Why do guys always pay so much attention to me when I'm not seeking attention?

[tischro]

Every time I don't want any attention from guys, they start paying attention to me... But now, I need to be alone. How should I explain myself?

[ohsheeT]

I'm the same way.
I am an introvert. I am an empath. And I would love to say I hate people.

But that's not true. But there are days where I feel like I do
This whole planet is made of energy we are made of energy

The things that we do each and every day we interact with energy and sometimes it's time to just drain yourself it's time to just relax clear your head your mind your soul your body your spirit

And then the next day we're ready to go again
I called my quiet time I call it my time me time LOL.

There are days where I won't even answer the phone

But I just let people know hey I'm not going to be available today.
That still doesn't work but some days people understand it

Somsdays people don't understand it.

And then I have friends who don't care one way or the others they're going to do what they want to do just because they think they can those are probably the people I just like the most LOL but it's communication you have to communicate it and you have to make that time for yourself no matter what

[Christoff92]

I really don't. Would walk away from you and give you space. Let you be in one piece and peaceful.

Why guys because they're needy and clingy. They don't see you showing any interest but all they think of is, yes you got it sex and orgy. This is because of the influence of pornography. But sad. It's not really these guys faults by the way 🫤

[Anonymous]

usually just show no interest and people go on their way because most people don't like to waste time and why waste time on someone that's clearly not interested. However if you are the type to give fake signals and try to be polite and charismatic they will stay there so stop that shit if you're doing that, just be uninterested, unfriendly and straightforward, nobody likes that and if they are interested they will surely move on because it will be clear there's no possible interest from you. Being nice and laughing, giggling or replying to messages etc, all that are possible signals to men that there's a door open for them. don't waste their time especially if your'e not interested.

[_Maya_]

I assume you are meaning attention as in interest in dating. If that is the case just politely say that at the present moment you aren't interested or looking to date. I have done that before and never really had a bad reaction from anyone. I just simply said I had too much stuff going on and wasn't looking to date anyone. I would say sorry and I appreciate the offer. That was very much true this summer. I just had way too much going on and starting graduate classes to try and balance a relationship. Turns out I met the right person anyway. Just be polite about it and most will back off.

[Surely]

They must be able to tell that something is bothering you. But don’t understand. That you want to be alone when you are exhibiting those emotions.
Short of directly telling them that you want to be alone under these circumstances. I know that I would give you space. Don’t know how other people feel about that!

[ProbablyClueless]

Maybe you're a good looking lady or you just have a really approachable aura.

If you want to be left alone, just say it directly. "Hey, I don't want to be rude, but I'm not in the mood for this right now."

[OlderAndWiser]

Why aren't you just telling them that you are engaged?

[jshm2]

Because that is when you look more vulnerable than desperate.

[msc545]

You would complain even more if guys stopped paying attention to you.

[Alex8736]

You don't need to explain anything to anyone. What you do on your own time is your own business and nobody is entitled to an explanation 😃

[davado88]

still paying attention at 42?
that past your useby date so i wouldn't complain

[serious_miss419]

Don’t put yourself in those environments or in those situations 😂

[Anonymous]

give them the stink eye.

[Iron_Man]

Maybe you look good who knows