Depressed that I am not good enough for my crush.

[Anonymous]

I feel that I am not good enough for this guy I have a crush on. He is probably one of the strongest crushes I have ever had. Although, my self-esteem took a drop & I have been getting in a depressed mood, because I don't think he'll ever like me. We are total opposites and hang out with different people. He does look at me sometimes, but I don't think it means anything. I would assume that since he is athletic & hangs out with the popular athletes of our grade, he would want a girl with an athletic type (into sports, fit body) but I am not. I don't know crap about sports and I am sort of big (although I carry it well). I am trying to get skinny, not skinny like we see in the media nowadays but fit. Yes I am trying to lose weight in every means possible so I don't need input on that subject. I am certainly NOT what you would consider hot, or exceptionally pretty even, although I have always felt this way. Recently I began cutting myself on my arm and hips to help let out some of the pain. I don't think it's a problem. He claims that he thinks personality is more important that looks, but with teenage boys it is more likely that they would take a hot girl than an average one. I guess I am quick to judge but we know how that goes. Don't say "he's a jerk if all he wants is looks", be that as it may it's still hard not too like him. He is cute and I just love the way he acts (sort of obnoxious but I am guilty for liking those kind of guys) I don't feel worth anything anymore, I don't know if my crush was the trigger to that or if it was just a spontaneous revelation. It would seem he would be degrading himself if he got with me. I want to get over him considering I don't have a chance with him! It sickens me! He hangs out with girls but they're only his friends (not dates) but it just drives me insane! And I admit jealousy I have. They are so pretty! But so fake in the way they act! I just want to get over all of this! This whole question might sound stupid but it's sincerely how I am feeling/acting!

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sorry it's not much of a question, I just need insight on how to over him.

[Chante]

When first reading the beginning of your question I completely related to you. With anyone you like, which may sound weird by the way, you will most likely always feel like your not good enough for them. It's simply because you want to make sure your not acting or going to say something to him to make him not like it. You want to leave a good impression which is so understandable. Girls almost always over-analyze. And just to let know, this will defiantly not be the first time you will feel like this when it comes to a guy you have a crush on.

Now to the second part. You may hear this so much and it may cringe you to hear it. But you "really need to work on your self-esteem". If it means getting more fit then go for it but don't starve yourself please! It just makes it harder to keep the weight off. And next, please stop cutting yourself Hun, your damaging yourself. Believe it or not, that's not helping your self-esteem at all. If anything it's making it much worse. Personally how I deal with problems I just write them out and rip them up once I feel better about them. Mind you, a lot of my thoughts end up in scribbles but you know what I mean.

To sum this up, cause I realize it's getting kind of long, if you like this guy enough try talking to him. The girls he hangs out with may not be the girls he's into. I know popularity is a big thing is high school/ Jr. High so it may just be that. Been there, don't want to go back lol. Hope it helps and keep an update :)

[Anonymous]

i'm sorry, but what's the question?