I wouldn’t call her a “friend” because I consider a friend to be somebody I regularly hang out with every week.
But regardless, this girl that I am friendly with, I travelled with her for a business occasion and it was a four hour ride both ways so we got to talk about a lot of stuff.
Basically when I said “it seems like hardly any women are looking for anything serious these days”.
She said that by and large almost all girls want something serious and long term and marriage and shit like that, but that they only settle for less because they like the guy and they feel that’s all they have available to them
Anyway, her answer really caught me by surprise. It almost challenged my entire way of thinking.
In my feeble mind, whatever I see women doing is what women themselves want to be doing.
But I guess you can’t associate actions with desires? Or is she just being straight up dishonest?
My point being, even as a man, I don’t know how most other guys are, or even how most other women are.
I’m introverted, and I simply am just selective with male friends and I don’t talk to that many people in general.
Also, she also said that there are actually a decent share of women that like introverted/quiet guys.
Whereas I figured the exact opposite. I expressed the belief that part of what likely made me undateable was the fact that I come off as too boring, unexciting and expressionless for most women.
I figured most women just would not like me at all if I tried with them, so I don’t ever really unless there’s something about the woman that I find captivating enough to make me actually want to try.
But regardless she said that a lot of extroverted women like the quiet guys just so they can unload stories on them and talk without being interrupted.
However as a quiet guy myself, I have absolutely no interest in a girl that would just overshare constantly.
I’d like to just appreciate silent moments together in peace instead.
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[ She said that by and large almost all girls want something serious and long term and marriage and shit like that, but that they only settle for less because they like the guy and they feel that’s all they have available to them ]
^ this is the most eye-opening thing you'll ever learn ^
it's no wonder why so many relationships/marriages end in breakups/divorce
the men getting dumped/divorced aren't as "abusive" as the feminist narratives makes them out to be. the women are incapable of suppressing their hypergamy and being tied to an undesirable guy feels like oppression to them
in their minds, why should they have to commit to this short, ugly, bald, disabled guy for the rest of her life when another woman is being loved by Chris Hemsworth or Jason Momoa though in some ways it is "abusive" to have to love an unattractive man
In other words, most women aren’t willing to see past a guy’s flaws and commit to him long term
they can see past a guy's flaws as long as they are physically attracted to him. women tend to be more emotional than men and are therefore less capable of resisting a hot man as a man is at resisting a hot woman (excluding desperate simps)
the less attractive a man is, the lower his margin of error such that ideally he has to be perfect in every other way and even then that doesn't guarantee loyalty
It's possible that your belief about women's wants is shaped by your personal experience and observation of the women you've met. However, it's also possible that her perspective is influenced by what she's seen and experienced.
Both of you have valid points, but it's hard to say which is "more accurate".
It's important to remember that everyone has different preferences and we can't generalize a whole group of people based on their gender. Some women are looking for long-term relationships and others are not, and some may like introverted guys, while others do not.
I just feel as though in this age its so hard to know the truth. There’s so much that I’m just unaware of at times. In a way I sometimes feel as though I’m still a child.