females in general could never get along & that's from years of personal experience

Almost every gal I HAD to interact with had some sort of BEEF with me right from the get go or eventually

[menina]

That's not what I meant. You said that you had an "effect" on girls, so I thought that you were saying that you're attractive. Sorry if I misunderstood you.

I don't know you, so I can't have an opinion about you. Maybe they don't like your behavior, or what you tell them or they feel uncomfortable around you. It can be due to so many reasons.

[Asker]

The stories I can tell

I'm not overweight nor short by the way

I'm in great shape, have clear skin, I do have a strong jawline,& my cheekbones are "defined" but I don't consider myself "conveniently" attractive

a lot of girls have either tried drama, talked about me in sexual terms (gossip), or have tried to get me to respond to anything they see

But there is a common trait... they avoid looking directly at me whether it's trying to push my buttons or say something about me in a sexual way

[menina]

I guess you have to ask them. Because this seems complicated and confusing.

[Asker]

In my old neighborhood almost every girl there tried to start some drama with me once I made my presence known

Even the current female neighbors I have now don't get along with me at all

I literally stay away from gals

[menina]

I don't know what else to tell you. Maybe you need to meet other girls.

[Asker]

I don't meet them

I just have to be in their presence & from drama slowly begins or whatever it is that causes them to dislike me

Do you get this way if an unattractive guy just happens to live by or around you?

[menina]

I see. No, I don't get that way if I'm around a guy I find unattractive.

[Asker]

What do YOU think could be causing this?

[menina]

It can be for all the reasons I told you before.

[Asker]

A list?

[menina]

You don't need a list, you can read my comments.

[Asker]

So I'll clarify it for you

My appearance (lack of from their POV)
They might just be opportunistic bullies
Attention/Drama seekers

[menina]

See? You got my point. But they are the only ones who know their reasons for acting like that around you. I can't speak for them, because I'm not them.

[Asker]

If I get this sort of "attention" then I can't imagine what attention actual attractive guys get

[menina]

I don't know either because I'm not an attractive guy Lol

[Asker]

But you would be considered an attractive girl? Just out of curiosity

Is it true that attractive girls get hot on multiple times daily?

[menina]

I consider myself attractive but I live in a place where people who look like me are considered ugly.

I don't know about that either because I don't get hit on.

[Asker]

Ahh ok

So in a nutshell

If I used to get this kind of "attention" then it's most likely out of malice/spite of?

Would I be perceived as a "creep" if I ignore every gal I come across because of my experiences? Or would most people understand? Minus a few of course

[menina]

Yes, it's probably out of malice. Maybe they are the problem, not you.

No, I don't you'll be perceived as a "creep". I just think that some girls will be surprised by your behavior. They might not understand it.

[itsalyssaagain]

I don’t really care who I hang out with as long they’re nice people. But I know a lot of girls who only hang out with other pretty girls so they can enjoy the perks.

[XXblack88]

In a way yes. I'm more likely to hang out with people who is on the same mental and emotional level as myself then someone who is mentally and emotionally above me or below me.

[XXblack88]

or close to

[Asker]

If for example

If An unattractive guy is known for being very cunning & always very good at planning, gauging,& always being able to predict & execute "whatever"

Would he be above you in emotional/mental level?

If he is smarter than most

[XXblack88]

most people who are smarter than most are more then likely going to be emotionally and mentally above me.

[Anonymous]

Generally yes, money attractiveness, status, and lifestyle matter to women even in friendships. Women care more about how others perceive them and their social image. I was and am kinda nerdy, most women even don't want to be friends with nerdy guys unless they want some help with anything. Maybe some girls are different but so far in my life, I haven't seen any.

[Angelo75]

Well I have a feeling that this is something that doesn't only happen with women.

I think it's something that people (men and women) do in general.

[sarahstar13]

As long as they aren't catty gossiping bitches than I am usually open to hanging around others.

[Alwayreckles93]

Really what makes you think that? In woman world all I see is a lot of drama and competition well for me at least from my experience.

[Puppystarfish23]

Nope, I try to be kind and friendly to everyone I don't believe in levels

[xxmacky]

Yes, it’s vain but I choose friends based off looks.

[Chthou95]

Yup. You won't see most women hanging out with a fat nerd that collects Pokemon cards. You have to be at a certain level even just to hang out

[Asker]

I'm in great shape, have clear skin,& have a "1950'S/Handsome look" & a lot of gals still act very aggressive & arrogant towards me

Any ideas?

[Chthou95]

Stand your ground and don't let them intimidate you. Dont show any weakness

[Asker]

They don't scare me

But what do you think is drawing the negativity from them to me?

Like I said... I'm in great shape, clear skin, I do have a clean "appearance"

I'm not unkempt but yet still manage to get myself into a lot of drama from gals in my age range (20'S)

[Chthou95]

Because they've been hurt by chad left and right so now they take it out on other men

[Asker]

I agree with what you've said because I ran into a situation just like this... maybe

There was this gal who lived around me but I've never seen HER or interacted with her

Her relatives I HAVE seen & they've never had issues with me THAT IM AWARE OF

But one day I just happen to walk be her to get to my crib & she gave the nastiest scowl you could potentially see on someone

After she gave the scowl she just turned sideways to avert having to stare at me but with so much anger & hate & from there just stormed off while saying I look "horrible"

[Heolurt]

Yes but they keep the guys they would never date in the background because those simps will always do things for them when other guys won't.

[KrakenAttackin]

Absolutely. Women get very offended by people who they see as "below" their level wanting to hang out with them.

[driven159]

I think every person likes to be with people the same level to be in a comfy zone

[Anonymous]

Sure, some girls do that, but thankfully most don't.

[dustybiker]

Some definitely do, yes.

[Pohjolan]

Not if you have a good sense of humor.

[TheMoreMiffed]

Sometimes yes sometimes no

[CoolCatMar1]

To be honest no

[Anonymous]

no that’s weird

[Anonymous]

Yeah usually they do