Why is it that I go on many dates, half the time kiss and fondle each other & enjoy the date but never get any further than date 2 or 3?

[Anonymous]

I’m always respectful of boundaries and only carry on with kissing etc if she’s clearly enjoying it.

[Anonymous]

There can be many reasons why you may not progress beyond the second or third date, even if you and your date are enjoying each other's company and physical affection. Some possible reasons could include:

1. Different expectations: You and your date may have different expectations for the relationship, such as whether you are looking for something casual or more serious. If you are not on the same page, it can be difficult to move forward.

2. Compatibility: While you may enjoy each other's company and physical affection, there may be other areas where you are not as compatible, such as interests, values, or goals.

3. Timing: It may simply be a matter of timing, where one or both of you are not ready for a committed relationship or do not have the time or energy to invest in one.

4. External factors: There may be external factors that are affecting the relationship, such as distance, work or family obligations, or personal issues.

It is important to communicate openly and honestly with your dates about your expectations, boundaries, and intentions, and to be receptive to their feedback as well. It may also be helpful to reflect on your own needs and goals, and to approach dating with a mindset of curiosity and openness, rather than focusing solely on a desired outcome. Ultimately, relationships are complex and multifaceted, and it may take time and effort to find the right match for you.

[Asker]

Did you write this?

[Opinion Owner]

Yes I did

[Asker]

That’s funny because I just typed my question into chatgpt and it came up with exactly the Same response.

[BungusHighFivePizza]

Maybe blur the boundaries a bit? Not cross but just kind of blur it. You know. Put your foot there. Just see where the real boundaries are.

[Asker]

What do you mean?

[BungusHighFivePizza]

Say you are kissing each other. Your hands can wander a bit.

[Asker]

I do that.

[BungusHighFivePizza]

But not lead to bedroom? I'm also confused then.

[Asker]

Yeah it doesn’t lead to bedroom. We just part ways. Do that 2 or 3 times then I never hear from them again. Confused why.

[BungusHighFivePizza]

I might be too old for this case. Haven't been in the dating scene for almost 15 years now. My bad. I really thought I got it figured out but your case got me so confused.

[Asker]

How did you do it in your days?

[BungusHighFivePizza]

Secure woman when she kisses back. I am in charge now. Sounds kind of rapey the way I put it but of course I abort mission immediately if she shows any sign of resistance. But I take over after that. I don't leave it to her.

[Asker]

Don’t think it’s acceptable these days

[BungusHighFivePizza]

I feel way old now. This is only way I really know. Only other way I know is peacock way. Like you don't do much but spread your feathers. Attract all the girls just standing there.

[ColHathi]

I was gonna let you know that JasonDaMan generated his response with ChatGPT, but I see you're way ahead of me ^^

[Anonymous]

This may shed some light...

https://www.youtube.com/embed/iwPYM4QFBnc