Should I just give up on men? Why do guys pretend to like or want to go out with me?

[Anonymous]

My best friend (let’s can her Frannie) and guy friend (let’s call him Eddy) told me they saw my crush (let’s call him Devin) out with another girl and told me he has a girlfriend. I told them to just stop and they did this the last time my ex boyfriend was with another girl. That could be ANYBODY!
They gave up and told me I’m too stubborn to listen and get used. I chat with my older sister about this and about my crush not responding about if our Valentine date is still on. I texted him last night but he hasn’t responded YET and it’s 5:18pm. My sister knows about what Devin did and how mean he was to me and abandoned me at prom.

She said its pretty crazy that he just came back into my life just like that. Then she told me this, “I mean you used to be very overweight (I was 266lbs 5’11, still 5’11, now 178lbs) and you lost so much weight and NOW Devin decides that he has a crush on you? Now he decides to give you the time of day. Don’t you remember what he did to you at prom? Sis you have OBSESSED over him for YEARS, and he didn’t care, at all. He ignored you when you were overweight and was mean to you. You’re always paying attention to guys that don’t care about you or don’t know you exist. You deserve to be with someone that likes you for you. Not for your size, or what you have. No matter what size you are. Some one like…….. EDDY.”
Even mom and dad likes him and thinks he’s boyfriend material.”

I cut the conversation short because I’m sick of people saying Eddy’s name when it comes to finding the right guy.
Eddy is fine, he isn’t the best looking guy. He’s chubby, a large guy and average and 6’1 or 6’2. Eddy and I will ALWAYS BE FRIENDS.

[ohsheeT]

. first things first. ... stop everything... At this moment let it all go and then find yourself in the mirror take a good look deep into your own eyes and truly tell yourself why you love you and really feel it coming from your heart there's nothing else in that room except for you and that mirror and your eyes and your breath breathe in to give yourself life through your nose exhale getting rid of all the crap in your life to give you more life to feed your body's organs the love that it needs through oxygen your breath is your best friend you don't need anything else at this moment except for it and yourself and the truth about how much you love yourself because once you truly love yourself you'll say f*** all that drama there is no drama in the world that is worth anything at all ever if somebody brings drama into your life walk away because they're going to hold you back from being who you truly are that's what drama is for it's to bring us all down to keep us down so we can't take a good look at ourselves and breathe in that fresh oxygen to feed our. Heart body mind soul spirit all the positive things in life that go of all the drama you know you'll never give up on men and why would you because one day when you let go of all the negative all the positive will start coming around

we are our thoughts. The things that we think of happen because we think of them it is energy everything on this planet is energy you call in what you want and you call and what you don't want by being negative and having drama let go of all the drama love yourself love everything about you let everything else go for today and tomorrow until you find yourself and you know you're right there.

You say should you give up on them and why the guys pretend they don't pretend when did you start feeling this way back when all the way to today it's because you've held on to it let it go start something new something refreshing something that makes you happy positive thoughts we are our thoughts


We both know that you're getting closer and closer to becoming exactly who you want to be and what you want in life but you're not going to get there until you let this drama go so smile and tell yourself what you want become that thought become that moment and love yourself

[Summeroflove]

Seems he’s using you no not all men are bad but there are some you shouldn’t waste your time on…. Being single is however better then being in a miserable relationship.

I don’t think he’s meant to be if he all the sudden likes too because of appearance changes but yet he’s going out with other girls and won’t respond to you. He doesn’t seem worth your time at all.

[naartjie]

Eddy is not the one for you and I hate that for you that people keep bringing him up. He could be a really nice guy but some people are JUST friends
Devin is also not the one for you.

[Asker]

I keep telling my family and friends that Eddy and I are JUST FRIENDS!

Plus Devin and I worked things out.

[naartjie]

Devin still most likely isn’t the one for you but what do I know. You could be the Monica and chandler for all I know.
I hope this Devin guy explained who he was with in full detail and has set up a wonderful day for you this Valentine’s Day.
I still stand by Eddy not being the one for you- I’ve been there and had a friend people always told me would be perfect but you literally only see them as a friend and nothing else- ever.

[Asker]

Ahh I see. Yeah it’s so annoying that people think that person is good for you but what if it doesn’t work out?
I don’t want to ruin my friendship with Eddy. My parents need to stay out of my love live. They like Eddy and they know he likes me and prefers me to be with him but it’s my choice. I don’t know why my dad is pushing me to date him. I don’t want him thinking we’re dating.

[Asker]

As for Devin, we worked things out.

[Anonymous]

No, you just need to find the right person for you.

[Asker]

We worked things out

[Anonymous]

no, marry me!