An almost 30 year old virgin who nobody loves or cares about whose fat short and ugly.
Family doesn't care about me.
Friends don't care about me.
Women I try for never love me back.
I want to cry but I can't.
Why do I have to die alone?
Why am I either invisible or repulsive?
Why do I have to look at the empty space in my bed knowing no woman loves me.
Why does every woman I try for forget me and chooses to love someone else but I'm never good enough?
Why did I have to be me?
It sucks being me.
No one would ever want to be me.
I'm severely depressed over a celebrity crush as well as personal misery. I'm miserable over her and I hate who she's with. I hate my life because attractive women don't like me even though I'm unfortunately very ugly looking.
My celeb crush Becky Lynch is engaged and had a kid with the dude she's with is a piece of shit so i give up on life. He ruined my life. Guy is a scumbag who ends up with her proves there's no justice in the world.
Meanwhile I'm 28 never a girlfriend or kissed still a virgin and I'm fat ugly short and poor and the only advice I get is go to hookers or date fat ugly women or die alone if I never end up with an attractive woman then my life will always suck For that scumbag piece of shit seth Rollins to be with Becky Lynch while I'm left unloved proves only scumbags get the best of everything. Meanwhile people tell me to settle or accept dying alone.
I got cursed being ugly.
I'm miserable I can't get a girlfriend 28 never a girlfriend still a virgin. obese, short, and ugly everyone tells me date ugly women. Help please?
You ask for help. But I have the feeling that you won't listen. I have the feeling that people have told you many times what you should do but you don't listen and don't do what they say. I doubt if I'm saying anything new, but here goes...
There might be some things that you have little or no control over. But there are a lot of things that you DO have control over. You have control over your weight. You actually have some control over your looks too. You have control over how you dress, how you groom yourself and your personal hygiene.
Now for attitude, which also affects your looks. It's understandable that if you've had bad luck that it can be demotivating. However your attitude is a huge negative. Why would a woman want to be with a guy who will just bring her down? She wants a guy who makes her feel good and has a positive influence on her.
Don't think that "if only" you had a woman your attitude would magically change. It won't. You might feel a little better about yourself, but it's not some kind of magic pill that suddenly makes you a completely different person.
You need to work on your attitude. That might be easier said than done, but the difficulty of doing it doesn't change what needs to be done. Your attitude does show on your face. You look like you are pissed off (which you are). You do have some control over that.
Forget about your celebrity crush. Forget about who she is with. That's her business and his business, and you probably know virtually nothing about it. Their private life is completely 100% irrelevant to you.
I had to look up this person. She's a professional wrestler. Stop watching that crap and find something else to get into. Let's just say that being into pro wrestling is not a positive thing to put in a dating profile.
Stop wallowing in your own grief and do something about it. It's not going to happen on it's own. You have to make it happen. You don't have to go to extremes and completely transform yourself all at once. That's not realistic. But you do have to start somewhere. Sitting around being miserable isn't going to help. Trying to be someone completely different isn't going to work either. But you CAN improve yourself.
You have a choice. Either you do something about it, or you accept things as they are. So are you OK with how things are now or not? If not then do something about it.
One last comment about looks. I can guarantee with 100% confidence that your looks are not preventing you from getting someone. Looks can decrease the chances somewhat, but not prevent you or anyone else from getting someone.
First of all give yourself some credit at least you have good taste in women. That being said MOVE ON FROM BECKY LYNCH df.
Second you're not so bad looking in a sense you're not disabled or lame in any way
Third, obesity is not a state it's within your control. I'm sure you heard that before but take it from someone with the same struggles, go on a calory deficit, hit the gym your body AND face will improve because of it.
You're short? Who cares if you get the rest in order. Buy nicer clothes get a better haircut, add in a ripped body maybe a tattoo if you're into that and boom instant attractiveness.
But most importantly, you need to learn social skills, you need to learn to flirt, to charm, to be assertive and go for the women you want the right way without being weird and creepy.
Crying about reality won't change it only making changes will.
