Would you date someone just like you?

[NostalgiaSenpi]

Would you date yourself, as in your personality, encased in the gender and body you find attractive?

In my case, I think we would get along just fine.

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I was thinking about the episode of Seinfeld where he basically dates himself but a woman and of The Nightmare Before Christmas where Dr Finkelstein makes himself a wife using half his brain.

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Who wants mho?

[dynamicyandere]

I believed we’d get along very well.


We’d make a “power couple” so to speak.


But, both of us would have a tendency to take charge.


We’d need to work closely as a team and set very clear expectations on who will be taking the lead and in which contexts.


That would be the tricky part.


Other than that, everything else would go relatively smoothly.


We’d both understand how to be good team players and cooperate together to reach mutually desired goals.


And, we’d also understand how to communicate honestly and openly and resolve conflicts in a healthy and efficient way.


We’d also understand the importance of energetic polarities when it comes to masculine and feminine energies.


The female version of myself would be an alpha submissive. Strong-willed, driven, competitive, intellectually-sharp, competent, and capable. But, will allow her Dominant to take the lead. Him and only him.

[msc545]

I absolutely would not do that.

[msc545]

I want MHO for being FUCKING HONEST! LOL

[Rosexøxø]

Yes, I really, truly would. Not even being narcissistic and to keep it humble and realistic- I’m ONE ☝️ of the best people out there. Used to be a great humanitarian when I was younger, but I have succumbed to the ways and realities of this life especially amongst other people. I’m just self aware and always taking punches for people in my past.

Having another me would me, would mean I finally have a favorite person, and I would be their favorite person back- equally strong 💪; it would mean INCREDIBLE support to do risky and ambitious, but rewarding things. It would mean even better ideas- hearing it NOT come from me, but my “boyfriend.”

It would mean a gym partner who knows the hype- we don’t bring the hype we know it..

We would slay this stupid world and it’s corruption and have a beautiful relationship in all honesty.

Probably could counsel people together, work tough jobs together.

It’d be pretty sickly-sweet 🤙

like Arizona: lemon-iced tea 🍋 🫖

[Rosexøxø]

Update: dating self is only an issue when you both run in to a significant problem because that’s like: when an immovable force meets an unstoppable object…

Both unbending.

The thing is- if he and I had any issues we are both the type to compromise, be considerate- we’d obviously value the same things, and we’d both be creative and appreciate synchronicity and being in rhythms with things around us.

We break the flow when we have to but we love when things and people are on the same page so we get things done.

We both wouldn’t be bored with each other because we’d both realize the fun is in the adventure not in ourselves.

The world is OUT THERE- it’s not us lmao

So yeah… we’d both be really good together. Many times, growing up, I actually WISHED to meet just one person LIKE me, but never have. Came close to one or two people who shared ONE significant ideology as me, but they were crazy or didn’t have their life together at a point when I felt it should have been. 🤷‍♀️

[DizzyDesii]

I would and I prefer to. As i said here “Someone Respectful, Sweet, Goofy, Nurturing, Caring, Determined, Talkative, Goofy, Courageous, Faithful, Humble, Poetic, Romantic, Close in Age, Believes in God, Doesn’t Smoke, Hardly Drinks, is a Lonewolf, Wants Kids, likes All-Genre Music, is a Movie Lover, loves Theme Park, is Fluent in English, has Few Sexual Partners (Less than 5), doesn't Have Indoor Pets, and Isn’t Obsessed with Politics.” So yes I would adore this! I look for someone similar to myself in terms of smile, age, background, sense of humor, beliefs, interests, goals, and mindset. The only differences i really prefer is that he's of course the opposite sex, taller than me, less stubborn, and a better listener

[Jdjfjcjj]

You better start looking now if you want all that.
Probably quicker though if you revaluate where you really all that. Maybe you'll be able to take off half this, and not be searching indefinitely

[DizzyDesii]

