I've been looking in my answers for the past ten minutes but the search system here is so messed up it's hard to find my old answers back.
There was a girl with a similar situation.
But to answer your question, allot of people want what they can't get and when they get it, the whole fun of the chase is over and their like "is that it?" and drop it to look for the next interesting challenge.
You're the kind of girl that wants to chase a guy around...I don't know you but I think you would want to date a player guy who constantly flirts with other women and who's never really "yours" but just "making time in his busy schedule to be with you once in a while".
Guys like that are always a constant chase and cat and mouse game because theirs always the risk of you losing him to other women (since he's wanted and always flirting and or cheating or dating other women openly) so you have to put in more effort to keep his attention.
I really think that's the kind of guy you naturally feel attracted to.
Girls like you like to play with fire (guys that might cheat easier, or who have women around them all the time who want to sleep with them) and like to have a guy that's wanted so they can show them off and be like "yeah! he's my man! Big fat fish bitches!" whilst always being on the watch out for other women who get to close.
You would get SOOO bored if you dated a regular guy who's always their for you, doesn't flirt with other women out of respect for you etc and you most likely end up getting bored and annoyed by him because he's so available for you...he's always there for you and thus, not a chase.
You need a guy with a very active life and who you never really can tame :D
I guy like me hahaha :D
BTW I'm just guessing from what you're saying and from what I know about people lol so if what I say isn't true don't take it personal.
My guess, you want guys to like you. It gives you a sense of self worth. When you think they are not interested that makes you more "obsessed" with them. Once they like you then you already have what you want so they are no longer interesting, because you don't really want them, you just want them to want you.
B/c you want "what you can't have." You're the type of girl who goes after guys if they reject you at first because you like the "challenge." I think it goes hand in hand with having low self-esteem. I have friends like that and they have low self-esteem. They see girls with guys and they want that guy not because they are interested in the guy but they want to see if they can steal him away from his girl, they want to be "better" than every other girl. It is a self-destructive behavior that you really need to grow out of.
it could be what the girls said before me. it could also be that you are either scare of or don't really want to be in a relationship. you can't help but be interested in a guy when you think it's safe (ie/ he's not interested) but when he becomes interested you shout "woah! hold the phone. I don't think I want this."
Either possibility.
You might just like the satisfaction of being able to get the guy to be interested in you, and then when you find out he is... you lose interest because you know you can get him. It happens a lot when a guy is after a girl mostly... There isn't a challenge anymore... and subconsciously, that might be what you like.
Because you liked him a lot and you didn't see him making a move so you moved on and maybe he moves in a slowr pace and he was just getting started... that happened 2 me I am tierd of waiting for him 2 say somthing or show me he likes me but hey is their loss
wow...im the exact same way! I hate it! but voodoochild seems to have a good answer...it makes snes elol and sounds fun..which is horrible. crap ><
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Omg sounds like me. You are seeking attention or affirmation.. Get some self assurance
You liked the chase or are afraid of commitment
You like the chase.
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