This guy (19) added me off of quick add on snap and I (16) added him back. At first I wasn’t really interested in him but after a bit I grew pretty fond of him. We’ve been snapping back and fourth since July of this year and we pretty frequently have been talking about meeting up sometime in the summer when he’s home from collage (possibly going to his house but I’m thinking about meeting up in a public place in broad day light for the first time to be safe). Now my parents would never allow that (they don’t even allow me to date/hang out with my guy friends alone) so I was thinking I was gonna tell them I’m spending the day at a friends house and if I do decide to go to his house and later on decide to spend the night I’ll say I’m spending the night there too. Now I get that this sounds extremely stupid but if they weren’t so strict I’d be comfortable enough to tell them that I’m meeting up with someone. Some of my friends say it’s not a good idea but I’d just say “I’ll just send you my location if I don’t text you within 8 hours or so call 911” as a joke. One of them took a picture of his Instagram profile in case she needs his name in cause something goes wrong. but recently on my for you page on TikTok I’ve been seeing a lot of cases of teenage girls having something bad happening to them when meeting up with someone they met online which has me second guessing myself. I don’t think he’s gonna m**der me or something but in the back of my mind I’m thinking “what if?” “Those girls who’ve gone missing probably thought it couldn’t possibly happen to them”. What should I do? Any advice?
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I have been almosted kidnapped multiple times just walking home form the library. There was a time where I went on date he seemed nice but on the way back to my house he started getting weird. I'm lucky I got at the gas station when needed gas and called friend. Snap chat is full of hunters looking for prey it's any easy opening says my uncle a cop. Honestly boys at 19 only think about what's in-between your legs and with age gap that's illegal. I really think it a bad idea. There are ways to make it little more safe but it's still super dangerous.
how could I make it safer?
DO not meet him alone, so take a friend.
And do not let him know where you live.
oh yeah I don’t plan on taking him to my house, would sending my friends my location be a good idea?
Yes it would be ok, but please, just take a friend with you. You could always ask your friend to wait nearby.
am i just overthinking? or is it normal amount of worry? I genuinely don’t think anything is going to happen but just a small part of me is saying “what if”
Its very normal to worry because it shows you have concerns. Like I said, please take a friend with you. And if you really want to scare yourself, look up how how many girls your age go missing every year.
Also, you don't really even know this guy.
true but I’ve been talking to him longer than most people do on tinder. I’ll be 17 at the time and in roughly 1 year and 5 months I’ll be 18. I get that I’d be a legal adult then but what’s so different about meeting up with a guy that you met online as an 18 year old and meeting with a guy you met online as a 17 year old? i personally don’t think in that time anything will change drastically. I’m not sure I’m just trying to put my thoughts and feelings into this and trying to think logically. because yes I guess this is a possibility of something happening but isn’t that with everyone? not sure if I really worded this whole thing right I just woke up
People you meet online can be very fickle and say all the right things at the right time, so you need to be aware of that. Its good that you have chatted for quite a long time, however, I still bring a friend.
No, that is not how you meet people.
I get that I’m still a minor but what’s so different between this and an 18 year old meeting up with people from tinder?