@Jdjfjcjj I've never had to search indefinitely and have dated many with the above. I dont see anything i listed that is hard to meet.
Respectful EASY Sweet EASY Goofy EASY Nurturing DEPENDS ON THE GUY Caring EASY Determined IF MATURE Talkative AFTER A WHILE Goofy EASY Courageous TO AN EXTENT Faithful DEBATABLE Humble EASY Poetic GIVE OR TAKE Romantic ON OCCASION Close in Age EASY, Believes in God NOT AS EASY BUT NOT HARD TO COME ACROSS Doesn’t Smoke EASY Hardly Drinks EASY is a Lonewolf DEBATABLE Wants Kids HARD TO FIND IN 20S BUT ILL MAKE DUE likes All-Genre Music GIVE OR TAKE is a Movie Lover EASY loves Theme Park EASY is Fluent in English EASY IN AMERICA has Few Sexual Partners (Less than 5) VIRGINS STILL EXIST doesn't Have Indoor Pets DEBATABLE and Isn’t Obsessed with Politics A LITTLE HARD IN AMERICA BUT DOABLE

[Jdjfjcjj]

I was only trying to get a rise out of you. Seeing that you wrote all this though, makes me feel a little bad... 🥲

[DizzyDesii]

@Jdjfjcjj i dont feel bad. I copied and pasted from above and just added in words like EASY. Putting in effort never bothered me

[DizzyDesii]

ASKER ASKER ME PLEASE

[DizzyDesii]

Begging never felt so rewarding 🤣 Thank you @nostalgiasenpi

[lightbulb27]

preferably not, It increases stress when the weaknesses are the same and the strengths then don't help. Friction may be less, that helps.

some complementary is good.

But may depend upon the options available and severity... and whom is really thinking that clearly starting out?

[NathanDavis]

"just like me" no, definitely not entirely like me...

by experience... I've had the greatest time with people that are confident with who they are, so they are very much themselves... so, the more genuine they are and the better you get to know them, the more difference, contrast and complementing you'll find

and that's what I like and prefer... I like to go deeper and not just stay at surface level

[DancingQueen16]

Sure because the person I'm dating now is really similar to me because we both love cartoons, music, movies, we both like laughing and we also recommend things that one of us likes to the other like today we were talking and he suggested I watch this show he's seen because he thinks I'll like it and I recommended that he watch a show that I like because its really good

[Apple1996]

Nah I'm too calm and shy so if I dated someone just like me we'd never talk or do anything. My husband is the complete opposite as me and I love it since he is high energy and chatty. Definitely completes me as my other half.

[Anonymous]

I'm not sure if I could date someone exactly like myself. Who would put the other in check? It sounds great in some instances like getting to know someone just like yourself but I think opposites attract for a reason and are better matched in my opinion.

[DizzyDesii]

Lol you’ve never been able to correct yourself in private? Thats what mirror time is for, pep talks and getting yourself together. You can be stubborn in public but you get home and snap at yourself in the mirror for acting a fool 🤣

[Opinion Owner]

I personally can be too much which is why I don't think it would be a good idea to be with someone just like myself. Pep talks don't work for me. I'm a lot to deal with. I couldn't imagine dealing with another person like me. We'd both be too stubborn and set in our ways to tell the other off when it needs to be done.

[DizzyDesii]

Lmao im the same but its all i can be with. Too many Differences upset me 😂 Do whats best for you though

[Gent207-2]

I'm afraid I may end up killing her - there can only be one of me in this world.

I'd prefer a woman with enough similarity to keep conversation lively and with enough difference to keep life interesting

[Anemone978]

Yes I would date someone like me because our love would be pure and deep, but I think our fighting might me cruel and harsh to each other... Let's just hope we would love each other so much we would never fight...

[Monalisa77]

Thered be no male companion like me,🤣but i need to date someone with the same values, principals and similar goals in life, someone whos sensitive. Similar hobbies is a plus. Basically everything my last crush was..

[Jdjfjcjj]

Lol! You ain't got no God damn hobbies girl, quit lying haha

[Monalisa77]

Wtf? Yes i do u dont know me?

[Monalisa77]

One thing i ain't is a liar

[Screenwriter]

I like people with complimentary personalities. It'd be boring dating myself since I know EVERYTHING about myself. Difference is the spice of life.

[exitseven]

I basically married somebody just like me. We are like two peas in a pod. We are the couple that is so cute that we would make you want to puke.

[TalynMere]

I'd be super curious, we'd probably fuck and be good friends, but it would be "too weird" for me I think to have a serious relationship.

