At 26, I thought I would get over not being pretty? Why does it still bother me so much sometimes?

[Anonymous]

I struggle with confidence and self esteem a lot. It was a lot worse 17-23… I had bdd.

It’s gotten better but I still struggle. I struggle with feeling beautiful and good enough. I’ve never had sex, first kiss or really a date… no relationship or love. Just crushes and heavy infatuation.. with men who don’t like me or notice me. A lot of the guys who I thought were genuine were players or they just wanted to sleep with me.

Sometimes I feel like that’s my worth. I’m a virgin but I’ve been told and showed repeatedly that I’m only fckable but not dateable.

Sometimes I get very depressed. Sometimes I wish I didn’t exist.

[RespectfulGuy]

In a nice and sweet way, you could have been told to "love yourself" along with the how-to and the benefits.

Today may I suggest, STOP being concern about what others think of you.

I further strengthen my conviction against anyone judging (real or imagined) with self-assuring statements like "I pay for my own food and rent and data, that person don't even share anything (or only cheap things)." or "I don't owe my life to that person", etc.

Such self reminders gave me confidence.

Try it. You may then find how much you had contributed to you own happiness.

Then your outlook in life will change.

Thereafter read more and pick up life skills like cooking, repairing and write a web Page. You'll further enhance your self worth and confidence.

With that, show guys you're more than a sex object or a hole or a vagina.

Try it.

It's good to carry yourself according to your worth, not what others think of you.

[Anonymous]

Sorry for what you’re going through. You’re probably prettier than you think, especially if those players you mentioned want to have sex with you. This doesn’t mean that they aren’t objectifying you, but most men don’t pursue women for sex if they don’t find a woman attractive.

PS: Don’t be so hard on yourself.

[Anonymous]

There’s two things you can do, accept how it is and continue to be depressed or decide to change yourself. I was really ugly in high school, bullied a lot told I was ugly every single day etc. same story as you.
Two years ago I decided to start the gym regularly. Changed my life a complete 360. I stopped worrying about guys and focused on myself. Now, I don’t even want one if they aren’t completely for me.
Maybe it’s time to be okay with being who you are. Sounds cliche, but that’s the key to happiness. I can show you pictures of how I used to look and I promise whatever ugly you think you are, I can top it. The only thing that pulled me out of how I was feeling was a lifestyle change.

[BobLouis]

I don't know what to say. You should probably see a therapist or something.

[Asker]

I don’t need one.

[SUMAIREBRAHIM]

Can't change few things just ignore it and focus on other things

[Anonymous]

Have you tried dating apps or online dating or no luck with those either?

[Anonymous]

Sounds tough.