Any thought about what this guy wants from me?

[mochipitch]

Hi so I met him at the end of December and he was interested in me and we started to hang out with a couple of friends and ended up spending time just the two of us. He has texted me every day since January and we've seen each other around 10 times in the same month. Funny thing is, I was kind to show him my interest. I guess "too soon". The last time we met when I told him not to contact me was in February. Before the meeting we had a slight argument about not setting the meeting date up clearly and I asked "Are you taking me for granted?" and he said no. When we met, he told me that he wasn't sure if we were to last long being in a relationship. At first he was showering me with interest and made me feel as if I had him, when I didn't, it was an act to get me hooked I guess. And now that I fell for him asked me "Why are you so kind?" I ended up telling him not to contact me and he said "Well I can't do anything about it if you tell me not to contact you." Fyi this dude is 11 years older than me if that matters, but do you think he was just loosing interest? He is still looking at all of my stories but I don't feel like I should unfollow him since we see each other every week and that would make me look more stupid. Any thoughts on this guys intentions?

[Anonymous]

Based on the information you provided, it's hard to determine exactly what this guy wants from you. However, it seems like he may have initially been interested in pursuing a relationship with you, but then had second thoughts or lost interest for some reason.

It's possible that he was just looking for something casual, or that he became scared of commitment. It's also possible that he was never really interested in a relationship and was just leading you on for some other reason.

Either way, it's good that you were able to express your concerns and set boundaries with him. If he is still looking at your stories and trying to keep in touch, it's possible that he still has some level of interest in you, but it's also possible that he's just trying to keep things friendly.

Ultimately, the best thing you can do is focus on your own feelings and needs. If you're not interested in pursuing anything with him anymore, it's okay to keep your distance and focus on other friendships and relationships. It's important to prioritize your own emotional well-being and not to worry too much about what he may or may not want.

[mochipitch]

Thank you for the response! Will definitely focus on myself.

[Opinion Owner]

You’re welcome

[Cupido29]

Why would you tell him not to contact you? I would tell you pay the consequences of what you say. In my opinion he still has interest in you but he doesn't want to have a moody girlfriend who for a simple discussion brings up the phrase "are you taking me for granted". You should apologize to him and clarify yourself, if you also have an interest in him. If you're not interested in him, ignore him.

[mochipitch]

I didn't bring up that phrase just cause of an argument about when to meet. He was slowly acting distant and I was just trying to put up with it at first when I kinda knew. I asked him why he thought that way about us not lasting in a relationship and he said he doesn't know, it just feels that way. So that was when I thought no need to say more so I said then that's that..

[Cupido29]

@mochipitch If you're really interested, try taking the next step yourself. Ask for clarifications and even be able to apologize if he brings up something you said that did hurt him.

[mochipitch]

Would you think it's too late to ask right now? Our last convo ended mid feb.

[Cupido29]

@mochipitch I think no, it's never too late. I would wait for my ex to talk to me even after 80 years.
We men probably have different times, we never forget relations, even if put in pause. But it's important: be able to apologize if he says you did hurt him. Don't be the one that calls him and then attacks him.

[Anonymous]

I wouldn't put up with him

[mochipitch]

Currently doing that right now...

[In_Trance]

No you'll have to ask him yourself

[Iron_Man]

Ask him

[mochipitch]

It would make me look like a fool when I'm the one that said not to contact me again...

[Iron_Man]

Obviously, you’re still interested

[mochipitch]

You're right

[Iron_Man]

Call him up fix it