Why do I stop liking a guy once I go out with him?

[cuppycakes14]

okk well I don't know what's wrong with me buuut I mean at 1st I really really like that guy but then like 2 weeks later I don't know what happens I just stop and I don't feel comfortable anymore, I would even try to avoid him which I felt bad. I talked 2 my friends but they didn't get me, they understood me in a different way or idk. I've gone out with this same guy like 3 times, but it always ends because of my stupid feelings. and then some time later I start 2 like him again! uugh this is driving me nuuuts! any advice?

[freeview]

Hey, Take a read of what "A-Soldiers-Wife07" says below and it holds (what I believe) is the key to the problem ... it's not that you have a problem, but the guys ur going out with don't know yet how to keep you on ur toes or keep you interested.

I used to have similar issues (only from a male perspective) when dating. While women wouldn't dump me, they would often become frustrated for no obvious reason. Now I understand it was because I didn't keep the attraction going. In ur case, it seems like he can't keep the attraction going when he's around you (maybe he spends too much time around you or gives you whatever you want when you want, so he's no longer a challenge). When you stop seeing him, he becomes a challenge once more.

The nicest thing you could do for this guy is to tell him to look up what REALLY attracts women ... even if it hurts him now he will definately benefit from it in the long run. When I say "really attracts women" I'm not referring to the nice-guy ass kisser that women say they want and then get bored of. In my experience, women want a man who can lead a relationship to keep it fun and interesting, making them feel loved and wanted and allow them to completely express themselves (they need someone supportive). Women also want a man they know is in control of themselves and every situation, but is confident enough to allow them to grow as people.

These are my 2 cents. I hope it comes in handy :-)

[Anonymous]

I'm the exact same way. I lose interest in someone within days after I date them or start a relationship with them. I have Asperger's Disorder, so I think that's part of the reason. Other than that, I just think I haven't found the right person, or I might just never attach to anyone.

[A-Soldiers-Wife07]

You know.I thought I was the only one like that! When ever I would date a guy, the IDEA of him was more interesting than him himself. Being with him.I always wanted to shoot myself in the head because he drove me nuts. But when I wasn't with him.I was able to conjure up ideas that if maybe he did this or that, things would be different, and I'd find myself attracted to him. It didn't end until I finally kinda took control of what I wanted from the relationship. If I wanted this, I'd go for it. I also was the type that got super bored with a guy easily.and fast. Then my husband came along and WOW still on a crazy ride with him! He definitely keeps me on my toes and interested. I think it all boils down to your probably either thinking of this guy on a certain way, and that's just not who he really is. Or your just not with the right guy yet. Trust me.when the right guy comes along.you'll definitely never stop being interested ;)

[Angie35]

That is EXACTLY what happens to me O.o Sorry it happens to you too, but I'm so glad it's not just me. These other comments were helpful.

[futurelvmpdemployee]

You are still a kid, so you are exploring the differences. Its ok