When do you think is the best time to bring up your thoughts on controversial subjects in a relationship like religion or politics?

[Still-alive]

First date, may as well get it out of the way as soon as possible so they know your stances

After a few dates and you've gotten to know each other more and possibly feel more comfortable

after you are well into the dating phase but before being in an official relationship

sometime during the relationship is fine

some other time (say when)

Its not necessary to talk about this really

It depends (please explain)

Updates

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on a date i meant to say in the title!

[ShadezMcgee]

Politics are without a doubt the worst and stupidest thing to talk about on a first date. That is something you save after you are a few dates in and on the brink of becoming exclusive. Too early, you show that it is a very important thing in your relationship that will take precedence, even more than other things that should be before it.

With how touchy politics are, someone even mentions ill of one politician or supports one ideal that the other doesn't? You are automatically the enemy of the radical side you hate. Doesn't support abortion? How dare they! Alt right fascists!

Wants stricter gun laws? They are gun hating liberal retards that hate law abiding citizens!

Really. No point for that bullshit out the gate. Wait until there is mutual respect and rapport before having serious talks about that because then you at least know other parts about their personality that may be more important than something trivial like politics that have become way too entrenched in one's life and priority list. Didn't have that conversation with my girlfriend until we became exclusive. Probably one of the best decisions we made as a couple.

[LiamJHayden]

Religion fairly early, because that is a deep worldview issue. Politics when it looks like it is becoming serious, because it is too easy to judge someone as a one-dimensional person because of that.

[rosemilk]

there was no need for us to do so as we are not religious or political people. politics especially should not really be brought up if you want a happy relationship lol it's no one else's business who you support politically. religion is another story.

[Still-alive]

I disagree with you on the politics part… it depends of course but i won't get into it.

[Mimi_758]

well in my case i talk to my partner in the beginning so we both are and will hopefully be on the same path going forward, but it really depends on the person tbh

[BoobMan]

I think it all depends on how important it is to YOU. I personally don't care too much about what most people believe about most things. I have all kinds of friends who believe all kinds of different things and it doesn't bother me. So I wouldn't really focus on bringing anything in particular up unless it was relevent to something we were already doing or talking about.

[AdithyaR]

Personally I'd like to get religion out of the way on the first date. I'm an atheist and I understand that most believers wouldn't be open to dating an atheist so I'd rather not waste their time. Plus I wouldn't want to be with someone who's overly religious as well.
Same thing with politics, for better or for worse, political alignments and opinions often are telling of a person's worldview and morals.

[BrookeAZ90]

Well, if you're both mature adults, you should be able to handle people disagreeing with you on those topics. So it shouldn't matter when it comes up.

[Lowiu]

I think as soon as possible like there are some absolute red flags I would like to know as soon as possible before I waste any more time

[menina]

I would say after a few dates when you already feel comfortable with each other. I think it's not too soon nor too late for that kind of conversation.

[GoodGuyBreakingBad]

After you are well into the dating phase but before being in an official relationship

[findacure4wokeness]

I let every one know straight away so I know whether or not I want them in my life.

[Unit1]

😂

Don't ask, don't tell. That's my motto.

[shades777]

Generally I'd already know if we meet through a dating site and you can infer someone's values after speaking with them.

[Agent_Elflord]

After a few dates, so you don’t waste each other’s time if you aren’t compatible.

[tiajoka]

I guess it really just depends on how important those things are to you.

[Sparkie460]

The subjects will come up eventually. Let it happen naturally

[Guardian45]

Get comfortable, then drop the elephant in the room!

[Curiositygrrrl]

Too contentious for a first date. It’s awkward enough already!

[LazerBean]

First date, no need to waste time.

[SaoirseS]

Just let it come up naturally, and it will.

[Pete671]

When it feels right imho,

[AsaKyo]

Never