Advice? Talking to this guy on Snapchat that I met on another app.. feeling confused?

[bugsforlunch]

This feels so dumb as I’m typing it out lmao. We met on whisper trolling each other, I messaged him first picking a fight.. it was playful we went back and forth. I sent him a nude he asked for cause why not. He went crazy over it lol. He was basically worshiping me. We move to Snapchat. He’s super romantic with what he says, he’s sweet, praising me a ton. My problem is.. that’s all we talk about. Just sweet romantic things and sexual things we’d do together. It feels so superficial. Now this would be okay except for the fact that I am investing a lot of time talking to him, I’m imagining all these romantic and sexual scenarios he’s leading with, he makes me feel really good in that aspect.. but I want more. He doesn’t ask me any questions about myself… like any. Except have I eaten or how am I or how’d I sleep. Like he really doesn’t wanna get to know me. He’s the most attractive man I’ve ever talked to ever. I’m super physically attracted to him, I’m thinking of spending my money to go see him type of attractive to me. I feel like I’ll never be as physically attracted to another man. Lol. But it doesn’t feel like enough.. I kinda wanna stop talking to him. I am very bad at confrontation, I’m too passive, I’m the type who ghosts people. But we’ve talked for 2 weeks now consistently so I can’t ghost him I’d have to actually communicate. I’ve never been in a relationship, never had sex, I’m new to this, but I do know this superficial stuff isn’t what I want. He clearly only wants a superficial sex and romance, cosplaying a relationship type thing where we chat aaaall day and it’s taking a lot out of me to keep this up. The more it goes on the more I feel irritated. I’ve been messaging him late and now he’s doing the same. This is so dumb but even if no one reads this I am glad I typed this out. I’m wasting my time with a man who is saying I’m “all his” and that he’s “all mine” but can only talk about sex and romantic physical things. I’m too old for this 😹

[Effably]

Too old for this. You little one are not old enough to buy alcohol without an ID.

Anyway, I have been in that situation. Part of it was that we had good chemistry in those areas and another that it felt awkward to go from being her idea of a perfect, attractive guy to nerd mode enthusing about the latest hobby I have.

Somewhere our expectations of each other locked me in and I was not yet experienced, or brave, enough to go against them. I'd suggest doing something else or entirely new. Set up an area where you don't have a frame of reference on how to behave. It can be simple. Watch a series together while on a call for example. Its easy, does not require much yet little by little will sneak in who you both are when not trying to get the other one undressed. Basically create a new experience free of expectations.

Its Shakespear really. World is a stage. We're all actors. Playing different roles of ourselves with everyone. The trick is simply to rewrite what role they're meant to be playing.

[bugsforlunch]

Hahaha
I feel so immature. But I guess I literally am. Oh goshh exactly. I think that’s exactly what’s going on with us. Thank you for your advice I really appreciate it. That makes a lot of sense. I feel like he has an actual personality under all this lol. I mean it’s what I got to see when we first talked.. I think he doesn’t wanna mess up how I see him now. But I think he’s worth trying to get to know. I feel too awkward to bring this up to him plainly, so I will try to do something new with him. Thank you again ❤️