Story of my life I have to constantly see women that I'm miserable over with dudes that I hate and the only options I have are die alone or be with someone ugly frankly the fact that the guy who attacked Seth Rollins two weeks ago didn't bring anything blunt or sharp with him was really disappointing her having that scumbags kid was one of the worst days of my life behind my mother dying
Height is not a big issue, there's plenty of short girls out there.
Your face isn't ugly, just being fat makes you look bad. But that's completely in your control to change. If you care enough to post this, you should work on yourself. That will also imporve your self esteem.
Also, I suspect it's not your looks that deters women but your mental state. No girl will be interested in a guy who's depressed over a celebrity crush. People don't want that kind of baggage in their partner. I wouldn't want to compete with someone who's not even a part of our world.
If you don't improve then you will be scraping the bottom of the barrel because you yourself are the bottom of the barrel. You say it's not fair that you're alone... but rather you think it's fair that an attractive woman who's attractive because of the effort she puts in herself should settle on you? You already said you wouldn't do that yourself and you don't put any effort. If you're poor then think about upskilling and getting a better job. Sorry to say but not every guy will get to procreate, it's the way of the jungle. If you want to be one of the lucky ones then you need to have something to attract a woman.
On a side note, I sense you're plagued by demons that hold you down. And I mean that literary, I can see it from your eyes. My advice is to turn to Bible and establish a relationship with God, ask Him for help.
Your attitude is the problem here. I’m not gonna lie, you need to work on a lot of things here. Your attitude being the number 1 on the list.
Dude, seriously though, don’t bring up about height. There are plenty of “short” men who get girls. You seem overweight, I’d advise you to hit the gym, because: 1. Being obese can cause numerous health problems like heart failure, etc 2. Most girls would not really want to date a man who does not take care of his health well. 3. It’d certainly help you gain more confidence.
in my opinion, you have good facial features, hit the gym, and gain more confidence. Also, please stop obsessing over celebrities. It’s an utter waste of time. You do seem extremely shallow, which is certainly a dealbreaker and NOT a good trait to posses. And please do not go on and on about how you’re short and stuff, because plenty of short men, who take care of themselves well, and have good personalities sure do get a lot of women.
If you are going to overlook all the viable options and CHOOSE to wallow in your own misery, by all means, please go ahead. If you want to have a long term relationship with a living girl, work on yourself. Both physically and mentally.
work on what you can improve andt hat is getting in shape, having better self esteem and being more mentally healthy Than you can blame life but fyi it isn't really easy for anyone to find love, not pretty ones, not rich ones... cause love is mysterious and noone knows how it happens. Its majorly based on luck in my opinion. A lot of people just settle. Also dont put so much preassure on the whole virginity thing, many guys and girls are in the same boat and its actully normal, sociaty makes it weird but its really normal not to engage in sexual activites with people you dont feel comfortable with
Dude, you ain't ugly. You gotta figure out how to lift your confidence and esteem or you will die alone.
I posted my photo here. I got ranked about a four.
I have never had an issue dating women. Even those you would consider to be the most beautiful.
And dude, stop with that celebrity crush nonsense. Date some real women. Develop yourself and your skills. Then go out and conquer. Whoever is giving you advice is messing with you.
Your celebrity crush likes someone you don't like, what do you think the reason is? It's possibly because you actually don't know her and how she's like but you still decide that you genuinely like her. Can I ask what the reason here is?
You mention obesity, the can be fixed. But even if it couldn't be would you really wanna be with someone that judges that way? Fast forward a certain scenario for a long period, say ten thousand years would you want to be with someone you really don't like? (and the whole nobody would like you thing just seems odd possibly)
I wasn't obese but I was overweight, short, and uglier than you are. But I was never really miserable.
My advice would be: Find some activities you enjoy yknow that make you not miserable, like playing board games or baking bread. And try and do one of them every day. Find some people you enjoy the company of. Try and get them to do some activity with you, or at least talk to them, 1-2 times a week.
