We’ve dated for 2 1/2 months. Right out of the gate, we became boyfriend/girlfriend it just seemed to fit. That being said, we’ve had a lot of learning curves getting to know each other as a dating couple rather than friends.
I have caught him a couple times, asking another girl to come over or having a tinder, but nothing solid that he’s actually done. Although I would be surprised if I’m the only girl he’s had since we started dating.
In my case, I entered the relationship right out of a ho phase so most of the people I considered, my friends were guys I had slept w/. I said, I had a boyfriend And wasn’t going to do anything, but could still just hang out bc I didn’t want to be alone some nights I had nothing to do.
In separate instances two guys I thought I could trust/handle. I even offered the couch if they needed someplace to wait before driving home. but later after we started drinking we just went to bed bc I thought we would just sleep. I was naive. Both ended up kissing and going down on me, with one asking that I returned the favor, which I felt obligated to do. I felt bad after both times and finally decided no other guys could come to my house to hangout/drink alone except my boyfriend. A couple guys convinced me to sext also bc how did I know he wasn’t doing xyz or it doesn’t really matter…
I will clarify that no dick but my boyfriend has been in me since we started dating. But still I hate myself and what I’ve done. I’ve determined for positive change and I love him so much we want this for the long haul. Part of me wants to tell him what happened so I can move on in myself but also he recently divorced his wife for cheating on him so I feel like that would end the relationship and just cause undue trust since I’ve made a change at this point. Am I being unfair not to tell him what should I do
