Why don't I care about being rejected anymore?

[Anonymous]

When I was younger in my early to mid 20s, I used to get very sad when I didn't get cute guy's attention. I knew I am rejected without even asking them out. I used to feel really bad about it. Now that I'm older, I just don't care. At the end of the day, I feel like it doesn't really matter to me any more but I can't figure out the reason why I feel this way. I no longer feel bad any more. As I've gotten older, I have also realized a lot of guys simply aren't even worth my time.

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I also feel like I'm less desperate for a man's attention as I get older.

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I am actually more attractive now than 5 years ago. Though I get rejected less, I care way less about it than years ago.

[Cynicaldreamer]

Good for you! And you basically answered your own question, "As I've gotten older, I have also realized a lot of guys simply aren't even worth my time."

And you're right for feeling that way! You're at the point in your life where you don't equate dating or your relationship status to your self worth. It's not a bad thing. And don't let anyone, including any of the trolls on here, tell you otherwise.

I used to be the same way: I used to think me being rejected meant that I was unattractive, unwanted, undateable, doomed to be miserable...

It passes. Because you start reassessing what's really important in life and your self worth. And see your friends, family, and coworkers that are stuck in unhappy relationships or marriages because they settled or thought being in a relationship was a necessity.

If someone's worth your time and energy, that's fine. But don't let your life revolve around it.

[Asker]

Over the years, I've met countless men who ghost, use deceit to get girls into bed with them, don't have the most basic manners or social etiquette, plain rude, mental issues. They may look decent, how exactly how many of them are really worth my time?

[Cynicaldreamer]

THIS! Girl... don't get me started; we'd be here all day swapping stories.
There are decent men out there; I know there are. But I'm too tired and over it trying to find one right now in my life. I focus on my job, health and wellness, and being happy. Less stress, no drama, no worrying about if I'm being lied to, played, or wasting time.

Even some of my friends and coworkers applaud me for staying single saying it's easier than dealing with a relationship.

[Asker]

@cynicaldreamer

just be careful when you say someone is a "decent man". There are many guys out there who are extremely good at pretending to be sweet , nice, caring. But they're capable of doing the most evil things. I just met a guy who was like this not too long ago. He was the sweetest, most caring, thoughtful person ever UNTIL i found out he was a sexual predator just trying to deceive me into having sex with him. I trusted him with everything because he was so nice. It ended up being one of the worst mistakes I've ever made.

2 of the nicest people I've ever met hurt me the MOST in my life.
Never trust first impressions.

[Asker]

Evil can be disguised under a kind, cheerful, caring, pleasant facade. It comes in all forms. Evil might not always look or seem evil.

[MementoMori777]

Because you get used to certain things, you just adjusted to the rejection and now you just don't care

[teamvic]

Maybe you've gotten use to being rejected is become numb

[Asker]

I don't think I'm numb. I still feel a lot of other emotions. Not numb in any way

[David4358]

this is what happens when you mature, you start realizing the true important things in life. If a guy doesn't like you then he doesn't like you, so what?

[AngryCarl2]

As you get older you find you're less at the mercy of your hormones.

[Asker]

Im more sexual and hormonal now than 10 years ago

[AngryCarl2]

Cool, enjoy it while it lasts.

[mommymommymommy]

You're used to it. It no longer hurts as much as once did

[mommymommymommy]

As we get older we start to realize that we are more than just who we like or who we're liked by because we have more responsibility. How we're going to pay the bills, basically. As opposed to when you're in high school, when it's all about "who you're dating", and "status"

[Asker]

I do still care about dating actually. I do occasionally go out to meet men.

[mommymommymommy]

I never said it stops, I said it becomes less important

[Asker]

i think dating has gotten more important for me right now than 10 years ago

[mommymommymommy]

Yikes