That's one of the most rewarding things you can sustain is some personal hobbies and an active social circle. You'll have people to hang with and shit to do whether you're single or not, and I think would help you be less miserable.
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Oh stop it. You’re not bad looking at all. Tbh, you’re adorable. What is probably scaring women off is (like others said) your low self esteem. People are attracted to those that exude confidence. If I met a person and all they talked about was how much they hate themselves and how much their friends and family hate them and how bad looking they were, Id totally run for the hills and never look back. My best advice is talk to a therapist. They can help you feel better about yourself and improve your though process. If you want to keep a woman around try speaking more positive things about yourself and in general and watch that people will stick around. Much luck to you. 💖
Except everyone tells me "make improvements and changes but still have low standards after. You're league will maybe be plain looking women best case scenario sorry sucks to suck."
You know, people are more than just their looks... It's funny how you can be so miserable, with a bad attitude, and whatnot, and be so extremely shallow. From that, I hope that "not even a plain woman," will want you then.
I've had way too many bad experiences, rejections, and failures to either die alone or end up with someone ugly after all I suffered from its the literal definition of insult to injury
Insult to injury? We've all been rejected and have had bad experiences. It's part of life. It doesn't make you entitled to anything. It doesn't make you "deserve" any kind of woman. That kind of mentality is very unhealthy.
If the person you were crazy about rejected you and chose to be with someone you hated and your only two options were someone very obese and ugly or die alone and everyone tells you that you'll never attract someone attractive how would you feel
It's a celebrity crush dude, get over it. .. You're blinding yourself, and shooting yourself in the foot. Just because a celebrity crush isn't possible, doesn't mean you cannot get someone amazing But you have to be amazing as well.
Turn it around, why would someone amazing be with you if you're so miserable, short, fat, and all you said yourself?
And those two options are options you chose yourself. Honestly, I think you want to pity yourself. And if that's so, then so be it. Feel sorry for yourself. But it has nothing to do with others. You're not entitled to others just because of your feelings.
Dude, if you think you’re so hideous why would you expect to be with a hot woman? I don’t understand your thought process here. If you make changes and your league is still plain looking women, welcome to the world the rest of us live in. What’s wrong with plain? And looks only matter for a while and then everyone starts aging and looking like shit anyway. You sound very shallow. Work on yourself and I say this in all seriousness-get a therapist to talk to.
Because plain is still much uglier than the women who rejected me so I still lose compared and out of my group of friends I'll be the one with the ugliest girlfriend while they have better lives and hot girlfriends and wives I'll be the one with the ugliest still and it makes me the loser out of my friends. So for me to have suffered as much as I have, and for every woman intried to be with scumbags I hate only to die alone or end up with someone ugly even after I make changes and improvements is a shitty life. I BEG you to try and give me a rebuttal on how it wouldn't be with all that for me to deal with.
You believe it’s impossible to be happy if everyone around you has hotter wives. There will always be someone hotter, younger and better looking. There is no need walking through life depressed about it or even depriving yourself of a chance with a decent woman who might actually love you for you even if she isn’t the hottest in the group.
@apple2 if she was passably attractive it'd be fine but everyone tells me based on my looks I won't ever attract someone passably attractive either very ugly or barely plain. And if that's best case scenario then fuck my life so much
You have a poor view of yourself which is why people don't like you. You are like a black hole of negativity sucking everyone down into your pit of misery. Your only hope is to reverse the direction of your negative energy and put out positive energy by learning to love yourself, accept yourself. Learn to be at peace with yourself and those around you and everybody will be attracted to you because you will be radiating positivity, putting out good energy, not like a black hole of negativity bringing everyone down. Your state of mind is very powerful and you must get it under your control. Your will must be stronger than your thoughts and emotions. If you need help to achieve this, I suggest you find it so you can have a happy life. Good luck. Do not take what I said lightly.
