Isn't this a form of cheating or not?

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So my boyfriend was messaging other females calling them gorgeous saying how he wants to get to know them and take them out on dates. I just found out when I see a message on Facebook with the person responding after he deleted all the messages saying she was free next weekend and I messaged her and she screenshot all their messages and sent it to me, I then had her message him again asking to hangout sooner and he said yeah and after that she blocked him.

DaveJord · Accepted Answer

So here is a good read, I had a similar experience, and the woman insists that they were just freinds, and that I was being a creepy processive and controlling boyfriend. But the truth is no the fck I wasn't. She was playing both sides of the fence. So, the truth is that when you are in a committed intimate relationship with someone you form a emotional bound. Both of you are responsible for protecting that emotional bound, because it is based upon trust. When on or the other is taking actions that threatens the essential trust to maintain that emotional bound, then yes, it's a form of cheating. People think as long as they do not have sex with someone, they are not technically cheating, but the truth is on an emotional level they are cheating. They are violating your trust on their actions is threatening the emotional bound you that you have with them.  So should like this guy may or no may not be cheating on you physically, but he is taking actions that makes the future possibility of him cheating on you more likely, and you should be very concerned about that and rightfully so. because he is taking actions that violate your boundaries and scene of trust.  For the record, given the woman I have dated... they have a much harder time with this then guys do. For every one woman that shows an interest in men, there probably 10 other guys that are more than willing to give attention to another woman. So, women are confronted with it 10 times as much as men, and they fck it up all the time. because let's be honestly it nice and flattering to get attention from strangers.

D_Bone_Steak · Accepted Answer

Yeah that's cheating. If it's not agreed upon by both of you that it is acceptable behavior... what else is it? I view a relationship as a sort of verbal contract and it sounds like he's breaking it with you. Now if you two have never talked about being mutually exclusive to one another... just why is that your boyfriend and not the friend with benefits?

Think about why you gave him that title. You must've had some sort of expectation out of him like not actively trying to hook up with another woman... right? Like if you told him that's cool, then that's one thing, but if he's stepping on your boundaries that even you have upheld for him and expected him to return the favor for you... then you better start communicating in the relationshit.

Anonymous · Accepted Answer

LOL! 😂 I think he cheated multiple times. You really think this is the only time he’s gone behind your back? Because you caught this one ☝️ person talking to him?

You need assume that’s this happened 6 other times 😂😂 Always assume the worst. Because usually IT IS worse.

I wouldn’t even confront, I’d just disappear with all my belongings. No hi 👋🏻 or bye. Just say you found someone better. Don’t even let him know what you found out 😂🖕

NotTacocaT6969 · Accepted Answer

Yes.  He didn’t cheat yet technically, but that’s planning to cheat.  If the cops found someone planning a murder, they wouldn’t just let them get away with it though would they? 💁‍♀️

AviatorTom · Answer

You already know the answer. It's a form of cheating.

Summeroflove · Answer

Yeah that is cheating emotionally

FifiJones · Answer

Boyfriend is meant to mean a never-previously-coitused/married male who is your friend. If you coitused/had sex to mutual orgasm, you married already, just did not register it.

If you have neither married nor engaged to marry it certainly isn't marital cheating.

if you did not consummate marriage yet but plan to, nothing stops you from proposing marriage to him. If you don't intend to do so, it's legitimatelly his decision to look for a girl who might.

razelove · Answer

I'd consider it less cheating if someone got a hooker compared to trying to start another relationship.

In case I'm not being clear, yes, it sounds like cheating, or at the very least, every intention to cheat. What do you think the outcome would have been if it was another woman who would have followed through? A come to Jesus moment?

loveslongnails · Answer

" So my BOYFRIEND (?) was... saying how he wants to get to know them and take them out on dates."

You're really asking this? NO, it's not a "form" of cheating, it IS cheating. Unless you are in an open relationship where you've agreed to date other people, what else would it be? If he's just flirting and then ghosts these girls, doing it for thrills, then he's fucked up anyway. Either way, you should dump the guy now. You have zero future with him.

Sweety_Torneeya · Answer

Sweet girl, beautiful girl you are tricked by a player very badly. Sorry to hear this its very painful to know about your loved ones that they are cheating on you. May you heal yourself as soon as possible. Dont let him to make you fool my dear 👸 princess. Get ride of him ASAP. ❤️

miadee · Answer

Yes. It is totally cheating. He's gonna dump you as soon as he foung someone else, he is looking for it.  You're his placeholder.

Miristheiss · Answer

Yes.  He is a lousy boyfriend and is trying to keep all of his options open. I wouldn't blame you if you dumped him.

Gothicprincesssoph · Answer

100% disloyal and I would say emotionally he has cheated, physically if you hadn't of found out then he would have or maybe has done previously.

Anonymous · Answer

Yes. I would smash his nose if I were in your place

TomMarks · Answer

Yes, he set up a date with another girl, deliberately. Yes, that is very much cheating.

EmmaMary · Answer

Obviously you've gone past your " Best Before Date " so he's binning you for something more fresh!

ColHathi · Answer

Man, it was cheating before he even agreed.

Paris13 · Answer

Cheat Sheet. Dump is Ass. He won't Change. xxoo

In_Trance · Answer

Yeah, that's offside. I don't know why you haven't dumped him

LovingJo · Answer

Yes hun. It is. Because he wanted something other than you. 🫂

TaureanBull81 · Answer

He didn't physically cheat however you know where his mind was at 😜

zagor · Answer

It's a form of attempted cheating that was unsuccessful.

Britney04 · Answer

Yes if they gotta keep it secret from or hidden to me is cheating.

Nikki1989 · Answer

Yes, he is cheating.

R3V3RS3PROXY · Answer

It’s not cheating if he went in through the backdoor.😌

MementoMori777 · Answer

Yea that's obviously cheating

Gent207-2 · Answer

Does it hurt you? Then yes

Wise4myage · Answer

Yes, definitely.

Razp_Sorbet · Answer

Yes. That's emotionally cheating

Finchie40 · Answer

Ummm yes big time , you need to dump his ass

RavVid · Answer

Did you follow up with blocking him too? Should.

dreamstar72 · Answer

You should have dumped him yesterday

LiamJHayden · Answer

The intent is clearly there.

Sarah2023 · Answer

Definitely a big yes

TheFlak38 · Answer

How many men do you message and flirt with?

Luckycharms12 · Answer

Planned to cheat so ya

whorable · Answer

girl dump him.

Anonymous · Answer

What dumbass have to ask this question?😂

Greenbins · Answer

Cheating is sexual intercourse only.

Boomchakalaca · Answer

Obviously

brandon1122 · Answer

That's cheating

Jdjfjcjj · Answer

Yes it is

exitseven · Answer

Yes it is cheating

tfcwiseguy15 · Answer

Yes it is.

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