[DizzyDesii]

Do you not take yourself seriously? Do you have commitment issues 🤣

[TalynMere]

@DizzyDesii No I just think it's weird to be with yourself, what's there to explore and grow with? It would feel like being with an automaton I can predict perfectly. No spontaneity, nothing "real", just me, with myself.

A hot one of myself, but still me.

[DizzyDesii]

I hate spontaneity (outside of the bedroom) so it would work perfectly for me

[TheSpaceGnome]

"Would you date yourself, as in your personality, encased in the gender and body you find attractive?"

Yes, an attractive woman with my personality, skills, hobbies, etc is the ONLY type I will date or marry.

[MemeSupreme]

nah, i like them to be similar to me in some ways, but there's we'd both go insane if they were just like me 😂

[Berethor]

Sure why not? too much alike trope? it's basically dating a tomboy, and I am okay with that.

[Reem12345reem]

no it means the same perosn as u but in a woman and more feminie way

[Berethor]

More feminine way? is she have same personality as me without being a tomboy?

[Reem12345reem]

no she's like u but as a woman but same presonality but as a woman yk

[NostalgiaSenpi]

I mean it's open to your interpretation. Mine would be a tomboy that likes videogames

[Berethor]

You don't know what tomboy means? you can google tomboy trope and see for yourself.

[Reem12345reem]

yeah I do but the question didn't mean it like that

[Berethor]

He literally just said that she would be a tomboy, how she be like me but feminine?

[Reem12345reem]

no he said it's open to your intrepetation

[Berethor]

So what is your interpretation? how girl can be just like guy without being tomboy?

[Reem12345reem]

nvm Im tired of explaining

[TrillXHippy]

Would I date someone that likes every single thing that I like, whatever I dislike, my favorite sport, my favorite NBA basketball team, favorite color, what I like to do and what I don’t like to do? I don’t know.

[b-river]

If a girl says the type of shit I do then I know women can't be funny.

[TacosRAwesome]

That might be interesting to experience. We either kill each other or be full on soulmates.

[Rosexøxø]

Yeah can never tell just how it would be I suppose

[hiyamotherfers]

I love Seinfeld. And no. Me and my brain don't get along why then would me and him

[Rosexøxø]

Interesting point for considering

[hiyamotherfers]

@Rosexøxø Thank you

[ColHathi]

Absolutely. We could be miserable together. It'd be great.

I'm not joking, lol.

[DizzyDesii]

Good Lawd Apple Martini

[ColHathi]

In hindsight I admit that looks a lot darker and weirder than I intended.

[DizzyDesii]

Its okay. I already know you're not as awful as you say

[ColHathi]

Thanks :)

[WanderingLoveWizard]

I basically am and it's not going well. I'm too fucked. We both are

[sheenagwapa]

very much so... a friend who is like me, a SO who is like me

[Nikki1989]

I would now. Years ago, not a chance.

[art84]

I probably would if the person also had my personality as well as hobbies like watching movies, videogames, working out, same foods, etc.

[Juxtapose]

Yes! That'd be a dream come true because I would know exactly how to please each other indefinitely.

[David4358]

someone that has identical sexual desires as me that I find attractive? yeah sounds perfect

[LiamJHayden]

No. I've tried. Two complete extroverts just does not work for me.

[Shiningtempest]

@nostalgiasenpi I can only date someone who's just like me. Thus, I have to reject a woman who doesn't have shared hobbies & musical genres.

[Somesee]

I think a lot of people already do and don’t realize it

[Anonymous]

Yeah. But that ain't happening. Women who are me are rarer than astatine.

[4ngelic]

yea dude me would be my ideal type

[TheUniqueOne96]

Yeah, I'd love to have someone I could relate too.

[welcomemen]

Yes, it sounds good to me. I could try.

[Reem12345reem]

no , I I can be toxic sometimes

[ImAlly]

Depends. Might be kind of boring.

[anon1903]

Yes. I'm awesome.

[Jltakk]

I would love it to be honest.

[EzraEzra]

I would love that !!! 🤣

[AdithyaR]

Absolutely not

[zagor]

Oh hell no.

[KrakenAttackin]

No way.

[Hispanic-Cool-Guy]

Yep..

[In_Trance]

yeah

[Blues36]

great

[strangegirl_]

mentally, i guess no

[Georgehopes66]

No.. never..!