You not bad look i would say focus on doing things that make you happy that don't meeting being in s relationship. You faces is a bit depressing but i can easily be fitted with a positive mental attitude. And dude i was virgin untill like week before truning 34. If you a fun guy to be around people will want to be around you. Acknowledge other's strengths and hard work. Just try to put positivity out in to the world and you get positivity back and be grateful for what ever form the positivity comes it.
First and foremost. Grow some confidence. Get off your ass and do something about it. First start by getting a job. Second stop fantasizing about celebrities. Then go get a gym membership. Then build your life, your own place and a decent car. Stop feeling sorry for yourself. If you don’t want to date “fat ugly girls “ then don’t date “fat ugly girls “. The only person who can change that is you.
And I never give this type advice what I am about to tell you. After you get your job. After you find you a place. And a car. Go buy a hooker/call girl/prostitute for a week. So they tech you how to have sex and help with your confidence. It has worked for a lot of friends of mine. You have to go and make this world your bitch. No one is going to help you.
it will never change, but i hate with a huge passion, that why does it always or seems it has to come down to a guys social-skills or certain social-behaviors, behavioral-based or trait things, the way he talks, walks, interacts or behaves around people, is what determines most of a guys attractiveness to women or his ability to get a girlfriend, because confidence and leadership or just taking the lead, is obviously a mental or social behavior or social-skills based thing, etc.
For women it seems they just have to be average looking, and have a decent personality and they are all set.
Looking at your picture, you’re not ugly at all honestly. I think what is keeping you from getting a girl is your low self esteem. Please see your worth and just walk around telling yourself you’re amazing and you should start to believe it and manifest what you want in life. It works.
Being fat is not a permanent condition. A colleague of mine arrived in town, 25, 5-5, 180 pounds, balding. He got into technical climbing, lost 50 pounds, met a woman on Coffee Meets Bagel who was also into outdoor activities. They hiked the Pacific Crest Trail together. All of it.
Been in therapy for six years and it hasn't gotten me a good looking girlfriend out of it since and nobody has an answer for if I lose weight but good looking women still don't like me after
Why would a girl want to date a guy obsessed and so called "in love" with a celebrity? That's one reason your single. And you keep making the same question and keep ranting about Becky Lynch. You need to work on your issues then you will find a girl.
Except everyone tells me "Lose weight and fix your personality but after aim low and date ugly or plain women after that's your league sucks to suck." Not exactly motivating
To be able to love someone you should love yourself first. Since that is out start changing your attitude, if your friends suck get new friends, change your lifestyle eat healthier start exercising, do fun stuff. And honestly you ain't ugly. You have blue eyes blonde, nice hair and your cheeks are red which is cute. Smile more and start being positive. Occupy yourself with activities and don't allow yourself time to think and analyse stuff cause that would lead to even more negativity.
Haven't you been on here for 2 years now asking the same question over and over? You never take any advice, you dismiss it. How has a guy you've probably never met ruined your life? You really think your celebrity crush would fall into your arms if not for him? You need to get professional help or that chip on your shoulder will never go.
Don’t settle, that’s no solution, I will guarantee you that. You are not powerless here, you can work on yourself, if you don’t like your body you can do something about that. I know it’s hard but how bad do you want this?
If you get to the point where you respect yourself and have some confidence then it’s a matter of finding someone with common interests, so maybe some clubs or interest groups might connect you with someone who at least is passionate about the same things.
well get your shit together. you're obese? no problem. you can lose weight. you're short? who cares? get a chick that's shorter. you're probably ugly cause you're obese. fix that and you're good.
you're not misreable, cause you're single, you're single cause you're miserable. stop thinking that getting laid and having a girlfriend will make anything better for you. it won't. you need to get better first. then it will be a lot easier to find a hookup or a girlfriend.
definitely not ugly, average looking, just like many of us men and women, which in my opinion, those of us who are average looking, look pretty damn good!
First off Seth Rollins is awesome second I'm 16 years old so listen up stop jerking off stop being fat stop being a loser stop simping work on yourself lift weights or some shit you need to be a man obviously a man isn't as submissive as you and you're pretty creepy looking I'm not going to lie stop being a loser grow some balls
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