How come every guy I date or talk to don't like me back? It always feels like I wasted time on men who pretended to care. Why?

[Msnsns]

What am I doing wrong? I didn't have sex with them either

[caring__1]

It is common to believe that those we're attracted to will also be attracted to us, yet that's not necessarily the case. Maybe there's an initial attraction that fizzles out when he sees or hears something that doesn't work well for him.

Everyone has preferences. Just as you want others to respect your preferences, it's important to respect theirs, also. A person's preference is not a judgment of you, but a statement of what they've discovered works well for them, so don't take it personally. Before you invest much, find out what they are seeking, what they look for in a partner and what they bring to a relationship. See yourself through their eyes rather than just expect them to see you through your eyes.

It's never a waste of time when we learn something. Bring the knowledge forward and leave the pain in the past. By being observant, you'll see signs that pull you forward or push you away. Respect what you learn rather than continue to seek out the same type of guys while expecting different results.

[WanderingLoveWizard]

No one can answer that but them. Consider asking them what went wrong. Most guys will tell you the truth as long as you haven't proven to be a psycho who will react badly to negative feedback

[Anonymous]

Most likely you're punching above your weight. It's fine if that's what you want to do. But then you really shouldn't be confused by the outcome.

[KrakenAttackin]

Because you are chasing the top 4% of men like all the other girls your age.

[Msnsns]

I'm really not. Those men I spoke to are broke

[KrakenAttackin]

Broke but "haaawwwwwt".

[Msnsns]

No my ex was ugly and fat

[Msnsns]

Only one guy I spoke to was broke and hot the rest were average. I just didn't want to be "picky" but guess that doesn't work either

[Part2603]

It's probably because you've hit the wall.

[Msnsns]

No I did not. When I was in my 20s the guys who approached me were way younger than me or way older. But why nobody in the middle my age? Even when I lost weight, all I found were weirdos.