Am I unable to deal with rejection?

[Anonymous]

Well, recently, this new dude started working at the office where I work. Initially, I didn't even flinch at the guy, I wasn't particularly inclined toward him at all; so I didn't really make conversation with him. Although, I did realize many times that he went out of his way to greet me every day.
So, one day I noticed the dude studies at the same university that I do, so I proposed that we wen together, he accepted and we ended up talking for about an hour or so. I have the impression that I annoyed the guy AF (I'm very talkative) and ever since I can't stop thinking about him...
I mean, he's not particularly attractive to me at all, I wouldn't ever consider him a good-looking guy, or even a remotely interesting/nice type dude... it's just something else. He's got an appeal that I don't quite get. I believe that the thing is that I feel challenged by the guy's attitude as if I have to convince him that I'm not annoying (?) trying to make him like me or something... It could also be that I noticed the guy isn't interested in me at all (as I was regarding him initially) and I can't handle rejection and I'm projecting it in the shape of attraction? I don't know, please tell me what y'all think of this.

[Anonymous]

Yep you got it. AND players will use that against you. Its a common tool. Go to a woman, tell her something amazing about her, then a negative thing. This will make her need to qualify herself to him.
Also watch out for phrases that have "imagine" in it. Thats a strong tool too. If he uses that a lot you know he is playing you.

[Asker]

OMG. 😳
You think he’s purposely doing it? Jeez, that makes A LOT of sense.

[Opinion Owner]

Don't know for sure. But it is likely. Even if he is not it is a common thing. This is why bad boys are so atractive. They 'Don't give a $#!+" and then we think we need to prove our worth.
Also a strong reason women stay in abusive relationships where they will never get that final bit of approval they need to walk away.
NOW I am not saying he is this kind of man. He might be fantastic. I am only pointing out the psychology trap that can lour people in where they don't want to be.

[Asker]

That's truly elucidative. I just realized today everything I've been doing to get his attention, it's good to know better where I stand I guess.. even though I can't be sure if that's truly what he's purposely doing.
Thank you so much for your help!

[Opinion Owner]

Your question was about dealing with rejection. So I hope that illuminates that aspect of why you might be doing what you don't seem to want to. Its very smart and telling how in tune you are to yourself. Always keep that questioning attitude. If something does not feel right it is smart to step back and find out what, why, and who. Often you will learn much about yourself.

[spartan55]

Can't handle rejection from a guy you don't even like, so it gets projected as attraction towards him...
Kinda fucked up nonsense is that?

[Asker]

I don't know dude, that’s why I’m asking y’all…
I get it, it sounds stupid. But it does kinda make sense to me, people usually want what they can’t have. So, if I feel like my guy isn’t interested I get interested because I like the challenge of trying to make him like me🤷‍♀️.
But I don’t know if that’s it, I’m theorising as y’all are doing …

[spartan55]

But. you. don't. even. like. him

[Asker]

I don't know if I do though 🤷‍♀️

[Anonymous]

Rejection is meaningless. There are a million guys out there for the choosing.

[Asker]

You're right. The issue is mere that I can't seem to understand if I really like the guy, or if I'm just trying to prove him/myself something by persisting in this nonsense.

[Iron_Man]

I don’t blame you I can’t handle rejection either I always think that I have a shot

[Asker]

Wait... so, you don't think I have one? lol
I legit don

[Iron_Man]

I just read your headlines but of course you always have a shot if you’re attractive I’m not talking about you

[Asker]

I see. Thanks for your comment. I'm seriously confused...

[Iron_Man]

Sooner or later you’ll find out

[Anonymous]

Um, u need professional help.

[Asker]

Thanks for your help, I guess?

[Guy13]

Not smart…

[Guy13]

I can’t believe this woman has no more of a clue to exhaust me on first date…can’t piss her off though…Grad school is challenging sooo ought to be able to get around her that way. I was a RA/TA at that time…. Juniors are supposed to know better. That’s the not so nice truth but you know it already.

[Asker]

I don't get what you mean. You think I'm overanalyzing everything because I'm exhausted with school? lol

[Guy13]

I think your “talkative” equates to 😵‍💫😵‍💫😵‍💫. Annoyed I believe was the descriptor that you mentioned….

[Asker]

I get it now lol
You do think the guy isn't interested. That's a bummer
Thank you for your comments

[Anonymous]

You’re a woman.

[Asker]

Yeah.
What does that mean?

[Opinion Owner]

It means you’re a woman.

Do with that what you will.

[Asker]

Misoginy maybe? Lol

[Asker]

You need chill dude, I know I’m a woman already that’s what I told y’all by registering in this fkn website !!!